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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 1:35 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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Note: Just a note that this is a continuation of a counseling session I was having with this student of the Dating Dynamics. He was trying to meet a woman who went to the same gym.
QUESTION:
Hi,
Thanks for your reply. I appreciate it.
I did meet her today. In the gym. But this time, I was little smarter. I knew her course will end in couple of minutes and I went in the hallway just in front of woman locker room. There was some sort of information board with descriptions of pilates, tae-bo and that sort of thing. I was pretending that I was reading that, but actually I was waiting for her to appear.
When she appeared I said "Hi". She also said hello, and I asked her what was her name. And then she finally STOPPED! :-) I introduced myself to her (She has nice name :-) and we shaked hands. I started to talk about her course and differences with my course (where she was before).
She accepted that and we were chatting for a while. There were lots of other girls in front of the woman's locker room (where was I thinking before! :-) and they were ALL staring at me. But I was feeling kind if dominant and wasn't scared. And then happend something that I'm still pissed off for.
One bitch from the locker room grabbed her hand and pull her in the locker room and slammed the door, BEFORE I asked her for phone number. I didn't think it would be appropriate to open locker room door and ask her. So, now I have to wait for next opportunity. What a BITCH!!
Anyway, I think I might be going somewhere, she was nice and was looking in my eyes when she was talking to me.
Any tips, Carlos? I didn't think that having dominant attitude is so important with woman. Thanks for that. If you think that you have something to add please be quick because I have feeling that I will see her again soon.
Thank you again.
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CARLOS:
Yes, that woman cock-blocked you. That's what it's called when a woman blocks your success out of her own petty jealousy.
First of all, every single one of those women who watched you doing that in front of the door ADMIRED you for doing what you did. I would BET MONEY on that.
Women love that kind of balls (and other kinds, too, yes), and that was fantastic that you did that and went for it.
NO FEAR.
Excellent, my man.
Let me give you an example of how cool that is that you just took action...
Over the weekend, I was involved in a promotional event at a children's fair in my area. I was able to sit back and watch a group of trapeze artists as they did tricks. I do have one thing to say about that - thank the heavens for spandex and leotards. Yum.
So there was this cute blonde with a booty that would make Sir Mix-a-lot do a double-take.
Yeah, I'm talking a very nice booty.
So I'm sitting there with a couple other Alphas, and we're admiring her ... cough ... form, and talking some great talk, but no one's walking.
So I said, "Enough, guys. I'm going over there." I got right up from our booth and started walking over there.
My fellow alpha jumped up (not to be outdone) and said, "Wait up!" We both hiked over and started a conversation with her. "So you guys are located in Oakland, huh? What ages can go to your school?"
She opened up and checked out our shirts to see where we were from and that we were from a martial arts school. She helped us a little bit with keeping the conversation going. Two of her friends came over to get introduced as well. They could smell the activity and wanted in on it. I was very gentlemanly and introduced myself to all of them, shaking their hands and talking to them. I let cute blondie know it wasn't ALL about her.
Now, of course, at some level, she knew why we were there. We wanted to check her out up close. We didn't come over there to really find out about her school, but that's the comfortable pretense that we used to start the conversation. And, as long as we looked comfortable with ourselves and what we were doing, SHE FELT THE SAME. Same with her other friends.
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We talked a little more about their routine, and razzed on the long-haired guys that did the trapeze with them.
Blah blah blah. We joked with her a little more and talked more small talk before we excused ourselves back to our booth. I decided I wasn't interested in pursuing her, and my friend already has a committed relationship, so that was that.
Now what is the moral of that story?
All that talking in that booth about this pretty gal didn't amount to ANYTHING until we went over and DID SOMETHING. All it took was walking over and saying hello. That's 90% of the game. Just DOING something. And that's invaluable in this game.
Now what you witnessed when that woman pulled your target away was the kind of jealousy and pissy behavior of a woman who is either angry at men, or angry that she can't get laid herself. Plain and simple.
So she pretends to be doing the right thing for her friend by "protecting" her from you. What she's really doing is meddling and being a nuisance to her friend, under the disguise of "helping her."
Sad. So sad.
But it will happen from time to time.
Still remember - what is worth getting mad over:
Something you can control?
Or something that you cannot control?
Since you couldn't help her from blocking you, here's what you do next time.
ENOUGH with the small talk. Just get her number and let's get this thing going in the direction it needs to go.
The longer you wait past a couple minutes or so, the incredibly high probability that she's going to be -
1) Distracted
2) Bored
3) Yanked away by her bitter friends
In fact, I suggest you don't wait beyond 30 seconds if you possibly can. You'll be safe, and it will get right to the point. She's waiting for you to ask her at this point, anyways, so it's just the next logical step.
Isn't it amazing how important that dominance really is in winning women? They smell this ability on you as if you were wearing "Dominance" cologne.
You have to be assertive. Even "aggressive" with women.
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Do I mean grunting and dragging her off by her hair to your cave?
No.
Do I mean getting angry and yelling at them?
No.
You have to jump in and just be willing to take ACTION.
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Thanks...
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