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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 10:55 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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Carlos wants to know - WHO WILL HELP YOU?
I pride myself on giving you advice that you don't get from the other so-called dating experts out there. They're not going to tell you the Truth about these things.
Especially the men's magazines out there. Have you looked at these publications?
I have personally subscribed to Playboy for the last five or six years or so (for the pictures AND the articles, actually), and I have yet to see one article that tells men how to REALLY get more success with women - or how to get Iaid. I look through the FHM and the MAXIM magazines out there, and none of those give you any solid advice about dating and women, either.
Why don't these magazines give you any answers?
I thought about this for a while, and I think I figured it out.
It's because they're only in business to sell you the NEXT issue.
Think about that for a minute. The less they have to answer this month is the more they can promise you you'll get NEXT month.
But the answers never come.
So who out there is going to help you understand these strange beings on our planet known as women?
Because they ARE understandable. (Don't listen to the guys who always whine "I just don't understand women..."
They're just confused because they're not able to look past their own beliefs about rational behavior. Women are not rational, but they are PREDICTABLE when you know how to behave toward them.)
Who is going to help you?
YOU have to help yourself.
YOU have to be willing to get your act together and start changing your behaviors.
YOU have to be willing to learn.
YOU have to be willing to take a risk.
YOU have to stop thinking like everybody else.
Every week I try to give you some of this understanding, but I can't get you the will to make different choices and take different paths. That's up to you.
I can give you the e-book with the answers, but in the end, you will have to help yourself.
This week's question highlights what I mean. I get this question in a variety of formats, but it always says pretty much the same thing.
Read on...
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QUESTION:
There is this girl I noticed the other day that I thought was one of the most attractive girls that I have seen. I looked over at her and she looked back, but instead of talking to her and introducing myself, I just kept walking. I was hoping you could help me on what to say to her to start the conversation and hopefully get her number or get her interested.
CARLOS:
First: I think the question isn't really about what to say. It's about why you didn't say ANYTHING.
For starters, let me ask this:
Did you walk out your door yesterday with any idea as to what you might say to a woman if you saw one you were interested in?
What about today?
Did you sit down and think about who you might encounter in advance and formulate a plan?
PROBLEM 1: Lack of preparation.
You have to be ready for the circumstances that life will send you BEFORE you encounter them. This takes planning and foresight -- and just a little, tiny, bit of (oh boy, do I even want to say this?) ...
Work.
I know this will come as a shock to many guys, but women will not just automatically flock to you without your expending a little bit of effort. And this particular effort is the toughest work of all for some people: It's called THINKING. This is what separates the winners in life from the also-rans.
(Sure, there are other pickup "artists" who tell you that if you whisper nine magic words in her ear she's going to jump out of her panties for you, but I know you are smart enough to smell B.S. from a mile away. Dating and attraction takes a little effort, but it's the best kind, if you ask me.)
There are two kinds of guys in the world: There are the men who prepare for success, and the men who never achieve it.
Sit down and think about the situations you usually encounter women in, or plan to. Think of two funny, teasing things to say in each circumstance. Write them down. Memorize them. Stop giving yourself an excuse not to act.
(And if you're really lazy, I've got a ton of approaches in my Approach Women program here: https://www.alphaconfidence.com/approach)
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And you'll never have to spend time kicking yourself about missing an opportunity again.
You probably also noticed how much easier it was to keep walking than it was to force yourself to stop and take a risk by talking to her. This is the situation you MUST reverse if you are to ever have lasting success with women.
You want to know what to say to her to start the conversation? How about, "Hi!"
Asking me to tell you what to say to her is a cop-out for not thinking for yourself. You already know what you had to do, and waiting for me to tell you what to say is just so much smoke. It's not as important that you say the RIGHT thing as it is to say SOMEthing. Get it?
(Remember, tough love. You CAN handle the Truth.)
You must feel MORE motivated to stop and talk to a woman than you feel that it is good to keep on walking. (Re-read that a couple of times. That's IMPORTANT to understand.)
