Dating Advice for Men - How to Approach Women, Attract Women, and Dating Advice to Meet Girls

CARLOS XUMA -
DATING ADVICE FOR MEN NEWSLETTER:

The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...

This is especially true for women who learn from an early age that they are supposed to be like Cinderella or Snow White, who find their Prince Charming to sweep them off their feet and take them to the palace forever.

Disappointment follows when they realize the myth they were sold was a Disney-induced hallucination. Not only that, but that isn't even what they REALLY want.

So am I down on Valentine's Day?

No, not really.

We need holidays to pull our focus away from the routine of everyday life, and get us to attend to the ideals we often overlook.

Sure, most holidays have been turned into rather commercial nightmares. Christmas has become a lot less about giving and goodwill than it is a buying and selling frenzy for kids. Valentine's day is about candy and flowers for the woman, and maybe some gratitude sex for him.

But what is it REALLY all about?

I believe it's a ritual of APPRECIATION.

Valentines Day - despite all its historical origins - would have been created in some form and kept alive by women who wanted to be appreciated by their men. What most men don't understand is HOW to appreciate them in a way that women will respond to and enjoy.

(I'm talking to the guys out there that aren't in a long-term relationship (over 3 months.) You guys have a different balance to strike.)

For the guys who are single looking to find women, you need to understand that women need a different kind of appreciation. It isn't in the form of buying her tokens of affection or love poems, either. That's what's so darn confusing about the dating scene: You get mixed messages ALL THE TIME.

- She needs to appreciate your confidence, control, and fun. She wants to appreciate what you bring OUT in her, rather than try to GIVE her through meaningless gifts. You've got to be DIFFERENT - more different than the 90+% out there that are just winging it through the dating scene. Most of those guys don't understand women, and they don't understand that they need to learn from a reputable source.

Hey, look at it this way: If you DON'T have a woman (or many women) this Valentine's day, don't beat yourself up. You don't need a woman to make you happy. And if you do NEED a woman, you're not really happy. I know that sounds cliche, but it is essential to not let other people be your frame of reference.

So I'm going to ask you what you intend to focus in on about this Valentine's Day?

Are you having some success with women, but it's haphazard and inconsistent?

Are you wondering what is working and doesn't?

Are you wondering why you're not having ANY success?

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Where are you with women right this second?

How are you doing?

Be honest with me - and yourself.

Are you doing "okay", hit and miss, but you'd like to be doing better? More consistent?

Are you having dreadful failures, crashing and burning on an epic scale?

Are you ready to swear off women because you just can't 'figure them out'?

Even men who have consistent success with women would find it hard to tell you what it is they are doing that works. It's intuitive to them, but it's still a mystery. Many successful men even live with a very real fear that this ability is some kind of knack or skill that could just fade away one day, like understanding why you ever thought a mullet was a cool hairstyle.

Without understanding, most guys are winging it ... and with very limited success. They can't repeat it because they're not sure what they're doing.

You can do BETTER. I know it for a fact. That's why I wrote my e-books and I want every man alive to read them. It's for the guy with or without a woman. It's for the guys of all experience levels with women, because it will finally explain what is happening in the dating dynamic.

Then, you can take even more joy in this fact: I see that a "Lover's Bouquet" of roses costs $65 bucks online. Add to that the cost of a dinner and most guys are starting to cry.

If you're not dating anyone right now, and since you're not going to have to spend any $ on a woman this Valentine's Day, why not spend significantly less on an improvement that will increase your success with women for the REST OF YOUR LIFE?

Guaranteed!

I'll tell you more about that in a minute.

First, here's that bonus article for you that I think will help your internal game and posture with women...

** TAKING THE UPPER HAND **

I want to talk to you for a minute on a topic that I've recently had the joy of researching first-hand.

This goes into the topic of POSTURE (which many of you are familiar with in my e-books) and I hope this demonstrates what I mean by turning the tables on a woman and showing her you are not a wimp.

