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CARLOS XUMA -
DATING ADVICE FOR MEN NEWSLETTER: |
The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Thursday, 2:30 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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"Carlos: I just purchased The Dating Black Book and I think it is phenomenal ... after reading the first 47 pages. You are right on about the internal game..." - L.B.
QUESTION:
Hey Carlos,
About a year ago I purchased your book, 'The Dating Truth', and I didn't really read it through the first time. Now Im serious about making a girlfriend cuz Im 23 and never really had a girlfrnd before.(or that many dates or women in my life)
But I've been going through alot of rejection and starting to think that its kinda unfair cuz none of my friends actually went and applied all the stuff that Ive come across on the internet and ebooks but their still more successfull with girls than I have been.
Like the other day, a girl turned me down for my email request.I like to go up to girls working desk jobs or in customer service cuz they're usually pretty hot but I havent been getting anywhere doing that.
Then I decided to go to a club and use cocky and funny much as I could- I went up to a girl pointing at my watch like I was going to ask them what time it was and then I said, "Its time f or me to talk to you." Then I say. "Hi how are you?" She says, "Fine how are you?"
me: Do you really care?(sarcastically)
her: yeah
me: Great! Thanx for asking(sarcastically)
me: You know if you ask me to buy you a drink or dance with me I might say yes....
her: Im tired. I gotta get back to my friends
-anyways i got turned down numerous times and I was trying real hard to act calm and smooth without showing any expressions on my face and was pretty sure I was doing everything right to the best of my abilities. My question to you is if whether Im not using cocky and funny right cuz alot of gurls are just not responding to it like I thought they would.
Also, how much rejection should I get used to taking cuz its kind of irratating sometimes. My question is also about 'cold calls'(hitting on strangers) Do they just not work? Cuz most of my friends usually just hook up through friends of friends and I beginning to think cold calls are just a big waste of time.
Thanx,
SB in Seattle
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CARLOS:
Well, I hate to put it like this, chum, but it doesn't sound like you really read the e-book at all. First off, the title is The Dating Black Book. Second, you're not really using the information. None of the strategies you talk about were given in the e-book.
There are many approaches to women that are popular out there right now. I use a combination of teasing with a little humor and "cockiness" to get the hot women riled up.
But I can tell you right quick what is not working for you. Here goes:
1) You said "I was trying real hard to act calm and smooth."
That right there is a problem. You're trying too hard. RELAX. She's picking up a freaky, unnatural vibe from you. I could just from your email. You sound panicked and frustrated, and that's the time to ease off and breathe a little.
2) Sarcasm is not the same as cocky and funny or teasing to please. Women don't like sarcasm. You need to warm them up a little. Build RAPPORT. (Session 11 of the Audio Coaching covers Rapport building in detail. I suggest you get it right away. It's available for download here: /session11.htm)
3) Read the e-book again. You're missing quite a few of the points and strategies that are given in there. Specifically, re-read the Dating Continuum section, and the chapter on "Meet." That covers the full process of meeting women.
4) Never tell a woman you'll buy a drink for her. That's just like kissing her ass. Instead, try TALKING to her.
Remember, women want a "sweet" guy. That means NO bitterness or sarcasm.
The good news is that you are still going out and handling the rejection, staying in the game. That kind of persistence does pay off. But you have to make course adjustments along the way. Chill a little, and get rid of that sarcastic edge.
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QUESTION:
The issue of getting a pretty much random chick to flash you came to my mind. Sometimes they may get a boob job or something, and be bragging about it, or they may be wearing a skimpy top showing cleavage, etc., and you want to get her to show you. How should you go about getting her to agree to this? (If there is a way :)
CARLOS:
Well, that's a new one, so I just had to put this one in the newsletter...
So you want to get a little booby flashing, huh? Playboy not doing it for you?
I hear you. Real boobies are much more enticing.
Well, this usually is only a consideration at Mardi Gras in New Orleans, where the ladies at least get a trophy for their flash.
But it does bring up an interesting concept of female self-awareness.
You see, it's acceptable for women to show their chest at Mardi Gras because it's an ESCAPE.
Women are looking for an escape from the regular confines of the social pressures to be prim and proper and NOT slutty.
So when they can get crazy and drunk and lose their social inhibitions, they're going to leap at the chance.
I just checked online tickets and you can get flights to New Orleans for less than $200 from most major cities.
But seriously folks...
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For you to get a woman you're hanging out with to do this, you have to employ some really strong challenging to get her to do it. Here are the steps:
1) Find a woman who is obviously proud of her knockers and start talking to her. (You'll know she's proud of them by how much of them are on display.)
2) Show NO attention whatsoever to her breasts. Not even a GLANCE.
3) Bring up, in a casual way, how it's important to you that a woman looks good and has a nice figure. Start dropping names of women you think are attractive (movie stars, etc.) Glance at her. Give her a "scan" up and down. Make sure she sees it.
4) Get her to tell you who she thinks is attractive (in women)
5) Get her to tell you what she thinks of her own body. And then ask her what she considers her best feature. If she says her breasts, it's time to rock. If she doesn't say her breasts, keep her talking about her "assets" and wait until she finally gives in and says her breasts.
6) Take a glance at them, and then look back at her face and shrug. Tell her "I've seen better." If she seems offended. Work it. She's just testing you.
7) Change the subject. If she keeps on it, smile and persist on changing the topic. Start talking about situations where she has felt liberated and free to do what she wants. Get her talking about her ability to be who she wants to be.
8) If she presses the topic of her tits further, tell her, "Look they're okay, but they're fake, aren't they?" If she lets you change the topic, you'll come back to it by looking at them with a skeptical eye. Then tell her, "So those are fake, aren't they."
Lead her away from the crowd. Take her by the hand and go somewhere a little secluded so she can give you a peek without being watched. Then tell her, "Show me."
From here, you go into a little more teasing, and then maybe you'll get a proof-squeeze, or a flash, if you're really sharp with your tongue.
But if that were the case, you should really be going for more than that. You should be trying to get some private time with those blouse bunnies.
Don't expect her to just flash you those headlights without some really smooth talking. If you're not in New Orleans at the right time, you may have to settle for something a little less difficult. It's hard to be as cocky and teasing as you need to be to call her on her crap and get her to react the way you want.
Can you do that?
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"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
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