PROBLEM 2: Fear of rejection. (Or just "fear" in general)
How would you feel if a psychic told you that you missed out on meeting the love of your life today by not stopping when you had the chance and just saying hello? Would you sulk and mope around for a couple days?
Or would you get pissed off enough to take some ACTION, and not let this happen again?
Don't look at the pleasure you experienced by walking away from that situation without having been rejected. (Because you basically didn't do anything.)
Instead, remember the pain of knowing you passed up an opportun1ty without taking any action.
Let that pain motivate you to plan now and DO something the next time.
Every time you let one of those opportunities slip away in your life, the more you condition your nervous system that it's OK to keep on losing.
"Oh, it's okay," the Loserboy in your head tells you. "She probably wasn't your type anyway. She's got funny ankles. NEXT time we'll say 'Hi' to her."
You just made yourself feel okay about losing again. Losing one more opportunity. Losing one more phone number.
Losing, losing, losing.
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And so the path to the Dark Side begins.
Turn it around. NOW. Before this becomes your habit. Before you turn into the Darth Vader of wimps.
Don't turn a single mistake into a lifelong behavior. I know you can turn this around.
Remember, I want you to understand - deep in your bones - that it's not what you say or even how you say it that is nearly as important as saying SOMETHING.
Better to say something and screw up than to say nothing and never know what might have been.
Start getting the results you deserve.
Do you know where to touch women to give them the chills and turn them on to you?
Do you know when and how to touch them?
Do you know how to interpret a woman's questions and interests, and turn them in your favor?
Do you know the pattern of dating to get you to your goals?
Do you want to stop shooting in the dark on this and finally get some understanding of women?
It's tempting to wing it. It really is. Some guys think that they'll "Figure women out" when they get to a certain point, except that point never comes. Different women seem to want different things. (Or maybe they're the same things?)
THE DATING BLACK BOOK breaks this strategy down in its entirety, from preparing to meeting to passing their tests. It's the most complete strategy out there. I'll even tell you how to interpret their behavior and figure out which kind of woman you're dealing with - and most importantly, how to avoid the bad ones.
You can get it here:
/dating-advice.htm
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Wouldn't it be great if you could go into this weekend knowing that you could go anywhere and get hooked up with any woman you want?
You can get this kind of understanding RIGHT NOW. Head on over to /dating-advice.htm and get your dating life under YOUR control.
These emails give you some players advice, but you still need to understand the rules of the game.
Do you know why Inner Game is ESSENTIAL to your success?
Do you want to learn what it is that most guys are missing in their ability to at tract ladies into their life?
This is what the other guys are using, and if you don't start learning the principles of how to create attraction, you're losing ground every day you wait.
Do you want another year of confusion and poor results to stop you from getting what you deserve?
If you're reading this now, and you want to learn the strategies that others have learned, the top-down approach strategies are exactly what my Approach Women Program will teach you.
https://www.alphaconfidence.com/approach/
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Not only do you learn what the subtle psychological aspects are, but how you can amplify the right behaviors so that you are able to draw in the women that you want. The only magic you have to add to this equation is the attitude to take action.
Do you want to make sure you handle it right, from the start?
Ask yourself: What am I waiting for?
Another failed date? Another $50 or more blown on a woman that really wasn't into me?
The Approach Program gives you the information and skills to get the women YOU want.
https://www.alphaconfidence.com/approach/
I've even thrown in a few new extra bonuses that you're going to want to grab with these offers, too.
If you get the program right away, I'll send you the e-book RIGHT AWAY so you can get started... AND I'll even send you a link to join the Alpha Man Forum - a special user group where you can exchange information and tips with other Alpha Men.
Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
I'll be back with more advice soon ...
- Carlos Xuma
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Most guys don't approach women because they haven't got the SKILLS to APPROACH WOMEN. Once you have them, you'll feel less anxious and you'll actually DO IT.
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Listen to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
tactics and techniques in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner game.' From
there, he'll give you the complete set of tools for approaching women, and life, with absolute confidence and skill. If you're in this game to win it, these are the rules you need to learn."
- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams. I love his game, its 100% real."
- The Dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
valuable advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many, many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
about anything. And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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