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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Monday, 7:00 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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ANNOUNCEMENT!
Well, it may have seemed like a long wait, guys, but it's finally here...
November's Advanced Audio Coaching Session is now available...! Over 100 minutes of audio with Carlos, describing your essential strategies for increasing your success with women:
Session 2 is ready!
With over 100 minutes of content, as well as a bonus pre-date cheat-sheet PDF and an index so you can find the topics you want to review in a flash. This month's session is even better than last.
See the end of the email for details on the contents of Session 2...
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QUESTION:
The DBB kicks ass my friend and will certainly help recovering nice guys everywhere !!
A general question about the initial dating dynamic (on a rather philosophical level) and not a specific dating question quite yet :
What percentage of women, in your experience, after having their attraction mechanisms initially going wild because of the Alpha-Male characteristics that you've taught us to reclaim for ourselves (and for women), still need the special assurance of "It's really me, that he�s after, and he's not bedding every hottie that crosses his path" ?
Are the Alpha-Male behaviors enough most of the time to override her need (perhaps perceived on my part) to feel that special feeling of being pursued??
I ask that question, because one always hears here in Germany the saying, "Women want to be conquered". I always considered that to be some silly German clich�, but is there any truth in it ?? Do some or all women along the dating continuum need to feel that yes, it is truly her that we are pursuing before they can open themselves to a sexual encounter ?? Damn, I hope that wasn't a "nice guy" question, because re-reading it, it certainly sounds like one...... :-)
Keep up the good work jedi-master
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CARLOS: Ah, yes... I remember when I used to spar with Yoda in light saber duels... Did you know Yoda used to be a real player?
(And I'll forgive your "Nice Guy" tone... Heck, I think we're all "Nice" at heart, but need to learn the right way to show it to women.)
First off, let's set one thing straight:
It's not your job to give reassurance.
That's a tempting trap when you get to a certain point in the seduction process with a woman, to think that her doubts need reassurance. They don't. Nor is it her job to reassure you. That sets up an insecurity dynamic that can really get things off on the wrong foot.
When you switch gears into reassuring her instead of pursuing the increase of her attraction, you drop the ball.
The best analogy I have for this is baseball: It's like being at bat, and then trying to get into the pitcher's head. You have to focus on one thing and one thing ONLY - hitting the ball. Let her do her job, you do yours. You are only there to respond to the pitch as it's thrown and swing accordingly, not try to change the pitcher's thinking. Make sense?
That switch in thinking here that leads to an error is when you stop focusing from your position of power, and start the people-pleasing that turns women off. It is a form of approval seeking to reassure a woman that you're "not a player."
However, you do have a legitimate concern that this may come up as a concern of hers. It might. If you let her go too long without the playful interaction that drives up her sexual tension, she's going to have a rest period where she will start to second-guess herself. She'll want some doubts calmed. But you should NOT address this directly with words. Only with actions.
Here's a rule to live by in dating and seduction: Women will give you what you want when you give them enough of what THEY want.
You're absolutely right: Women DO need to feel UNIQUE. They must feel that you are addressing their personal uniqueness before they will go further with you. If they sense that you are treating them as an object - or just plain COMMON - they will back off and disappear.
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How do you make them feel unique?
1) Focus your attention on THEM. Not on the waitress' 38DD rack. Not on the booty of that cutie. Not on anything but HER. (Just don't turn your Manson-lamps on and give her a freaky psycho stare. Make it clear that SHE is important enough to warrant your focus of attention.)
2) Use her name. The most important word in the world to anyone is their own name. Use it. It's commanding and personal, and it works wonders with women.
3) Express an interest in things that are particular to HER. Her family, her background, her interests. Just don't go crazy with your questioning. Lean back and find one topic she seems to be especially excited about, and then pounce on that one.
(I'm going to recommend a book here that most people have heard of but few appreciate: Dale Carnegie's - HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE. It's old, but it's a must-read.)
Let me state the cardinal rule: To gain trust - BE TRUSTABLE. It starts with your integrity. Don't expect women to fall into bed with you if you're being devious. Start with your own character.
Just don't think that TELLING her will cure the problem. And don't assume it's there when it might not. (That's just a bit of natural insecurity. We don't want to give off that "player" vibe.")
Women want you to make them feel special, and if you do that right - with sincerity, she'll never question whether or not you are trying to play her. Start with a sincere interest in other people, and you will have no problem making her feel like opening up to you.
Which leads me to this: You know that women are getting more and more picky about men, and they can sniff out inferior guys with just a whiff of your confidence. And to stand out you MUST have the edge on the other guys out there. You need to be a REAL MAN, not this sissie-fied cartoon man that the media sells you.
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My e-book gives you the information and skills to get the women YOU want. Not SETTLE FOR.
There are so many things you have to have down pat in the singles world.
Like, how do you NOT screw it up in those vital first couple minutes of meeting a woman?
You've heard me say this before: Getting laid is not about getting "lucky."
It's about having the right knowledge and understanding up front. Women are actually WAITING for men to date and sleep with, if you'll just give them the right reasons WHY they should be with YOU. It's deliberate and on-purpose, not subject to the whims of chance and fate.
BE the kind of man they are waiting for. That's all they ask of you.
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I've worked for years to break down what it is that women are trying to tell you with their behavior, and finding out the hard way why being a "nice guy" is dooming you to failure.
You need this knowledge and understanding.
When you have that knowledge, you can make better choices and demonstrate better behaviors.
When you demonstrate better behavior, you will get better RESULTS.
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Where do you go for the information you need?
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And the advanced audio series is also finally ready to help you build on that knowledge and take your success to the extreme. Imagine having a coach giving you tips, strategies, and a complete breakdown on how to improve your technique and success with women - first hand. You can listen to this audio RIGHT NOW on your PC or Mac, and you can even use your MP3 player to take the learning and go mobile. Put it on your i-pod!
The monthly audio series is over 90 minutes of advice and explosive tips, and it's available for download at:
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You see, the first 30-60 days of any dating relationship with a woman is THE most volatile, since almost ALL the mistakes are made here. If you last past this point, chances are you'll be able to keep her for as long as you like.
If you've ever found yourself saying, "I don't understand women!" then my e-book and audio coaching will finally give you the knowledge you need to finally understand. It's like getting a book that shows you how a certain magic trick is done that has fascinated you for years. You get to peek behind the scenes and learn how things REALLY work.
I remember when this realization hit me, and how excited I was. I stayed up that night writing out how I'd use the knowledge to improve my dating life. It wasn't until years later that I got around to writing the book on it, but I finally did it. And now you can download all these priceless strategies right now at: /ebookstore.htm
Is there ANYTHING else worth learning more than how to be successful with women?
If there is, you should let me know... because your priorities may be a little whacked.
-C
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Listen to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
tactics and techniques in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner game.' From
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- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
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- The Dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
valuable advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many, many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
about anything. And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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