The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...

Thursday, 10:30 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...

SESSION 12 is here!

We just brought Session 12 online for you guys today, a day early. Here is some of the great stuff in this session:

Advanced Audio Coaching Session 12:

- Setting Goals to be the person YOU want to be - How a life of adventure and self-actualization works to make you attractive to women.
- Stepping Stones: How to avoid getting caught in the trap of looking for "signs." Approaching women effectively and with the right attitude. Why it doesn't matter if you're her "type" or not. How to double and quadruple the number of women you date.
- Body Language - How to effectively interpret her signals and indications of interest. From eye contact to posture. Knowing when she's really into you or when she's giving off fake signals.
- First Touch - How to handle the first time you touch her on the date or meeting. How to avoid turning her off, and knowing where to touch her.
- First Kiss - Handling the first kiss effectively, including style and performance, as well as timing and execution. How to know when she's ready to be kissed. And how to make that first kiss memorable.
- RAPPORT - The single most important factor in building trust with a woman. Techniques for building rapport, and how to know when you've achieved it. Pacing, mirroring, and eliciting values. And the three stage rapport model for leading her further into attraction to you.
- Insider tips - How to avoid appearing like a "player." Adding in the Human Factor. Presenting Laid back confidence. How to leverage the power behind the supernatural in her romantic beliefs. The "I See You" tactic for breaking down barriers and establishing deeper rapport and acceptance.
- The Four Quadrant Principle of Communications - How to understand her communication style, as well as understand your own. How to use the two levels of Internal/External and Direct/Indirect to further your seduction. The critical differences between male/female communications, and how to adapt to her style.

And that's just part of what you'll find in this month's session!

Guys, you really need to get these audio sessions every month possible. We're going into exercises and new content every month that is absolutely the best stuff you're going to get out there. There is no better value available anywhere. Just read the testimonials at the site if you don't believe me.

You can see the COMPLETE table of contents, and download this month's session here:
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AND I just wanted to let you know that all our products are now available via PAYPAL. The e-books and the audio programs are now available for quick payment and download via Paypal.

QUESTION:

Hi you have given great advice so im hoping you could help.

Just insulted my LTR in public. ( it was a real bad one) She went totally nuts and we left the restaurant without even eating. She was crying uncontrollably all the way to her home....

And now im in shit obviously.

I told her i thought she was a cheap slut from the day i met her and she has only reinforced this opinion which was pretty cruel and uncalled for.

It was a special day and she was in a mood that was typical female behaviour. In my mind i was like NOT TODAY!! dont follow "the book" for just today. And i got frustrated and just blurted it out. since she always says thats what im thinkin

I think she really felt it was the unhappiest day in her life and that she would now never want to see me again.

she made me promise and begged me to never look for her again..... to let her lead her happy life without me judging her all the time ( yeah i was judgemental)

I really feel guilty though since it really was my fault and any ideas on how to make her feel better would be useful.

Any advice would be useful thanks

- WC

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CARLOS:

Well, you're probably not going to like this response, but it's going to be the truth. And the one thing most people don't get enough of in their lives is someone telling them the cold, hard truth.

First of all, yes, it is your fault. You mistreated her.

Second, you asked how to make her feel better, and you already know.

Do what she asked of you. Leave her alone.

Your guilt is your own problem now. There's a saying: You made your bed, now you have to lie in it.

You see, you're not really trying to make HER feel better. You're trying to make YOU feel better. Big difference, my friend.

You're feeling guilty, as you should be.

If you want to do something, here's what you do: Send her a card with your deepest regrets, and an apology that would make Saddam Hussein cry.

Then move on, dude.

You see, this is how obsessions start, and then stalking, and then a prison sentence. And then you'll write sad love songs about the cheap slut you lost from a lack of controlling your mouth.

Women want men with SELF CONTROL. It's an absolute must. If you read my e-book, I go into gory detail on this trait, and the others that will help you from making this mistake again.

QUESTION:

Hello! Carlos! Whats Up? Hey Carlos I was curious. How is a quick way to get a chicks number lets say passing by her on the street or expecially in traffic and you dont have time for a conversation do you just say hey let me get your number? Is it that simple.

Also could the same rule apply to any situation because Carlos what im trying to say man is that I dont want to waste time beating around the bush. If I get a number I want it to be short and sweet or if I get rejected I want it to be short and sweet at least till I build my confidence up more.

Carlos my problem is is that I feel kinda freaky and feel like they think Im kinda freaky causeIm mean you talk to a girl say 2 to 3 minutes and then you already ansking for a e-mail or phone number it seems so personal and wrong to me I want to break this thinking man could you help me out help me feel more natural at this.

Also is it true about repeating your goals over and over again the subconcious mind shit. Does it really work. I think it could or does but I just want the facts. Thanks Carlos. You the man! The head Enchilada! You ever come to Texas man fly into big "D" drinks on me, I live about an hour from there south. I'm not rich but that doesnt make me cheap. I bet if I party with you Id have more (chicks tail) then Id know what to do with.

They'ld be on me like Hot Pants on a cheerleader.

Well Thanks Carlos! W.

CARLOS:

Ah, yes, the big "D." I love the Dallas/Fort Worth area. If it weren't hotter than tropical asphalt there most of the time, I might come live there. The cars are big... the buildings are big ... the hats are big... the women are... Wonderful!

