Dating Advice for Men - How to Approach Women, Attract Women, and Dating Advice to Meet Girls

CARLOS XUMA -
DATING ADVICE FOR MEN NEWSLETTER:

The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...

In fact, we'd prefer to never entertain thoughts of that kind of misfortune in our lives. But we want the protection in case it DOES.

How can a woman know if you're the man who will make her feel safe?

By setting clear and definite boundaries of acceptable behavior.

If this sounds like some kind of California new-age speak, guess again.

Boundaries are the most critical element of a relationship, because they give each person clear expectations, and they give our emotions the right amount of resistance.

An unbridled emotion is like a loose bolt of lightning. It will wreak as much destruction as it can before it finally grounds itself out.

This is where the "Alpha Man" behavior comes into play, and why I talk about it so much. I used to describe this as the "Dynamic Man" because he understood the dynamics of the dating scene and could adjust, because he came from a place of confidence.

I now add on to that definition to include many many more behaviors that communicate to a woman that you are a dominant and high-value man.

So what do you do to keep this woman?

Keep up the banter.

Keep up the playful teasing.

Keep up your standards.

Keep up the effort.

Keep up the power of your cockiness and take-no-sh|t attitude. If she gives you a hard time, give her one back. Don't ever let an interaction go by where she feels like she bested you and grabbed the steering wheel away from you.

Why?

Because you'll be setting a very bad precedent, and starting down a very slippery slope. She'll panic inside, thinking "Ohmigosh! He's starting to get wimpy on me!"

And then you get lazier and lazier, just wanting to keep the emotional water calm and smooth.

A truly vibrant relationship IS dynamic. It has waves - ups and downs. You have to be a good surfer to hang on.

Don't do what most guys do, which is seek the calm water in the middle. You have to learn to love the ride, but not get swamped by the waves. You stay on top by being skilled enough to ride and remain calm on the inside.

And the reality is that you need a lot more than cocky and funny to get women... There are a bunch of skills that you need to develop to win over the hot women you see every day.

I cover this and many other topics in my e-books and audio. If you're reading this and thinking that you'd like to learn more about how the REAL players get the women, you can download the information right away.

If you want to get that kind of understanding and control over your love life, you need to read my e-book. And you can get the benefits of my best e-books, RISK FREE for the next 90 days.

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Get my books, the audio, read them and hear me explain the strategies, and then put it to work for you right away.

I wrote them in a simple, easy-to-use format that ANYONE can learn. Nothing is complicated, and there's no dumb hypnosis routines to learn. Just the stuff that will help YOU get more success with women.

THE DATING BLACK BOOK - This e-book set covers the dating scene, from meeting women, to your best attitude, to strategies, to how to touch women, to driving up their attraction, to dumping them when you need to move on. Looking for a woman? This book shows you the BIG picture.

Put this link in your browser to download it (you may have to put www. in front of it): datingdynamics.com

SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN - This e-book and CD coaching covers your inner game, from meeting women, to cultivating complete confidence, to life and success strategies, to understanding what the winners and Alpha Men in life have that you can have, too. Looking for a better lifestyle and inner confidence, as well as more women? This book shows you a map to a more successful LIFE.

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Each month we go into loads of detail about every aspect of dating and seduction. From what to say to what to wear, to what to cook, to what to do when it's time to close the deal. Every session is over 100 minutes of top-quality digital audio that you can download and listen to right away. No waiting for a CD to ship!

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There are dozens of guys out there trying to pull in a fast buck selling you their books on fast seduction and the like. And some of them are decent quality books. But a LOT of them are just a waste of time. I think you guys can tell I'm not pulling your leg here.

I'm in this to help you, educating men to do better in their lives in the one thing that has eluded us for thousands of years - SUCCESS WITH WOMEN.

Is there ANYTHING more important?

Remember life is too short, and death is too long.

Don't wait until your heart is broken before you take steps to learn how this game is played.

Get the information on how to improve your dating life TODAY. Make the changes you need to make to get the love, sex, and relationships that you want and DESERVE to have.

I'll be back with more advice soon ...

This is the year for you to get successful with women!

- Carlos

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QUESTION:

Hey Carlos,

So I finally decided to take this seriously because I feel I have hit a boiling point. I am 20 and I feel that I am just bullshitting by just reading and not doing anything. So I found a wingman, and decided that this thursday, friday, and saturday I was going to hit up the clubs with my wingman.

