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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 5:35 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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QUESTION:
Carlos,
Just wanted to say I love the podcast and the Alpha Man program, I've been using it for for a few weeks now and have noticed some improvement in the way women respond to me already.
I do have one quick question. I currently live in Florida, but I am moving to England in the next few weeks. Generally, what differences can i expect in how women act in Europe? Also, if there is any paticular advice you have that could help me in this new environment, I'd love to hear it!
-A
CARLOS:
Well, it's been a while since I've been over to the UK. From my understanding, the media is doing there what they're doing here - portraying men as insipid losers that need a woman to keep them in line.
However, the same principles apply over there that apply anywhere else.
The Attraction Principle states clearly:
When one Female Object encounters an Alpha Man Object in circumstances conducive to meeting, and he asserts his will to couple with the Female Object, she will probably be interested in learning more about him.
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I really do wish I could provide a killer equation or physics theorem that would work, but as we all know, women have a random "flake" factor that makes any prediction hazy at best.
The best advice I have for you is to observe as much as possible. You shouldn't have to change your approaches all that much for the Brits. Other cultures, however, will vary as to how they respond.
I'd suggest you also learn the proper use of colloquialisms and slang over there. You want to avoid putting your foot in your own mouth as much as possible.
You can also use your "foreign" status as a conversation starter and ice breaker. Just tell a group of ladies that you're new to the country. Ask them what they think you should know about women over there.
Ba-da-bing, you're in.
Just remember the basics, and use your American accent to your advantage!
QUESTION:
I am a regular reader of your newsletters & I must mention that they are a real treasure house of knowledge in acquiring a vibrant and positive attitude for a life full of love n blissful relationships....keep up the good work Carlos !!!!.
I am also impressed with the recent article on the characteristics n attitudes of The Alpha Male & really imbibed a lot of it .
Now to something important...I'm an MBA student and was recently undergoing my summer internship with an International bank. Herein , I came across a female who was very beautiful & had a very reserved attitude towards men...n wouldn't talk to any of them.
But as I was empowered with all the right info that u give through the newsletters, right from the first day I demonstrated authority, naughtiness, confidence n no wussy bag attitude towards women.....& lo a wonder .....she actually started talking to me .....n I continued further with this behaviour thereafter.
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Then I also started cracking flirtatious jokes on her which really got her opening n she said that she really missed me in the last week .....when I hadn't reported to my office due to health reasons......such is the power of ur lessons sir.....Thank you so much ...so far...now....my questions to you are....
1. What do I do to further increase her attraction towards me & how do I maintain it?
2. How do I get her to declare her love for me....without me even asking for it...& also landing in bed with her without making her feel guilty or used up? please take note of the fact that she is 2-3 yrs elder to me...
3. How do I handle the issue of her seniority , if at all it crops up?
4. How do I deal with other competent men, who might try to impress her ...n How do I deal with this competetion...n save my lady?
Dear Carlos, I understand the fact that ur a very busy gentleman....n u might be getting truckloads of mails like mine daily.....but if u could plz advise me on these questions...since I'm just a student as of now...n will take sometime 2 start earning.
....thank you once again for the real world knowledge that u give....I wish these were taught in schools n colleges!!! May GOD always be there on your side to shower his blessings on you....
Eagerly awaiting your HELP!!!!
- V, India
CARLOS:
Ah, yes. Another starving student. I remember those days...
ANyway... Let's be clear, I can't possibly give you every little thing you need to get this girl to propose to you in a Q&A column.
I haven't got that kind of space, dude.
But, if you're really serious, I suggest you look really hard at your reasoning for what you want.
Is it for YOU, for HER, or for BOTH of you.
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I suspect you're looking to play with the power a little bit, aren't you?
Go on, admit it. It's kinda neat when you learn that you can retain your self-dignity AND attract women, isn't it?
I think it's pretty cool, too.
But beware the Dark Side of this ... uh... power.
On the Light Side of the force, you must work to inspire her attraction so that you can continue on the path you're on... toward WHATEVER may come.
Maybe you'll get to sleep with her. Maybe not. But if you go in with this as your primary GOAL, you're missing the point.
And if you are hoping to turn it around so that she's groveling for your affections, that's missing it even further.
The point is to add to the positive vibe between you, and see where it will go. And it will go where it should, as all things must.
(Do I sound like a weird Kung Fu dude now?)
But let's throw question #2 of yours out of the mix. That's not the point.
As far as her age is concerned, it isn't a concern.
UNLESS YOU MAKE IT ONE! 2-3 years? Dude, I've seen women as much as 10 years older than me. And 10 years younger.
It's all good.
