The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...

Saturday, 11:15 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...

"I think your products are great! I've really enjoyed the audioprograms and expect that I will continue to listen to them...And I've been in a great relationship for five months with a woman I probably would not have scored without your help. So, thanks! Your coaching has really turned me around, showing me a lot of things I was doing wrong..." - D.M.

Session 9 is now available!

Here's just some of what you'll get in June's session:

- Continuing review of the Stepping Stones - More first call, how to close, keeping control
- When to call her for the best effect
- Fun - Girls just wanna have fun, and how you tap into this feminine need
- Rejection, How to handle it, how to avoid it for good, what it means, and how to set the rules yourself
- The "I've got a boyfriend excuse" explained. Why she uses it, and how you handle it
- How to handle the first meeting - Where to go, how to plan it, and how to "package" your meetings for re-use
- Spontaneous Dates - How to get her out on the spur of the moment
- Confidence - Revealing versus Confessing, and how to disclose information to keep her interested in you, and avoid turning her off
- Inspirational questions - What they are and how to use them to stimulate her attraction for you
- Seduction Exercises - Mirror work - making your expressions communicate effectively, smiling right, improving your eye contact, and discovering women's topics in the media
- More False Time Constraints

And MUCH more.

Get it here: /audioprog.htm

QUESTION:

Hi,

I think your stuff ROCKS, and is very interesting. When you try it out you can tell your readers that you get a much better response than before.

Just a quick question, if a girl calls you a "sweetie" is that to be deemed TOTALLY BAD! in your view.

mike
oz

CARLOS:

Tell my readers? Oh, they KNOW it, man. :)

In my experience, a woman calls you sweetie when she's not looking at you as a superior male. It's usually a bit on the insulting side. She might also be in the mode of "let's see if I can manipulate this sucker." It's usually condescending.

So give it to her back, with interest:

"Sweetie? Honey, you haven't tasted me, so you don't know if I'm a sweetie. And don't get any ideas, I don't know YOU well enough yet."

QUESTION:

hey carlos,

i have a friend who got with a hot girl in our school however he was a "wuss" and eventually the girl dumped him last nov. since then hes been mental F*** up and he decided to never date girls still after high school so i dont really think i can change him but from what i heard from a friend the reason hes been losing it is because when he transfered classes he end up in her class and now everytime the girl starts talking to a guy he would hurry up and try to talk to a girl.... which mean hes not over her i was wondering if u know any counter attack when ur ex is still in ur daily life surroundings and she starts hititng on a guy in front of u what are u suppose to do?

another question: the summer is coming up and i dont exactly have a good body but i was hoping to exerise to built it up do u have any tips?

thankz cs ca

CARLOS:

Hmmm... I think I see a problem already. You use the words "counter attack." This implies a dangerous mindset, since you're in "battle mode."

Relax... no need to get in defensive formation. Here's what you do:

There's nothing wrong with finding another woman to start hitting on in front of her. Even if he's not totally into her.

It's not about making HER feel bad, it's about making HIM feel good.

I'll bet that she's just as jealous of him, too. But women are much better at disguising their true feelings in public. He'll eventually get out of her class and move on. (Trust me, if he's got a pecker, he's going to want another girl someday.)

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But he needs a good attitude if he's going to survive out there.

So get your friend subscribed to this newsletter, dude! And definitely get the e-books. It's never too late.

That's a real friend, if you ask me...

Building a good body? There's not enough space here to go into it, but here are some tips:

1) Get a physical first
2) Go to the gym every other day, at least. Make it a ritual and a habit.
3) Go with a high-protein, lower carb diet
4) Consult with a specialist for a complete program
5) Don't just do it for the summer, do it for your LIFE.

QUESTION:

I have found myself in that guy`s question about how to get a girl with boyfriend. Well I have met the girl of my dreams.

We were on the same evening course. She wanted to meet me in the first place, begun to dress up hot. We went together on the way back home and had a few dates. I thought she was mine and told her I liked her. She responded that she has a boyfriend and if she did not she would surely be with me.