We really have no particular goal in mind, other than just getting out there and trying to approach some females. We did drink a little (not too much though) and I started just approaching random girls. One thing though that I have noticed that I feel is holding me back tremendously is my anxiety.

I feel almost too anxious to talk to girls. I seriously try to force myself and sometimes I do approach, but sometimes its just too hard. When I have been approaching I have been getting mostly the cold shoulder and I just walk away or something. I do feel a sting of rejection but I felt that I have handled it pretty good considering I don't have much experience with girls at all and it was a challenge to my self esteem.

I kind of made it my goal to just socialize and I just go in and talk to anyone, ask them questions, just try to get as sociable as possible. I guess I wrote in to get your feedback or some encouragement because its my first time really being sooo committed to this and I kind of have an attitude that I am going to persist no matter what because I know that success will come eventually.

I think I am going to start reading more now and actually applying specific things instead of just going out there just saying anything to get my anxiety handled.

What do you think Carlos? Do you have any tips or advice that would help? Thanks so much.

Your loyal customer,

R

CARLOS:

You're getting the right idea.

At some point, you need to just say f*** it and get in there and get your hands dirty.

Where you are at right now is needing to get as much experience interacting with people. ALL people. ALL women. Not just hot girls or doing pickup.

Your commitment level is where it needs to be, and now you need to practice SPECIFIC strategies to use in approach. (The best ones are included as part of the Approach Women Program).

Right now you need to shoot for the lowest common denominator in your interactions. This means that if you are having problems getting the conversation started, get a TON of experience starting conversations with EVERYONE you meet or encounter.

If you're not talking to everyone you are weighting your approaches with anxiety because you think that only certain interactions are worth focusing on. In reality, NONE of them are.

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DELUSION 1) Telling her you "love her" before you "even know" is really an indicator of one thing: INSECURITY. You're trying to "lock in" the relationship so you can breathe easier. But you're killing the sexual tension necessary to make a relationship work. That's why she wants to be "just friends."

Where in the world would anyone get the idea that you can make a woman "yours"?

Guys run around with this fantasy because they're afraid of loss (i.e., scarcity mentality) and they want to make life nice and secure for themselves because they believe that a woman will only stay with him if he can obligate her to him - or somehow OWN her.

Get this good: No one in this world will ever be YOURS. You only a woman on LEASE. She's temporary, for as long as you can stay Alpha with her.

DELUSION 2) Your feelings for her aren't taking you over. Your lack of self-control is letting you act from unhealthy parts of your own thinking. There's only one person in the world that really controls you, and that's YOU. If you can't do that, I strongly suggest a few therapy sessions.

There's only one person at the steering wheel of your life. You do everything in your life by CHOICE my friend.

DELUSION 3) There is no "THE" woman for you. There's only this one and the NEXT one. If either of them are not what you are looking for, there's another one around the corner. (And the same is true of you for her, by the way.)

SOLUTION: Start taking control of your emotions. As a man, you cannot let yourself be "carried away" by your emotions like that. That's a sign of weakness that we only grant to crazy poets and artists. Alpha Men can't get away with this. It's wussy and wimpy.

Huh? What's that?

You want me to tell you HOW to stay in control?

Easy. Just DO IT!

There is no technique for this.

There is no shortcut for this.

There is only DOING it or NOT doing it.

Man up!

I'm not trying to be cruel here, but I see this in many of the kids I teach in the Martial Arts. The one thing the boys need more than anything is to grow a pair and stop being coddled by their parents. Most of the parents even understand this, which is why they bring their kids to me in the first place -� to instill some self-control and self-discipline.

Guess what? I'm not standing over your shoulder to bitch-slap you or man-hug you, or wet nurse your inner child. I'm here creating programs like the Secrets of the Alpha Man to show you how to do that work.

Now get to it!

The Alpha Man steers his life and his own actions. Wussies are the first to blame the "can't control" demon.

And when YOU take the first step that's where REAL change in your life will start.

Take your first step here...

- Carlos Xuma

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		"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"

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		"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
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- The Dean, Dating4Men.com
		"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
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		Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
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- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
        "Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.

		He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."

- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."

		- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"