The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...

Monday, 8:25 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...

QUESTION:

Hi I am a recent subscriber of your E Book. Really Interesting and Useful and also give me confidence and Positive thinking,Thanks a lot...

I am a Clerk in an independent Convienient store in Fl and I have a lot of Chances to meet girls in the stores untill now I ve been a very nice person thinking that that will attract them and I can find someone good, but It lead me to disappointment and I am tired of trying that I have Implemented your Advise and working on which is Really working , but I don't have the proper words or Ideas to Flirt with them.

Everyone comes to the C store are good and I have a good chance to meet and I dont wanna lose it, Please give me some Ideas, suggestions to flirt and how to talk to them.

And also I am New to this Country and State and Culture So kindly give me your valuable advise.

S from FL

CARLOS: Here's what you do:

Sit down with a pen and a piece of paper. (Or do this on your computer, if you want to feel "high-tech").

Take 5 minutes to list all the situations you find yourself in where you talk to a woman on your job.

Examples:

1) Buying a coffee
2) Buying gas
3) She needs to use the restroom

Etc.

Now what could you say in each situation that would be "flirtatious"? (Or, as I preach, TEASING...)

1) Coffee: "Hey, you know I heard that drinking too much coffee in the morning could make you drive too fast. Do I need to alert the highway patrol?"

2) Gas: "Are you the one driving the Ferrari? The Porsche? The Lamborghini? What? You don't have an expensive sports car that breaks down every 10 miles? I'm afraid I can't serve you." With a smile.

3) Restroom: "Watch out for the monkey," you say as you hand her the key. She'll either look at you weird or say "huh?" You say, "Yeah, just ignore my pet monkey. I keep him in there to keep the bathrooms clean, but he usually just sits in there and reads comic books." (If she doesn't laugh, pause quietly and say, "I was kidding. Lighten up.") With a smirk.

I just made those up in a couple minutes. Freebies.

Also, watch a little of the trashy television programming we have here in this country. I don't usually recommend this, but since you're new here, it will allow you to pick up on the quirks and humor in our culture. Consider it a graduate class in American pop culture.

Pick up a few of the magazines on the shelf there and use the headlines as flirt tools. "Do you think Ben Affleck should just drown Jennifer Lopez and get it over with? Aren't you tired of hearing about them all the time?"

Now you do the work you need to and memorize them, and invent at least a few of your own. Try them. If they work, keep 'em. If they don't, chuck 'em. Your words will always work better than mine if you can cop the right attitude.

Trial and error, and you'll get to the goal.

And, to be quite honest, you'll need to improve your English to the point where you're more comfortable and confident with your communication. That's just something you have to work on.

But do the work you must to get where you want to be.

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QUESTION:

I may have gotten your ebooks too late, I have already made some mistakes. I have an emotional investment (I know, mistake, I got the ebooks too late!) with this girl I met online back in december and we've been on 4 dates now recently, the past 4 weekends. But I am fearing becoming a "best friend."

She was doing the "I think it was meant to be that our paths have crossed" thing but things aren't moving along during dates, physical contact has been limited to minor hand holding a just hugs. I think she's starting to see me as her best friend, and I have no interest in this. I need to somehow send her the message that I'm not interested in being friends, I only want a relationship.

I think I'm going to take a signficant risk soon and do the first kiss thing, I think thats the only way I can send this message of I don't want to be best friends, do you agree? Can you think of another approach or test?

I am having a very difficult time being "funny" for her. She has a typical female "silly" type sense of humor that is politically correct and doesn't cut someone down. I'm a corporate america type humor guy, which is male dominated and completely based on cutting people down, ripping on other people, and humor at the expense of others.

I know from your audio coaching and just common sense so I bite my lip anytime I think of something funny to say because its always a "slam" joke and girls hate that. The net result is that I'm not funny for her, the silly thing doesn't come naturally for me but I can learn quickly. Are there some books you could recommend for me that have tips or can advise me on how to be "clean/silly' funny for girls?

Thank you for any of your suggestions in advance.

-R

CARLOS:

First of all, it's NEVER too late. It's only too late if you never LEARNED anything from the books.

"Too late" thinking is SCARCITY thinking.

And I'll caution you the way I would any other guy - don't place too much importance on ONE woman. It's distorted thinking, and it perpetuates the belief that there are only so many women in the world you'd be able to be with. There are MANY, and that will open up for you now that you have the e-books.

I think you're right that you didn't amp up the charge between you two at the start. You're in danger of becoming terminal "friends."

If she's talking romantically, but not taking any action or there's a lack of fire and heat, this is usually the case.

If you haven't done so, you need to start increasing the charge between you right away. Start with some nice teasing and joking with her. Get her out someplace fun and non-standard. (Drop the dinner and flowers thing if you've even gone there.)

The only thing I'd caution you about is that you don't want to wait too long before that kiss, but you do want to set the right precedent for it. In other words, don't wait around for it to happen, but MAKE it happen, and do it in a way that you'll be pretty sure she'll return it.

There are a few tests for this you can do, like the one in the book, as well as testing her by watching her reaction when you whisper something to her.

But on the topic of humor, you've got a great place to start to work her at traction.

Women love a sense of humor.

The trick of being funny is not trying TOO hard. Most guys think they've got to be a Jim Carrey to be effective with women, but the truth is that women WANT to laugh, and will help you wherever possible. (Unless you're REALLY lame.) They laugh at some pretty dumb stuff. In fact, I've got a joke going with the girl I'm seeing that I'm going to throw her some occasional dumb jokes on occasion, and she's just going to HAVE to appreciate them.

Do you hear the attitude in that?

Do you smell what I'm cooking here?

First, don't tell dirty jokes. I'll assume this is common understanding for most guys. Suggestive jokes can be good, at the right time, but avoid joke-telling period, unless you're good at it.

Second, just observe what's going around you

Third, use exaggeration. Take something to a silly extreme for comedic affect.

Example: She's a lawyer and you're eating lunch. The fries taste strange. (Or they don't and you can pretend.) "Hey, these French fries taste weird. I think they cooked them in motor oil. Can we sue for that? Would you represent me? Or are you going to pass me off to Johnny Cochran?"

Example: Her car is big. "Wow, this thing is bigger than Arnold's Hummer. You ever think about getting it converted to a Limo? I guess that would mean shrinking it a little, but you get what I mean."

Take something to the extreme and find something to compare it to for silly affect. Easy tool for humor.

The best humor merely points out the things that are already obvious, but no one knows how to notice and point out in the right way.

Even if you're not the funniest guy, you can still pick up on what's going on around you for laughs. Just avoid the negative "angry" humor, and PAY ATTENTION. The funniest stuff is already happening around you every day. You only need to train yourself to spot it.

Let me ask you something -

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- Carlos

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