Next time I'm in the Lone Star State, I'll come party with you guys...

First off, you have the right attitude about getting numbers - you want to get in and get out without wasting your time or energy on the prospects who aren't what you're looking for. The faster you get through the "NO"s, the sooner you can get to the "YES"s.

Let's hit a few of your questions.

1) YES, you can change your thinking by repeating your goals. It does work, but you have to know how to do it. And it also involves shutting off those voices in your head that try to sabotage your success.

If you were to write down your top ten goals for this year (JUST write them down, don't argue with me, or ridicule the notion) you would find that at the end of the year, without even really trying, you would have obtained many of them.

THAT is the power of commitment. In fact, I go into detail about this in my new program, "Secrets of the Alpha Man." Watch for it... it's coming SOON...

2) You're feeling freaky, and that is being transmitted to her, so she's going to feel weird. You have to make this process natural. Until you can get over the sense of "OH MY GOD - I'm talking to a WOMAN!" you're going to weird her out. So, yes, it's going to be weird to talk to her for 2 or 3 minutes and then get the information.

It's all in your MIND. All our pre-conceived notions are what hold us back. Instead of believing that she's going to be weirded out because you want to see her again, try this belief on for size:

If she's interested, SHE will want to get in contact with you, too.

So how else will she do that? She's sure as hell not going to ask YOU for your number or email. So it's up to YOU to take that step.

And before you shoot it down, you need to DO it a few times so that you see that it can be natural to ask a woman for her information. I do this all the time, and it's not hard to get a woman's number in a few minutes - AS LONG AS YOU DON'T ACT LIKE IT'S WEIRD.

She's looking to you for how she needs to feel. She will either feed off your insecurity or your confidence.

Guess which one will work better?

You got it. The CONFIDENCE always works.

And if you want a quick way to get her number, try this:

"Hey I saw you and I had to let you know that you have a nice energy about you." Blah Blah. Say Hi. Ask her for her name. Then, after whatever she says, you say, "Well, I have to get going." Turn away, then turn back. "Hey, we might want to continue this conversation sometime. What's your email/phone number?"

It's THAT simple. I CHALLENGE you guys to try this 50 times and not get AT LEAST 25 numbers (just do it without an air fear about you.)

Women are WAITING for you guys, and every one is hiding behind a fear of rejection. If you only knew how many women are just dying to go out with a guy right now, you wouldn't hesitate.

(HINT: SHE is just as nervous as YOU, in most cases.)

So stop thinking of all the reasons it won't work, and just do it. Then it WILL work.

It's all about using your strengths and attitudes to communicate an ALPHA MAN attitude to women.

And what are the best traits to demonstrate to a woman so that she becomes interested in you?

You know that women are getting more and more picky about men, and they can sniff out inferior - also known as "NICE" - guys with just a whiff of your confidence. And to stand out you MUST have the edge on the other guys out there. You need to be a REAL MAN, not this sissie-fied cartoon man that the media sells you.

My e-book gives you the information and skills to get the women YOU want. Not SETTLE FOR.
You can download it here:
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There are so many things you have to have down pat in the singles world.

Like, how do you NOT screw it up in those vital first couple minutes of meeting a woman?
How do you introduce yourself to her without coming across like a dork?
How do you take her out without spending a fortune and getting just a kiss on the cheek and a "let's just be friends!"

You've heard me say this before: Getting laid is not about getting "lucky."
Luck is not a factor.

It's about having the right knowledge and understanding up front. Women are actually WAITING for men to date and sleep with, if you'll just give them the right reasons WHY they should be with YOU. It's deliberate and on-purpose, not subject to the whims of chance and fate.

BE the kind of man they are waiting for. That's all they ask of you.

I've worked for years to break down what it is that women are trying to tell you with their behavior, and finding out the hard way why being a "nice guy" is dooming you to failure.

You need this knowledge and understanding.

When you have that knowledge, you can make better choices and demonstrate better behaviors.

When you demonstrate better behavior, you will get better RESULTS.

My e-book -THE DATING BLACK BOOK- will help you get all of that ... and then some.

Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.

Where do you go for the information you need?

THE DATING BLACK BOOK has the complete breakdown of the dating scene, and it's ready for download right now, no matter where you are or what time it is in the world.

Download it here:
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And the Advanced Audio Coaching is also ready to help you build on that knowledge and take your success to the extreme. Imagine having a coach giving you tips, strategies, and a complete breakdown on how to improve your technique and success with women - first hand.

You can listen to this audio RIGHT NOW on your PC or Mac, and you can even use your MP3 player to take the learning and go mobile. Put it on your i-pod!

The monthly audio series is over 100 minutes of advice and explosive tips, and it's available for download at:
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You see, the first 30-60 days of any dating relationship with a woman is THE most volatile, since almost ALL the mistakes are made here. If you make it past this point, chances are you'll be able to keep her for as long as you like.

I remember when I figured out what these mistakes were - and how to fix them. And how excited I was. I stayed up that night writing out how I'd use the knowledge to improve my dating life. It wasn't until years later that I got around to writing the book on it, but I finally did it.

And now you can download all these priceless strategies right now at:
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Is there ANYTHING else worth learning more than how to be successful with women?

-Carlos

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