After she called me a few times- hot/cold games. Now the classes are over and she don t respond to my SMSes. Is there something I can to to fix the thing up and attract her once again?

CARLOS:

Ugh...

Cough...

Choke...

You told her you liked her?

Dude... (Shaking my head)

Oh, man. Kiss of death.

The second you start admitting your feelings for women, they inevitably run for the hills. And for some reason men never get the hint that this means they should be a little more RESTRAINED with their confessions.

*(By the way, I cover this topic in detail in this month's audio coaching. Confession versus disclosure, and how you should handle it. If you do this wrong, you'll scare women away like crazy, and not even know why.)

Se*xual tension is built on the foundation of escalating the desire by knowing how to drive her crazy by creating mystery.

MYSTERY = NOT telling her what you're thinking or feeling.

You were her fun play-thing there for a while, dude. She probably started out interested in you, too. That's the shame of it. But at least she got a few free dates out of it.

That bit about: "if it wasn't for this guy I'm sleeping with, I'd be with you" is pure, 100% Columbian Mule Crap. Juan Valdez is even pinching his nose from the stink. That's a woman's consolation prize that she gives so that she doesn't have to feel bad about leading you on.

Have you noticed that now that she's unavailable to you, you want her even more? This is what you should have been doing when YOU had her on the hook before. You strategically step back from her to let her know you aren't a needy fool.

When she feels the space created by the absence of you, she would have felt even more attracted and interested. Instead, you stepped in and cancelled the tension.

You're so right that she's the girl of your dreams, because that's the ONLY place you're going to have her. If she wanted you, I'm pretty sure she would dumped boyfriend #1.

You have a worse situation that the last guy who wrote about wanting a woman with a boyfriend, because you already used up your chance.

She's GONE. It's time to move on. Don't waste your precious life force trying to make women come back to you.

Instead, learn to not make the same mistakes over and over again. Find a new woman and use the strategies from the e-books to do this right from the very beginning.

I used to be in that situation, by the way. I used to be the Nice Guy who thought he could just tell a woman what he was feeling, hoping that she'd just want me if she knew. And then I found out that I was constantly turned down because they don't want a man that isn't a challenge to her.

Telling her your feelings is the UN-challenge. It says you don't have self-control, and you're impatient.

Man, I got sick of it. Totally flipping sick of it. And I knew I had to change things.

Have you ever felt like this? That women were somehow so hard to understand that you almost felt like giving up? That you're this great guy, but you don't know how to show them?

If you get burned, you don't stop playing with matches ... you TAME THE FIRE.

I've talked to guys the world over who have made a REAL difference in their lives by taking the first step on the right path - learning. Once you understand, your world opens up.

Ask yourself:

Wouldn't it be great to learn how women REALLY think and work?

Wouldn't it be fantastic to finally put aside your fears once and for all? Approach women anywhere and anytime?

And GET RESULTS with women.

And results are ALL that matters when it comes to the game of seduction and dating.

I can show you the way to better results and success with women, and it's all in my e-book - THE DATING BLACK BOOK. You need to download it from here.
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You'll get answers to questions like:

... When is a woman playing you or REALLY interested?
... How do you stop being strung along for weeks and weeks by women, and how do you turn them on to you instead of you being turned into another girlfriend?
... How do you meet MORE hot women?
... How do you get them attracted to you right from the start?
... How do you stop paying for dates that go NOWHERE?

Don't forget - The Advanced Audio Coaching Session 9 is ready NOW to take your current skills and take them to the limit...

Imagine having a coach giving you tips, strategies, and a complete breakdown on how to improve your technique and success with women - firsthand. You can listen to this audio RIGHT NOW on your PC or Mac, and you can even use your MP3 player to take the learning and go mobile.

"I have already listened to session 8 and once again I think that you have cut thru the modern myths of talking to woman and revealed more reality." - R.H.

The monthly audio series is OVER 100 MINUTES of advice and explosive tips, and it's available for download here:
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-Carlos

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