The usual pattern of male interaction (at least for 90% of the "nice guys" out there) is that they will often start to fear losing a woman far too quickly.

Recently, I had to cut loose one of my low-grade prospects because of her lack of effort. It wasn't easy at first, but I remembered that my attitude is FIRST and foremost, and keeping her around, selling off bits of my self-esteem to keep seeing her would have been more damaging than beneficial.

Here's the message that I gave her:

"It seems like it was a bad vibe, so it�s probably better if we both move on. No feelings hurt. We both know there�s more fish in the sea.

K?

Good luck, hon..."

Yes, that's what I told her, because I could smell her personality starting to try and smother and manipulate me. She tried to play that "you come see me" routine, making excuses about not driving out to where I lived. I knew that I'd be much happier without this kind of stress in my life, so I ditched her. (If it's like this now, I can just see where it would go. It wasn't even worth a one-night-stand, in my book.)

Most guys totally screw it up right here.

They will proceed to give in to all a woman's requests, driving great distances for someone they don't even KNOW. They convince themselves she's "the one" just because they got a little invested in the outcome. They put a few quarters in the "slot machine" and suddenly they need a payoff of some kind.

And when it doesn't come, they start to panic, and they call her ten times a day to find out what's wrong, why won't she call them back...?

Cut her off and take the upper hand.

The bottom line is that I needed that slice of time back for ME, not wasting it on a woman who wasn't an active and producing part of my investment portfolio. The other stocks I've chosen deserve my attention, and they'll get further investments if they keep producing. But keeping her around was detrimental overall.

I did my part by demonstrating good faith in making the first installment investment, which every guy should do. That initial investment is your effort to get to that first date or meeting with her (introducing yourself, getting the phone number, calling her, setting the date). Everything after this point MUST have a return on your investment.

What kind of "return" are you looking for?

If she fails to kiss you on your first date (after a COMPETENT attempt by you) then she's dropped. BAD INVESTMENT.

If she does not keep returning energy, affection, or any of the needs you have from her, GET RID OF HER.

BAD INVESTMENT.

If she's more of a liability or a drain to be around than uplifting and fun - she's better off playing for another team!

Drop her.

And just make a mental note that she was a BAD INVESTMENT. It's pretty easy to forget about bad investments in money, but guys somehow think women are different in some way. Sure, she might be a good looking stock on the outside, but if she's not paying you money back, she's a soul-sucking hole in the universe that will DO YOU NO GOOD.

How many times have YOU been the one to tell a woman you'd "rather just be friends"?

When I told a friend of mine that I had used that line on her, he thought it was the most original thing he'd heard and couldn't stop chuckling at the irony. (I'll bet HE has never used that on a woman himself.)

Why haven't you turned the tables on HER for a change?

Why haven't you dropped a bomb in her lap by telling her you'd rather move on because of HER behavior?

Because you were always more scared of losing out on potential pussy than you were at keeping your self-esteem and attitude high.

Until you value YOUR OWN sense of confidence and self-esteem more than a piece of ass, SHE will always control YOU.

(Whoah... this guy is to the point...)

Does that thought sound appealing to you?

Giving up your manhood to a woman just to satisfy your sexual urge?

Here's an alternative that I want you to consider:

Cultivate the attitude and inner-strength of a man who does not NEED women at all. He understands that 50% of the population (actually slightly more) are women. And once he understands the essentials - the FUNDAMENTALS - of female attraction, he need never trade his balls for anything again.

Women are always out there waiting for him (yes, WAITING for you, guys - women almost never initiate, so they're WAITING for YOU to DO SOMETHING.) There are more women out there than you will EVER be able to meet.

WE have the power, my brothers. NOT women. And only you can do something with that power by taking the upper hand from time to time.

And there are many ways to display this power of personality.

Ultimately, you're going to have to learn enough about what's going on in her head to get that upper hand.

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