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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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QUESTION:
Carlos,
Just some feedback from the Midwest (Michigan).
Regarding:
"You're pretty cute. It's a shame we're in a public place or I'd bite your ear. Maybe nibble on your earlobe. Kiss you along your neck. Then I'd probably go nuts and ravage you right there. Like I said, lucky we're in a public place."
I think if I tried something like this with a woman here, she would get scared, turn around and walk away. Is my response just "regional", that is, midwestern?
-A
CARLOS:
This is from another email of mine where I talk about how to create attraction tension between you and another woman.
You think that it would not work.
I think you're a victim of self-limiting beliefs. I lived in the midwest and it worked... Because I BELIEVED it.
Keep in mind that it is not the first thing you say to a woman, and it definitely should not be thrown into conversation without first generating some attraction. This is something to spice things up a bit later on.
But it WILL work if it's done with conviction.
99% of all regional concerns I hear from guys are rationalizations that have no basis in fact. It's always "different" where YOU live.
The fact is that you can easily adapt this to your region. (and customization is not only recommended, it's absolutely necessary.)
Have you tried it?
Don't do it half-assed, where you come across with a fearful vibe of a guy who is afraid of his own sxuality, either. That comes across as plain pitiful.
The world is full of "I don't think that would work..."
Prove me wrong, then we'll talk.
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QUESTION:
I have been receiving Alpha emails for a short amount of time and the information sounds interesting. �I need some advice or publication that would help me out with my particular situation. �I have been dating this woman for 2 months and the 1st month went very well, had sex, she was calling me "sweetie" "honey" etc.. �
Then she let me know 4 weeks after we had been dating that her ex-boyfriend of 3 years had called her to go to dinner (he broke up with her), I said "no problem if you need time to figure things take some time and call me in August". �She said that was not necessary, she still wanted to see me. �
Shortly after this we were out at the bar with some friends playing pool with some strangers and she kissed some random guy, so I went up, told the guy to back off and almost started a fight. �She told me to be mad at her and not the guy as it meant nothing to her, she was just flirting. �I told her this is not acceptable behavior around me and she agreed it would not happen again. �Should I dump her, or just pull back and call her in 3 weeks?
Thanks, DP
CARLOS:
I read this and immediately had a vision of this woman, having dealt with many like her before. She's giving off red flags, but you're ignoring them for cheap superficial signals like affection and sex. Sorry to tell you, man ... these things are STANDARD EQUIPMENT with any woman. Your expectations are coming from a scarcity point of view.
Rarely do I feel that my advice needs to be so short and sweet, but if I were to sum it up in less than 10 words ....
Dump her. She�s a tramp.
She�s playing you and your emotions like a grand piano.
Any Alpha Man would have calmly broken it off with her the second she brought up an "ex" boyfriend. Chances are, she's his booty call, and you'll be the chump that nicely gives her some "space" while she goes off to have screaming, deep inner orgasms with him.
Sound a bit extreme?
Nope. Not a bit.
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There's a difference between giving a woman space in a wimpy way and knowing when you're going down the old heartache trail. When a woman feels compelled to let you in on this information, it's a test or it's her way of letting you know that she's got unresolved feelings for him.
Oh, and for the record, she was actually right about something. You should have been mad at her instead of that guy. It was HER choice to jeopardize what she had with you. What you should have done was say, "Hey, man, you want her? She's cheap." Take a quarter from the change on the bar. "Okay, she's yours."
Letting him have her is even better than fighting him. Give the gift that keeps on giving, I say.
"Meant nothing," huh? If that was true, she wouldn't have kissed him. And if it was true, she lacks self-control. She'll be doing it again next week. Just try and get a restful night's sleep the next time she goes out "with the girls."
The next time this happens to you (I fear the lesson may not be learned as deeply as possible yet), I want you to do this at the first sign of poor behavior or potential red flags:
Do not give her another chance!
You've already let her get away with two episodes of severe dating misconduct. You're demonstrating that you'll take anything she does as long as there's a chance you'll get some at a later date.
It's not about if you should dump her or wait 3 weeks. This is showing that you actually value her enough to want some kind of manipulative result. When a woman violates your standards of behavior in any way, she is GONE.
