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CARLOS XUMA -
DATING ADVICE FOR MEN NEWSLETTER: |
The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 5:00 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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QUESTION:
Hey Carlos. .Steve here. �Really & truly you hit Home Runs time & again with your insights. �I know, you've heard it all before but dude..you HAVE DUG DEEP & extracted and mined SOLID GOLD & DIAMONDS already finished to be procured by people who want to learn.. I feel like we are friends too. Because you have opened up about your family with personal info on the Alpha program. �
Carlos, like I said. �you are a GREAT coach..and I let you know my situation (90 hrs. work weeks.) �so it's a challenge. �I have GAME but NO TIME.. �
I will order your Dating Black Book next... what can I say dude. �
Regards, Steve S.
CARLOS:
Indeed... what can you say. I'm glad you picked up on my openness. A lot of so-called gurus out there will avoid being vulnerable and R.E.A.L. with you. I'm not afraid to let you know that I'm an authentic man. With vulnerabilities and faults. (Ironically, it's these qualities that women find attractive. Go figure.)
Just a note for you guys out there - remember that you must have at least SOME time available for meeting women or you will lose that Game you cherish.
You gotta stay in practice. Even if it's only practicing on the women you work with, you gotta use it - or you WILL lose it.
So find the time and get out there with the ladies...
Trust me. They're waiting for more Alpha Men.
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QUESTION:
Dear Carlos,
I'm really confused about this. Today, I did another marathon-session of searching through two dating sites. Those two Dutch dating sites use checkboxes in the profiles. You should mark if you (man or woman) want kids, yes or no.
Now this causes a big problem for me. I know for sure that I absolutely don't want any kids. But nearly every woman on these sites marks her checkbox with "yes" for kids. There are only 6 (!) woman in a radius of 50 miles that said "no" to wanting kids.
Should I change my preference to yes instead? I am not fond of lying to a woman but it will increase my responses a lot I think. There are no doubt tons of women who discard me only because I don't want any kids.
I have no problem with a woman that already has 1 kid.
Can you give me your opinions on this matter?
Thank you very much on your info, hope to see you on the Cliff's List 2006 DVD's.
Patrick
CARLOS:
Okay, everyone. Are you ready for a big dose of reality?
Here it comes.
Most women want children.
Yes, it's true. That hard-wired genetic fact will someday come to haunt all of you. I could tell you that some do and some don't, and you just have to look, but the reality is that most will. Not all, but most.
Even the women out there reading this saying, "I don't want children!" are really just a few years ahead of their biological imperative (also known as an alarm clock) that will go off one day to the tune of "Show me the Baby!" I've seen this happen so many times it ain't funny.
Sometimes that alarm clock will wait until her early 40's, too.
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Yes, I sometimes sound like I'm exaggerating, and there are always exceptions to the rules, but this is one that bears noting, because if you go into denial and think that you'll just scoop up a woman that doesn't want kids and that will never change - well, guess again.
So what you have to do is reconcile the following:
1) Why don't you want to have kids?
2) Could it be that you just don't want them right now?
3) If you found a woman that met all your other needs, is this something you could accept and sacrifice for her later?
4) Would you maybe want a woman that has older children later on? (You said this was a possibility. What if she wants more?)
Once you understand your decision, you can figure out how best to search for a woman, and whether this may change in the future. Sometimes it's enough for a woman if you just tell her up front that you don't want children now, but you may later.
No one can see what the future will bring. You can't misrepresent a future that no one knows for certain.
So, that being said, if you can't say with 100% certainty that you will NEVER want children, you are not misleading her if you are up-front later on. (I have seen that most dating sites let you choose "maybe" or "not sure" as an option.)
She answered that question with a click of a mouse that you weren't there to witness. She might change her mind later, too. Or, maybe all the women who want children are using online dating right now. Consider using more methods to meet more women. I'm sure there are more than 6 on your area.
Open up opportunities for yourself, but do not mislead or lie.
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I'd consider joining more dating services to cast a wider net. And if the prospect of a small pool of eligible candidates is scary to you, consider changing yourself instead of the rest of the world. It's far easier.
Oh, and you will most definitely see me on the next Cliff's List seminar DVDs. Mine was one of the most popular presentations given, so you'll be getting a real treat when this comes out on DVD later this year.
For now, you should take a look at my Alpha Immersion DVD Program if you want to get the vital parts of this seminar right now...
http://www.attractwomenprogram.com
QUESTION:
Carlos.
Thanks again for your great work. Once again I have to tell you how much I like your approach of dating and life as an alpha male in general. It is very close to my own beliefs.
You mention in this newsletter that you have worked in the IT field. I have a question about this.
When women ask what I do in life and I answer that I work as a telecommunication analyst, my answer is usually followed by either a long, awkward silence or a eeeewwwww comment... not very sexy as a profession to say the least...
How do you deal (or have dealt) with this?
Keep up the good work.
J. L.
Montreal
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CARLOS ANSWERS:
Well, handling this situation comes down to the following logic:
1) I kept getting this question from women: "What do you do..." Hmm....
2) I would eventually tease them and joke with the women that asked it. "What, are you a gold digger or something? I only date VERY rich women. I'm looking for a sugar momma."
3) After funning with them for a bit, inevitably I would still have to answer the original question in some way. (Or you look like you're avoiding the question and, therefore, embarrassed about your profession.)
So after the umpteenth time of being asked this, I knew I had to have my teasing/funny and cocky answer, and then my "blow them away" answer.
Here's what I did:
1) First of all come up with a way of looking at your job in a whole new way. Don't just look at it as what it is (or appears to be) but what it COULD be... Example: My mom worked with a guy who replaced light tubes in the classrooms of a local college. He described himself as a "lighting design technician." He thought outside The Box.
2) Use your passion as your description of "what you do." It doesn't have to be your JOB. (Unless the two are the same.) When I was working in IT (Information Technology) I would describe myself as a technical artist, facilitating the communication of people around the world. I was driven to create
3) Use either as your answer. Or both. (Preferred.)� Remember, it's not the answer that really matters. It's HOW YOU PRESENT IT.
It's not that you're a telecommunications analyst. It's that you didn't present it with the conviction and belief of an Alpha Man.
I cover what you need to do to develop this Alpha Power in your life (and in how you present what you do, which I cover specifically in the e-book) in the Secrets of the Alpha Man Program.
It's what you need to develop the inner game that will make your life what YOU want it to be.
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"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
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"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
valuable advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many, many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
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- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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