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Saturday, 4:05 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...

QUESTION: Brad's a Wuss:

I have noticed�something�immediately as�result of reading your�book.

I am big time James Bond Fan; Connery first, Brosnon second in the all time best bond list.� I also dig Thomas�Crown's persona and identity. (Thomas Crown Affair)

It all begins in the mind with Bond and Crown; the way they carry�themselves is awesome, you feel their power.

I have embraced a new belief and mantra, which is.� " I am already an Alpha Man (with the�cape�to match)�and a natural because nature has�programmed me this way from the word go".

Just by feeling the power of this incantation, my whole�body has shifted into a new physiology.� This is not an arrogant posture but�pure emotion which has shifted the way I carry myself.�

It's a new feeling for me and process;� my problem has been a lack of "belief in myself as man", due to a variety of issues which have been dealt with, now that I have your�fabulous work to educate myself, I can see a better outcome.

I am already in a�relationship,� but man, I am getting so many tests, left right and centre and just need some better strategies to deal with�women's�unpredictable nature.� My goal is is to enhance the way I communicate with women all round and to project my true�identity�as an alpha male. (I like Fj Shark who say's "nothing will affect your�financial future more than your relationships with women)

Thanks Bro

Hope to meet you one day

Later

Mike V
London

Ps: Is it my�imagination but has Brad Pit allowed himself to "wussfied"� ? this guy is such a natural but something is not quite right with our bro Brad. what do you think?

CARLOS:

Thanks for the kind words.

I get so many of these emails from guys each day who have discovered this personal realization for themselves that if I posted them all, I'd be accused of being some shameless self-promoter.

I think that all guys will eventually come to this realization, but it will take a LOT of mental re-programming to get it done right.

Remember that for each negative you throw into your brain, you need about 10 positives to counteract it. That's the horrible power of the dark side. Doing the right thing is not for the lazy.

Enough said.

Oh, and yes, you're right. Brad has gone the way of the wimp. He's kissing Angelina's arse, and mark my words if this one doesn't become another fly-by-night Hollywood romance. Then Brad will go on all the talk shows and cry.

Just remember him from "Fight Club" and all will be well...

I think I should send Brad a copy of my Secrets of the Alpha Man course... what do you think?

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QUESTION: CAN YOU BE A GEEK AND GET SOME?

Hey Carlos, I just have a question about your answer in the last field report that's on your blog.

Here it is:

I may have been too harsh in my discussion of guys and one night stands. I don't have anything against them. What I don't want is a bunch of guys seeking ego improvement through notching their bedposts.

The thing that I don't understand is that I always thought that to improve your ego and your confidence is by getting with a lot of girls. But by your answer I believe that I'm wrong.So Carlos, can you help me understand so I can get on the right path.

CARLOS:

This is a common misconception about how your self-esteem works.

You see, you can increase your self-esteem with "external" proof like this. By sleeping with a bunch of women, I can feel better about my attractiveness to the other sex.

Let's face it: Sometimes you need that proof on the outside so you can feel better on the inside.

THE DILEMMA:

If I get more women, I'll be more confident.

But I can't get more women until I'm more confident... which will then make me more confident, right?

That's the dirty cycle I'm trying to break. Why should you have to wait until you get good with women to improve your self-esteem and self-confidence?

But here's what I don't want you doing: Thinking that success with women will complete your world and this will make you a real man.

You see, getting women WILL increase your confidence and ego. But it is only a quick-fix.

Every single guy who has ever gone down the path of chasing women to validate his ego has found it sorely lacking, by my reckon. (I've been watching a lot of "Deadwood" these days, so bear with my lingo...)

You will never fill the void with a woman. If anything, a woman will only make the emptiness in you more apparent, or create some kind of co-dependency and unhealthy relationship.

So here's what I propose to all you guys:

Get yourself more successful and happy in your own life - at the same time as you are working on these skills.

One will reinforce the other.

The full battle plan for this is what I teach with The Secrets of the Alpha Man

Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.

I'll be back with more advice soon ...

- Carlos Xuma

QUESTION:

Hey Carlos,

I have been beating myself up over a situation recently at work. Well, I have been working with this girl from my job for about 3 months now, and I have been busting her balls consistently and not taking any of her sh*t. She has been interested in me for the longest time, and has showed the most interest the past several days than any other time before (I have heard from friends that she wishes I would ask her out and she is in love with me and all that).

I feel as if she has waited so long for me to express interest back that since I havent expressed interest after those several days that I feel like its over.

I just cant seem to get up the courage to ask her to come join me for some fun or even her number (fear of progressing)! Today, I came back from work beating myself up for not progressing. I am pissed off Carlos, can you please help me out man? Thanks.

CARLOS:

Okay, so what I hear is something that I think a LOT of guys can relate to.

Let's start first by putting this in perspective. You're doing really good work just by busting her chops and teasing her the right way.

Most guys won't go this far in fear of "scaring her off" or "offending her." They don't realize that what women want most is a guy that can come from a place of power.

Some guys out there call this a "dominant frame."

Whatever. You don't need terminology. You need a solution.

After you've managed to tease her a little and get a little cocky... what then?

How do you continue?

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This has to be one of the biggest stumbling blocks a guy can run into.

There are two things going on here that are crippling your ability to act:

1) You are afraid of rejection

2) You are afraid of success

Whoah.

There's a pretty big revelation in here if you guys can see it. I'm giving up one of the biggest motivational secrets here, and if you can unlock this psychological mechanism correctly, you're going to see a very new landscape in front of you.

Most guys run around with this dual fear pressing them from all sides. It's a potent one and

I can show you the way to better results and success with women, and I've got a program (with audio) that will put you on the path to overcoming this problem.

In the Secrets of the Alpha Man, I cover how to understand your self-image so completely that this sort of thing will not trap you again.

And in case you haven't heard about it by now, my latest program is now shipping...

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I'll be back with more advice soon ...

- Carlos

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