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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 12:40 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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QUESTION:
Other than price.
I'm interested in both ~ but want to be prudent with my funds ~ so I would like for you to explain why your product is superior to [another guru's] dating program. �Just to give you heads up ~ I've already heard through an independent source that [another guru] is in the top five �~ but not the No.1
CARLOS:
Occasionally I get letters like this, asking me to "prove myself" in what I provide for men. As if I've got some clinching reason other than the immense amount of information I provide on my sites for you to invest in your future.
They read newsletter after newsletter ... "great advice," they say... "but, prove it...."
This is the kind of personality that will never be satisfied. No proof will do, because they're already looking for reasons for something to NOT work instead of work.
Women often ask me this, too. They say, "You're a dating advisor? What background do you have? What are your credentials?"
Again, they are asking me to "prove" myself.
I suspect that people (especially women) are asking you to qualify yourself all the time. And I'll answer them the way I would anyone else that doubts what I have to offer.
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"Explain yourself..."
"Prove yourself..."
I say... NO.
You'll find the Doubting Thomas type EVERYWHERE in life. Prove it, prove it, they say. "Because until you do," their REAL thought process goes, "I don't have to change or risk finding out that I'm wrong."
So I say:
As a rule, I don�t qualify my materials against other products out there. My quality and reputation stands on its own.
If you�re interested, you are welcome to review the genuine testimonials from guys who have loved our Alpha Man program (and others) here: http://www.alphaseduction.com/alpha-male.htm
And all of my products carry a guarantee, so you can�t go wrong.
Either you'll believe that these guys are really changing their lives for the better, or you won't. But I don't put myself up for approval for everyone that wants me to 'prove it.'
This is part of the Alpha Mindset that will also get you more women in your life. Take it from me. Don't get caught up in the game of having to justify yourself to everyone. Being put on the wrong side of this is the way to sink your self-esteem.
I live this every day. And you'll want to when you experience the world with a new view.
Don't be one of those people who tries to avoid change by demanding proof of everything first.
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Put the wood in first to get heat from a fire. Not the other way around.
The proof is in the results.
Doubters are never do-ers.
THE DVDs ARE HERE!
Did you hear?
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QUESTION:
Carlos, I met a girl a couple of weeks ago and we went out on a date that got pretty hot. I think her interest level is probably still fluid at this stage of the game. I wanted to bring in something unexpected and add that adventure to the mix today by calling in the morning to set up a spontaneous lunch date. She didn't answer so I left a message. My question is how to handle this scenario best.
I know that if I just say "call me back" that it gives her too much power and puts me on the waiting end but if I don't say something than there is a 0% for her to call back before lunchtime. I left a message (with a confident tone) like this "Hey, Jennifer - as it turns out today I have some free time so I thought I would call to see how your day is going and chat for a few minutes. I don't know what your schedule is like so call if you get the chance - if not I will call tonight 'maybe' or tomorrow night. Goodbye Jennifer"
Anyways, this is the best thing that I could come up with but I find myself running into this scenario often where I want to set up something spontaneous with a girl. Any idea on when I should actually call her back if she doesn't return my message if at all?
- F
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CARLOS:
This is always a dilemma for guys once they realize how this sort of power play starts to arise between men and women.
It's important to be spontaneous with women, however, and you need to have a battle plan for this situation.
The key is to take it away just as fast as you offer it. If she answered, you'd offer her your little mini-adventure. If she doesn't answer, you leave her a message letting her know what she missed out on.
Here's what I'd do in this situation:
"Hey, Jennifer... Here I was going to offer you a wild little adventure to break up the monotony of your week, and you missed out... Well, don't kick yourself too much for missing out on it... I'll tell you more about this place later in the week."
CLICK.
And then, to make this really work, you better go there with another friend (male or female). When you talk to her, you can then be sincere when you talk about your adventure to this little lunch spot with your "friend." Don't tell her the gender of this friend. Wait for her to ask who you went with... then you say:
"Are you afraid I went with another woman? You're jealous, aren't you? That's so cute!" And simply don't answer her question.
The bottom line is that if she's not there, SHE missed out.
If you want her to call back, you must give her a reason to WANT to call back.
Curiosity often does the trick.
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A reader comments:
Hey Carlos,
I never knew your mom past away man. Hey we've noticed how sometimes after a person greatest success, is a great failure, or low point. I think that was good part of it right there.
I just finished watching the video with all the interviews, and even though I haven't meet you personally, through your site, newsletters, personal e-mails, and e-books, I can see all those qualities that those men mentioned, such as professional, unpretentious, and genuine. They all glow from your work.
One thing that I noticed is that I love how you tell of your real life experiences, before you got to where you are, and where you are now. Being so, myself and others can confidently say that we can relate to you. That, and another thing that's important is how you present your work. It's well rounded, very general and broad, you don't focus on certain areas, you allow men to analyze many area's of there live, point those area's in the right direction, to make there life successful and stable for women to join and share.
Keep it up.
Thank you for what your done. Dating Black Book, Alpha Man...
For what you're doing- (R.E.A.L GAME).
And what's to come......
- Victor
CARLOS:
I appreciate your comments more than you can know. And how appropriate that your name means WINNING. Your attitude screams "winner", not "whiner."
When I set out on this mission years ago, I knew that chasing women was important, but that there was MUCH more to the story. That's when I created the Secrets of the Alpha Man Program. A real-life primer on how to be a MAN first, and then the women will follow.
When you do it the other way ... chasing success with women to fill a hollow self-image, well...
I'm reminded of some words from "DUNE":
"Many have tried..."
"Tried and Failed?"
"They tried and died."
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If you base your success with women on the wrong foundation, your integrity and self-esteem will die, too.
One of the things you'll notice is that:
1) I almost never whine about the competition, or dis them.
2) I don't brag about being the "first" or the "Greatest" or the "one and only" (even when I am :). I don't need to pump up my ego or be Mr. Salesguy. I just want to spread the word and unplug as many guys from the Matrix as possible.
3) I reveal personal details to you because I want you to understand that I'm not some "high and mighty" pickup artist. I'm just a man. And I feel I've got some valuable information to share with you.
That last one is important to me.
I don't mind showing you these things because I want you to understand what women are REALLY attracted to.
And that's REAL men.
And if you'd like to learn more about REAL Game and the successful attitudes of an Alpha Man, you should take a look at the program that will put you on the path - The Secrets of the Alpha Man.
http://www.alphaseduction.com
Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
I'll be back with more advice soon ...
- Carlos Xuma
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Listen to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
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- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
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"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
valuable advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many, many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
about anything. And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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