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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 4:25 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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OBSERVATION:
I was at the post office this morning, arranging shipments and business, when I noticed a fairly attractive woman with a young boy in line. Now, I don't think it was her boy (there are certain tell-tale visual cues for this) and I was thinking about saying something to her after I finished at the window.
Then I realized something. I was in Dork Attire. (That's D.A. for short.)
What is Dork attire?
It's when you're wearing something that will either NOT attract a woman, or will repel her.
I realized that I had gone out in my Punisher T-shirt. It's got the skull emblem of the Punisher on the front of it.
Now, while you comic-reading dudes out there know how bad-ass the Punisher is, many people do not.
Especially women.
They would take one look at my t-shirt and go, "ewwww!!"
And rightfully so. It's kind of anti-social to run around with a t-shirt with a skull on it. Even a nice lovey-dovey skull with flowers on it. Or a Grateful Dead skull.
Skulls=BAD
Remember that equation. I will next time.
On the other hand, I have another t-shirt that is only slightly dorky, but it works a lot better. It's got Tintin on it, with Snowy his dog. (If you don't know what Tintin is, I can't help you.)
That one is rather amusing and brings back memories of childhood for a lot of people. And, on the front of this shirt is a little emblem on the left side with Tintin and the word "Adventure" under it.
I liked the message.
Next time, I'll be wearing that one out, or perhaps something more stylish.
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The short lesson?
Don't try to make a statement of your dorky interests. Make a statement of presentability.
You'll go much further with the ladies.
Oh, and here's the preliminary results of my poll about where guys meet women:
Question: Where do you go to find women?
Answer %
Parties 18
Bars/Pubs/Clubbing 33
Bookstores 10
Speed Dating 6
Online Dating 30
Looks like clubbing/pubbing and Online are the current favorites.
QUESTION:
First thank you for your podcasts, blog and Dating guides.
This weekend I was out with friends putting your advice to work. It was amazing! I had women throwing their numbers at me. I even had women I had never met introducing me to friends, relatives, other women in the bar.
There was one woman in particular, an attractive older woman, who showed a high interest in me. We had a good exchange, physical contact and then she told me she definitely had to give me her number. On receipt of the number I gave the nod and my friends and I decided to move to the next bar.
I gave her a short kiss and she pulled me in close and whispered in my ear "I feel it was our destiny to meet tonight. I really want you to call me."
At first I thought it was great. As I said she was very attractive and we had a good exchange. But when I was thinking about what she had said, especially the "destiny" part, I became uneasy and I began to wonder. Was she looking for more than I want to give? Was she a bit flaky and clingy?
So now I'm not quite sure what to do. Should I call her and set up a meet to see if the "destiny" talk was just in the heat of the moment or forget it and move on?
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CARLOS GIVES YOU A HIGH FIVE:
Dude! That totally rocks.
I'm trying to not be jaded by all the success you guys are having, but sometimes it's hard. I don't find it as amazing as I once did, but I try to remember what it was like when I found out there were specific rules to sparking a woman's feelings of attraction and desire.
Arthur C. Clarke once said, "Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic."
That's what it feels like when you use this "Attraction Technology" to work on a woman.
Though, I'm not sure what you mean by "older woman..." Older than you?
Older than your dad?
Older than dirt?
Just funning with you, but I need an age range to tell you what her likely focus is.
I will tell you this, though -
Older women are the BEST in bed. Hands down, they will rock your world, sonny.
Now MY definition of "older" is a woman in her 30s. Sometimes 40s if she's kept herself in really good shape.
I wouldn't get too hung up on the "destiny" comment if I were you. You see, it's very likely that she was responding to the extreme attraction she felt for you by plugging into those primal programs she has running around in her romantic little head.
Women are pre-programmed with the Disney Syndrome.
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They're all looking to fulfill their image of the "Prince Charming" ideal. They want the man that comes in and romantically sweeps them off their feet and they all live happily ever after.
And, inevitably, this Charming mo-fo never arrives. Much to their disappointment, they usually have to settle for a guy who plays Starcraft on the weekends and likes watching UFC fights late-night.
When she runs into a guy who uses the stuff I teach you, however, she feels that SPARK.
She feels that certain something that tells her you're not a dork like the last ten guys that came over trying to buy their way into her thong.
Call her.
Go out with her. Have fun...
But watch out for more red flags.
Hey, she may have been feeling intense that night.
Or the Cosmopolitans were hitting her hard. Either way.
You've hit on something with your attitude, though.
This is what an Alpha Man is - socially desired.
He knows that it's not the anti-social jerk that gets to have all the fun (and the women) in life, but the guy who's calm and confident in his own skin, and can still be liked by others.
The Alpha Man also knows that self-development is the path to a better life. It all starts with getting educated.
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Education leads to understanding. Understanding leads to better choices. Better choices lead to better results.
And results are ALL that matters when it comes to the game of women.
I can show you the way to better results and success with women, and it's all in my e-books - THE DATING BLACK BOOK and THE SEDUCTION METHOD.
The Dating Black Book is for the guy who wants the whole dating scene explained, and all the inner-workings of the social dynamics.
Get it here:
/dating-advice-for-men.htm
The Seduction Method is for the man who wants to understand the mechanisms behind a woman's desire to sleep with you. This book shows you the fastest way to bed with her.
Get it here:
http://www.seductionmethod.com
You'll get answers to questions like:
... When is a woman playing you and when is she REALLY interested?
... How do you stop being strung along for weeks and weeks by a chick, and how do you turn them on to YOU instead of you being turned into another one of her girlfriends?
... How do you meet MORE hot women?
... How do you get women attracted to you right from the start?
... How do you stop paying for dates that go NOWHERE?
... How do you work up the guts to approach her?
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I learned the hard way in the dating world when women would lose their interest in me.
Then, I finally saw what was going on. It became so clear that women don't want men who just chase around after them like lost puppies. They don't want "Nice Guys" who give them everything they want.
(That's the problem - Most guys give women exactly what they SAY they want!)
I cover this and many other topics in my e-books and audio. If you'd like to learn more about how the REAL players get the women, you can download the information right away.
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I'll be back with more advice soon ...
- Carlos
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Listen to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
tactics and techniques in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner game.' From
there, he'll give you the complete set of tools for approaching women, and life, with absolute confidence and skill. If you're in this game to win it, these are the rules you need to learn."
- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams. I love his game, its 100% real."
- The Dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
valuable advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many, many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
about anything. And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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