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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 8:45 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT!
Before we get to the questions this week, I have to let you in on something FANTASTIC we've added to the Dating Dynamics materials.
Guys, look... I know you want more information. After you've covered THE DATING BLACK BOOK, your hunger for more skills is just beginning to growl. Especially after you begin to really "get" what the Dating Dynamics strategies and understanding do for you.
You guys are the ones who dare to learn information that MOST men NEVER will. You demonstrated the confidence and discipline to improve your dating life. And once you know the Truth, there's no going back. The newsletters are just a taste of the wealth of information contained in The Dating Black Book. And now we're about to add even more.
I had to drop you guys a note just to let you know about something really fantastic that I know a lot of you have asked for. And, well, it's finally here...
The ADVANCED AUDIO COACHING SERIES
DD Publications and Dating Dynamics (along with Seduction Method) have put together an awesome audio training series, and the first Session is ready for you to download.
With each session, Carlos Xuma will cover all the skills that matter to you for improving your game. From motivation to skills, you'll get explicit, humorous, informative strategies that will put you light years ahead of the other guys out there.
Session 1 covers:
- Planning for seduction - how to prepare your house for her visit - lighting and sound choices
- The essence of Relaxed Confidence - and communicating self-confidence to women
- Online Dating - how to use it effectively to get tons of dates - with specific ad examples and transitioning from contact to the first meeting - including the exact text of his introductory email that at least doubles your reply rate
- Multiple streams of women - how to optimize your dating strategy for a dating calendar that is always full
- Verbal and Non-verbal communication with women
- The two attitudes that translate into success
- The most common first-date mistake, and how to avoid it
- How to use female competition to your benefit
- How to handle her test questions
- Which women you should avoid - with one very simple test
And MUCH more...
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You can actually go to the site and download the program TODAY. Right this minute.
I wanted you to have the earliest opportunity at ordering. You see, due to some bandwidth limitations with our current hosting provider, I will only be able to process a limited number of orders. After the members, I wanted the readers to have first crack at the new series.
I chose the MP3 format despite concerns regarding piracy because I wanted to keep the cost of production low for you, and subsequently the cost of the program low, too. You'll also be able to download them right NOW, rather than waiting for a week for CDs to ship. I'm taking the risk for you, because I know how important it is to get you this stuff, quickly and easily.
I hope you're as excited as I am about this, because this is absolutely KILLER information for your dating and seduction skills. And I can only offer this introductory offer through the month of October. So you should order by 10/31 to take advantage the unbelievable promotion we're offering here.
Visit the site and listen to the sample audio...
Check out the details right now by clicking here:
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If the link doesn't work in email, copy it and paste it into your browser's address field.
We'll be building on the fundamental principles of THE DATING BLACK BOOK, so you'll get the most benefit by having that manual read and understood. However, the strategies in the audio series will be unique, and men of all experience levels will benefit. Guaranteed!
So get over to the site and take a look - you'll be glad you did:
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Remember, this offer will NOT last. No sales gimmick. This is an introductory offer, and it's only good through 10/31/2003.
QUESTION:
Thanks for the extra Q&A 0 what a great supplement to the Dating black Book! I have a question regarding the "I Love You"...
I've been dating this girl now for 3 month and we became really attached. I think she has really fallen in love with me. The bad thing is she will leave the country to work abroad soon without any prospect of coming back. Having been in long distance relationships I can tell this doesn't really work for me. Also my girl starts telling me more frequently "I Love You" recently, which does not make things easier. I know it has to end soon, so I never respond to this because I don't want to hurt her later. What should I say? Do you have an idea how to handle this situation appropriately since I really care for her and do not want to be too brash.
(NOTE: for those of you who aren't aware, The Dating Black Book program now includes an additional e-book on Q&A examples of real situations.)
CARLOS:
This situation is always tough, because a good guy will feel a bit guilty about the difference in interest. I'm not sure how old your gal is, but she may be hoping for some romantic odyssey of love where you propose and go overseas with her. You have no idea what fantasies she might be entertaining rather than the ugly possibility of ending it with you. (And you already know the scoop on long-distance romances from The Dating Black Book and your own experience.)
My advice would have to be that you sit down and tell her exactly how it has to be as soon as possible. It can be difficult because you don't want to crush her, but she will eventually understand the situation. Don't put this off any longer in the hopes of keeping the sex flowing.
