Dating Advice for Men - How to Approach Women, Attract Women, and Dating Advice to Meet Girls

CARLOS XUMA -
DATING ADVICE FOR MEN NEWSLETTER:

The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...

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QUESTION:

I have a question for you: Working in the music industry, I meet tons of gorgeous girls everyday. Most of them seem to like me and send obvious signs my way, BUT because I run my own company I have almost no time for the dating game and simply can't spend the time with a girl that would make her feel that I'm geniunely interested in her.

You talk about dating other women next to the one you're really interested in - that's something I can't even dream of even though the "material" is right there for me. It's really sad sometimes... If you know what to do please let me know.

CARLOS: Gee, that's gotta suck. Women, women, and more women. It's like working in a candy store, eh? Hang on while I play my violin... :-)

As with anything, where there's a will, there's a way... And as you will know from my newsletters and material, I believe every perceived disadvantage has in it the seeds of a greater success.

First of all, figure out what time you DO have available. What I've discovered in my life, as well as others, is not that we don't have time, but that we don't always use the time we have as well as we could.

There are many odd minutes throughout the day where we shoot the breeze, or waste time doing things that don't need to be done. We kill time all day long, and that's really killing your LIFE.

Here are some examples of time you might not be using:
- Commute time on a bus
- Smoke or coffee breaks
- Lunch hours
- Television time
- Time spent in lines at the grocery, or DMV, or coffee shop

Yeah, it's going to sound very "90s", but you have to do some time management. A few minutes here and there add up.

I don't know your schedule, but I do know that no one can work ALL the time. All it takes is a couple hours a week to date a woman. (And realistically, you don't want to date her more frequently than this in the initial stages, or for at least the first couple months.) Figure out how best to use this time.

Find an hour or two, or even the occasional lunchbreak (twenty minutes?) to start having regular mini-dates. You might have to start with a smaller increment of time, and then give her the opportunity to promote herself into the more valuable off-hours of your life. Use your mini-dates to audition women, and reserve your precious free time for the best candidates.

Use scarcity to your advantage. (Review this section in the Dating Black Book e-book.) Your un-availability will make it easier to acquire the desirable persona that women enjoy. You won't be clingy or needy, which will only improve your overall success.

Having a REAL reason to forget to call her or not have the time for a woman (rather than a phony reason) actually helps you in many ways. You have real distractions in your life, and that's healthy. Not to mention NOT making women the primary focus of your existence.

I can see that you understand what I say about not focusing all your attention on one woman, even if it seems impractical. But there are many ways of doing this, and not all of them require you to actually DATE several women at a time. It's how you focus your ATTENTION that puts your attitude in jeopardy.

For example, take Billy-Joe. He's been dating the same woman, Suzie-Q, for about two months, and he's even happy to just be with her. But he also realizes that if he drowns his world in Suzie, if she's the only woman he focuses on, he's going to start behaving like a total chump. He'll start sending flowers and writing poetry all the time.

Not that he can't do this when he's in a relationship, but there is a terrible tendency in men to drown a woman in attention too soon, when they get that initial feeling of lust and novelty in their relationship. He'll smother her, and she'll run.

What should Billy-Joe do?

He should keep giving other women his attention. Billy-Joe flirts with every woman he meets. He still gets phone numbers, even if he might not have the time or interest in calling them. He keeps his eye sharp for the opportunities around him. He might get a couple women to accompany him to lunch on occasion, to hone his teasing and challenge skills.

You don't have to actually date every woman you meet. What you want to do is keep your belief level high enough in yourself that you understand (at a very basic and fundamental level) that you always have OPTIONS.

You believe you're good enough with your internal game that you never lack for female attention.

Without this belief, you fall prey to the better-than-nothing syndrome, where you keep a woman because you believe that you cannot do better - that your options are limited.

You want to build up a strong aura of attraction between you and all the women in your life. You do this by consistently creating POSSIBILITY.

Start getting interactive with women. Don't let your perceived lack of time stop you from jumping in the game. That's a cop-out. Get teasing and flirting and challenging them. Get on the field.

Then, get their phone numbers. You'll feel more empowered when women start asking you, "Hey, why didn't you call?" instead of you running around thinking that about them.

Then, start asking women to take YOU to lunch in return for a little of your precious time. "You know, I'm all booked up this week. But if you want to drop by the office and bring me a sub, I might like to hear more about your plans to sing a duet with Nickelback."

Then, when she's really starting to shine for you, then you can offer her an exclusive two hour slot on Saturday. Your "prime time."

By this point, she'll feel the scarcity principle at work. "You know, I'm impressed with your perseverance, Suzie. I'll tell you what - I'm open for an hour this Saturday. How would you like to have a great conversation?"

Where you take it from there is up to you...

Time is the name of the game in dating. You have to maximize every minute you have with a woman.

Would you like to know how to really wring every possibility out of every encounter?

It's time to stop shrugging and time to start learning. If you don't take the reins of your dating life, you're going to end up with the scraps from the tables of the guys who are getting the women they want. I don't know about you, but I'm not a Beta dog. I want to show you all the Alpha Man strategies.

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