If she makes an issue out of being an older woman, you joke it off and keep going...
"What, are you one of those older women trying to seduce a younger man? I'm not that easy, Mrs. Robinson..."
(For those of you not catching on to the Mrs. Robinson comment, it's from the movie "The Graduate." Rent it sometime.)
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Watch yourself on the "Save my lady" comment. She's not yours yet. Keep playing it cool, brother. Don't start counting chickens before they're hatched.
As for Competition...
Where? Oh, it's not there yet, but you want to be prepared.
Here's the Alpha way of handling that:
COMPETITION DOESN'T EXIST.
It only exists when you start getting insecure enough to care, or start recognizing it as such. That's when she'll jump ship. When you show your true colors in the heat of the moment by getting jealous or insecure and needy.
The best way to handle competition is to PUSH her towards it.
If she goes, she was already going. There would be NOTHING you could have done. And now you're better off without an unfaithful and disloyal woman. Congratulations! That was a close one.
And if she doesn't go (which she won't if you handle your posture right), she now knows that you can live without her. As every woman MUST if she's ever going to respect you or stay with you for the long term.
Pretty simple, huh?
Now get the Alpha Man program and learn how this whole thing WORKS.
SUCCESS STORY:
Carlos,
I ordered Secrets of the Alpha Man and I am listening and reading the materials. I have never been helpless with women but there were serious holes in my game. BIG HOLES.
Approaching women in public has always been a problem for me. And being clueless with women who put themselves in position for me to approach didn't help. A couple weeks ago there was a women who literally broke her neck to cross the produce isle in the grocery store to ask: "how do I know if these grapes are any good"
What did I do? Gave her a straight answer and walked away a little off balance. Clueless! Before I would beat myself up for not knowing what to say or do.
Thankfully, that's the past. Now I am planning to be a five tool player like Willie Mays.
I have read a lot of stuff from other dating gurus out there. Comparisons are a waste of time but I feel you are the only one that has all the bases covered.
I finally GET IT! in a big way, and I have you to thank. Getting women should not the focus. Building yourself up to be a happy well adjusted MAN! should. Not to get biblical on you but "Seek first the kingdom of the Alpha Man and all women will be given to you" Keep up the good work.
... it feels good to be unplugged from the Matrix.
- P. M.
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CARLOS: A lot of guys go through this culture shock of coming out of their shell. A woman will start to pick up on your energy, and they will even approach you.
Yes, it does happen from time to time. But they do it under the guise of seeking help and guidance.
And the worst sin of all is to not be prepared for these events when they happen.
When your mind and spirit are together, you'll find that things just "happen" for you. It's really freaky, like you're plugged in to some new energy source.
You see, I propose that men build up themselves first, because if you don't, NO WOMAN will ever be what you want. NO WOMAN will ever be enough for you.
The steps of a healthy development are:
1) Birth
2) Physical and mental growth
3) Socialization
4) Sexualization
5) Spiritualization
Some of these phases are parallel, and some are ongoing for the rest of your life.
And some of them people will never go through all the phases very far, besides the physical growth.
That's why I laugh at some of these new age self-help authors that point to this great spiritual Nirvana, but they don't realize that for other people to journey to that path, they've got to a LOT of housekeeping to do first.
It's like saying, "Hey! I can teach you to Surf!" to those who aren't even very good swimmers.
Some are barely FLOATING... I'm not putting down people, or their capacity to grow towards these goals, but the reality is that we are all at very different steps on that path.
I want to help you through the development of your confident ego (not "ego" as in the negative connotation, either.) You need to be an Alpha Man because ALL GOOD THINGS stem from this.
There are some guys who claim that the whole "seduction" and pickup community thing is a farce.
And they're partly right. If you're doing it without working towards a better YOU, you are heading on the expressway to disappointment.
It's all about GROWTH and learning.
Master yourself first, and then you can go after the "heart centered" approach a bit more. But if you have lingering insecurities, or self-esteem issues that hold you back from healthy and confident interactions with women, you can't just jump into "open heart" mode.
It doesn't work that way. And you'll damage your ability to grow by traumatizing that open heart.
Create your own Alpha image, and all good things will follow.
The Alpha Man also knows that self-development is the path to a better life. It all starts with getting educated.
Education leads to understanding. Understanding leads to better choices. Better choices lead to better results.
And results are ALL that matters when it comes to the game of women.
I can show you the way to better results and success with women, and it's all in my e-book - THE DATING BLACK BOOK.
The Dating Black Book is for the guy who wants the whole dating scene explained, and all the inner-workings of the social dynamics.
Get it here:
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I'll be back with more advice soon ...
- Carlos
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Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
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- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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