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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 10:35 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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The MAY audio coaching is now available, guys! Don't miss out on these topics:
- Continuing review of the Stepping Stones - Getting her number, handling the first phone call, and the meeting. When to call, what to say... from the answering machine, to talking to her, to cell phones...
- Control of a woman's buying temperature, and the importance of acting when it's HOT
- False Time Constraints and how they work
- Handling a woman's Trust needs - without having to jump through hoops or supplicate. Never lose control!
- Another pickup and conversation dynamics explained, with verbal and email questions and replies - tease examples
- How to handle HER nervousness - one question that puts you back in a position of power
- Sophisticated body language- The turn-away and an introduction to Push-pull
- How to be "natural" with your approach and avoid the "impostor" syndrome
- Planning for what can and will go wrong on your meetings with women
- The Gambler's Trap and How it works to sabotage your seductions
- People-watching exercise to develop body language and verbal language interpretation skills
- Using The Touch to get her to say "yes"
AND MUCH MORE!
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QUESTION:
I have this problem, ever since I've gotten to college (few weeks ago) I've been seeing so many gorgeous girls and some have taken notice of me too. One problem keeps coming up, however - they're older than me.
I myself am 18 years old but dress with style and like older guys and easily pass 23. So most girls assume I'm in my early twenties.
Now here's the dilemma, there's this gorgeous girl in my class and she's been showing signs that she's interested in me, like laughing at my jokes, always trying to grab my attention, and getting me to follow her after class.
However, she's almost 22, almost 4 years older, and I don't know what to do. Should I lie about my age? Should I move on?
Problem is, almost every girls I'm flirting with is at least 2.5 yrs older.
CARLOS:
I think I hear something else in your question. I think what you're really saying is:
"I'm intimidated by the thought of being 'too young' for her, and I need her approval of my age to measure up in her eyes."
You're really making a pre-judgment in your mind about what she will think of your age. (Pre-judgment = prejudice)
Why are you imagining a situation that hasn't occurred yet?
How do you know that this gal doesn't already know your age? Or that she won't date you if she knows?
You've made an assumption. And you know what happens when you make an assumption? You make an ass out of you ... and umption.
Yeah, well, you know what I mean.
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If you assume that your age is a problem, guess what? It becomes a problem. You make the thing you fear a reality.
Now, I'm going to flip things around and mess with your head a little:
Most women do prefer older men. Meaning that if they had two guys presented to them that were roughly equal in looks and other traits, a gal would probably instinctually be more attracted to the older one.
Why is this?
I believe it's because of several reasons.
1: A man takes longer to emotionally mature than a woman does. While we're out there giving each other wedgies and lighting farts, chicks are refining their understanding of men and relationships to a level that we can't even imagine.
2: A man tends to be much better capable of providing for a woman after he's older. Back in the caveman days, a woman who was biologically capable of bearing children looked for a man that was experienced enough to bring down a good mammoth or two. He�d help ensure her survival.
3: In terms of role models, most women develop their picture of an ideal mate from their father. I've personally noticed that women who had a good strong male role model as a father tend to make more stable girlfriends.
So most women prefer slightly older men. Is this so horrible? No. Are you ready for the good news?
As long as you ACT older, you ARE older.
Let me be clear: REALITY is just a concept. It's what you make of it. (Yeah, I know I'm starting to sound like Morpheus in 'The Matrix' movies, but hear me out.) If you excite a woman with behavior that she normally experiences with an older man, then you BECOME an older man in her eyes.
What a woman defines as reality comes to her through her six senses.
Yes, you read that right. SIX senses. The traditional five senses (hearing, taste, touch, smell, sight) and her most important sense - her SIXTH sense - her 'intuition.' Her EMOTIONAL sense. Her gut-feel.
Your appearance projects some of your maturity, and your attitude conveys the rest. Your behavior defines who you are to her at a very deep level. When you ACT like an older man, she will respond to you as if you ARE an older man. Then it becomes her REALITY.
And if you do the right things and turn her attraction on to you, and she somehow finds out you're 18, you make it HER problem.
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HER: "You're 18?"
YOU: "Is that a problem for you?"
HER: "Well..."
YOU: "Because I'm not sure I want to be seen with an older woman. I might get a reputation."
- or -
HER: "I don't date guys that young."
YOU: "FIRST of all, you're moving pretty fast here. I never said I was going to date you. Second of all, it's not a question of whether I'm old enough for you ... I don't know if you're old enough for ME."
Your attitude right now says: I'm 18 - and that's a problem.
Your attitude needs to be: I'm 18 - and that means you are the luckiest damn woman on the planet, honey.
How about you? Are you still hoping to get "lucky"?
Take "luck" out of the equation. When a person says "luck" they really mean "I want to do as little work as possible and still keep a faint hope of getting what I want." This is the lottery mentality.
Instead of hoping for luck, why not MAKE OPPORTUNITY for yourself?
You see, I believe that EVERY man deserves to have a woman by his side ... and three or four if he so desires. I've devoted my life to helping people and training them for more and better success.
I've talked to guys the world over who have made a REAL difference in their lives by taking the first step on the right path - learning. Once you understand, your world opens up.
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Ask yourself: Do you want to wind up in your rocking chair whining about all the things you SHOULD have done?
Seize this opportunity. It's time to start WINNING.
Ask yourself:
Wouldn't it be great to learn how women REALLY think and work?
Wouldn't it be fantastic to finally put aside your fears of them once and for all? Approach women anywhere and anytime?
The cure for this kind of fear is the TRUTH.
(Remember: FEAR= False Evidence Appearing Real.)
Education leads to understanding. Understanding leads to better choices. Better choices lead to better results.
And results are ALL that matters when it comes to the game of women.
I can show you the way to better results and success with women, and it's all in my e-book - THE DATING BLACK BOOK. You need to download it from here.
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... When is a woman playing you or REALLY interested?
... How do you stop being strung along for weeks and weeks by women, and how do you turn them on to you instead of you being turned into another girlfriend?
... How do you meet MORE hot women?
... How do you get them attracted to you right from the start?
... How do you stop paying for dates that go NOWHERE?
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-Carlos
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He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
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"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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