At least she is in my world.
I don't mind telling you about these strategies because I want you to understand what women are REALLY attracted to. It's not fake, pushy tactics or hypnosis. Women are attracted to authenticity and strength of character.
And that's what REAL men have.
And if you'd like to learn more about REAL Game and the successful attitudes of an Alpha Man, you should take a look at the program that will put you on the path - The Secrets of the Alpha Man.
http://www.alphaseduction.com
Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
I'll be back with more advice soon ...
- Carlos Xuma
"Carlos
Not sure if this will actually get to you. Just wanted to say "You KICK ASS!!"
I honestly havent felt this confident and had so much control with a women ever.
Thanks.
You're Bigger than life!,
keep it coming
Sincerely, Ron S."
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QUESTION:
I've noticed recently that my cocky and funny and confidence from reading your stuff has given me a good amount of popularity among people in my college. Not just with girls, but male friends as well.
Within the past few months I have got A LOT of new friends added to my phone and people often rely on me to plan and organize social events and little group gatherings.
The problem is, there are so many people who want to hang out with me its hard for me to find time for them or plan things with any of the few groups I hang out with.
I know this question doesn't have a lot to do with dating. But more towards the social life of an Alpha man.
How do I keep track of al these people? Its starting to get confusing for me...
CARLOS FEELS SORRY FOR YOU - NOT!
It feels good, doesn't it?
That sudden increase in your social network. Being in demand for once...
And no matter what we may think about popularity, and how we turn our noses at it, it sure does feel GOOD, doesn't it?
I used to be a real loner. I remember this time in high school when I got a school jacket with our school colors and everything. Now, I was a poor kid, and I couldn't afford to buy one, but apparently they accidentally gave me one thinking that I'd ordered it.
I wore that jacket around and felt ... proud. I felt like I finally belonged. I wasn't weird or different than the others around me. I lost my teenage maladjustment for just a week or so. I got along with people better and I felt more social.
And then they found me. The teachers realized I didn't buy the jacket, so I had to give it back. After my disappointment, I thought that I had just been acting that whole time. That gave me the justification to going back to my old self again.
The reality was that my old self WAS the act.
And the other part of the reality was that nothing changed about ME, just my thoughts.
It was my own insecurities and beliefs about my place in the school pecking order.
For two weeks I was part of the "in crowd" based on this stupid school jacket.
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Funny, huh?
Now, it took me years to get over those feelings of inferiority and insecurity, but I did. And when I did, and I discovered that I could have as many friends as I wanted, I started to respond to this sudden social wealth in my life by wanting to attend to it all. Make sure no one slipped through the cracks.
Now, you gotta admit - this is a pretty good problem to have, isn't it? Tons of friends and an active social life. (All from the stuff you learned from me, but most of it was already inside you, my young Paduan.)
Well, guess what? You don't have to keep track of everything and organize it all. You can just go along for the ride.
Most guys WISH they had this problem in their lives, so I'm sure I'll get emails about how all the readers want to start a charity in your name.
Uh, yeah, sure.
Anyway...
Here's an idea or two for your social logistic problem - get a Palm Pilot, or some kind of PDA. Keep all your contacts and numbers in there.
Then, make THEM plan a few things. Unless you like being a party organizer, I'd say you need to make sure your friends are aware that they can plan a few events and get-togethers here and there.
Remember, too, I don't usually condone the whole "cocky/funny" thing on its own. It can be a very shallow technique used on its own. But, if it's used with a good sense of calmness and confidence, you'll get the effect that you're experiencing.
You get a lot of new friends.
A wider social circle
More women in your life. (A little bonus...)
And all your free time gets used up because you're now socially valuable.
That's what an Alpha Man is - socially desired.
He knows that it's not the anti-social jerk that gets to have all the fun (and the women) in life, but the guy who's calm and confident in his own skin, and can still be liked by others.
The Alpha Man also knows that self-development is the path to a better life. It all starts with getting educated.
Education leads to understanding. Understanding leads to better choices. Better choices lead to better results.
And results are ALL that matters when it comes to the game of women.
I can show you the way to better results and success with women, and it's all in my e-books - THE DATING BLACK BOOK and THE SEDUCTION METHOD.
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