The longer you wait, the harder it becomes on her - and you. Truthfully, somewhere inside, she's probably expecting it from your behavior. Ultimately, you'll cause more pain by waiting and being uncertain than if you end it cleanly now. This will also help you in the future when it comes time to be decisive and end something with another woman.
Remember, you have to be the MAN. Be decisive and firm, but gentle. She does not have the power to do this right now, so you will have to. Ultimately it will always be better for you in the long run to be the one to end it.
You reinforce something critical to your long-term success with women, and it links right to the core of your confidence. The bottom line is that only a man who is truly confident about his skill with women is able to break up with a woman, because he knows there are more fish in the sea. Do you fear loss, or are you enticed by gain?
As much as we hate hurting another person's feelings, it's always better to show the strength and honor to do the right thing. She's a big girl and can take care of herself. (Remember, as I coach you in the book, be mindful of her feelings in how you phrase your reasons - don't make it her fault - and follow the break-up steps I suggest.)
And, as a side-lesson in the power of differing interest levels, I'm sure you're seeing how your pulling away has made her start to work harder to get assurance of your feelings. Interesting, huh?
As soon as she felt the distance and gap between you start to open up (no returns on her "I love you"s, etc.) she started to pull you in more. This is what all guys should keep in mind when they manage to hook a woman who has some interest in them. Stepping back when you've established some interest gives her the space and freedom to pull you back in.
QUESTION:
hi i was out the other weekend to a new bar that a friend of mine dj's at thought something different. i meet this girl i know from work and we were really hitting it off. about mid night or so a girl that had broke up with me comes in with a bounch of her friends. she acts all jealous of this other girl. keeps asking me who is this, what are you doing and so on. so i brush her off a little and don't really say much.
then at the end of the night she wants to know what i'm doing if i'm going somewhere else. i didn't really give her an answer. then she tells her ride to go, and asks me if i could give her a ride to go somewhere else , and i didn't have any entensions of leaving because i has hitting it off really well with this other girl. so being the nice guy i am i gave her a ride. do you think i have any chance with the other girl even though i let her hanging, and left with my ex instead.
CARLOS:
It seems you're playing the sucker for your ex girlfriend again, my good man. You're letting your familiarity (and probably some hope of getting back together with the ex) cloud your judgment.
Let me just point out the single most important thing you said in your email:
"so being the nice guy I am I gave her a ride."
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And look where you wound up... She took YOU for a ride instead. That's what being a "nice guy" does for you. (But we both know it wasn't just nice-ness, now was it?)
Ask yourself some critical questions here:
1) Why didn't you tell your girlfriend to buzz off?
2) Why didn't you see what was going on and put a halt to her manipulations?
You know why your girlfriend did the things she did. She didn't have to have YOU give her a ride, now did she? Why do you think she told her ride to go?
She pulled your strings just right, and you were her puppet again. She just wanted to stop you from getting with this new girl by cock-blocking you with her manipulative tactics. And guess what?
She won.
You lost.
No sex that night, huh? Not even from the ex, I'll bet.
It's great being the Nice Guy, huh?
Quite frankly, after being suckered into that pathetic display of ex-girlfriend "Yes, dear" behavior, I don't think you stand much of a chance with either of them. But if you want to turn it around, you should simply go ask the new girl out and pretend that nothing happened. As long as you weren't rude in your departure with your ex, she might have interpreted the situation as just another woman in your life that wants you. (Which would normally be good.)
And if you have to explain, just tell her you needed to help out your ex in a time of need. Don't answer apologetically whatever you do. Own up to the choice you made.
Again, it all depends on how you cut it short with the new girl as to whether you can go back. You say you "left her hanging," which does not sound like you explained yourself well. Hey, at this point, you've got nothing to lose.
The best thing you can do now is emotionally learn the lesson this whole experience should have taught you. And never forget it - or repeat it.
It's actually more important to be smart and fail than it is to be dumb and succeed, because those easy successes never TEACH you anything. And guys are notoriously thick when it comes to repeating dumb mistakes.
Women, on the other hand, are well versed in the rules of romance. Just the way that your ex-girlfriend managed to manipulate you out of your shot with that girl.
Ask yourself: When was the last time you got advice from someone on how to avoid an ex-girlfriend's cock-block routine? How to help you get a new girl's number? How to get her to accept a date? How to get a kiss at the end?
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Women get this advice ALL THE TIME.
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Is there anything more important?
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