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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 4:00 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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SPECIAL - NEWS!
You guys asked me to let you know when the next audio coaching session was ready, and I'm here to tell you that it's finally arrived.
SESSION 31 for April 2006 is now ready for download. This month we cover:
This Month's Session includes:
THE MISSION - Exercise to improve your Approach Skills: Baselining your approach skills, How to identify your discomfort, how to lower your anxiety, how to find a step you can take approaching women, finding a common starting point, how to dissect and dispel the fear, identifying your anxiety, How to quantify your next steps and adjustments, and more ...
FIELD REPORT - THE "W" - We review a field outing to the "W" bar in the XYZ hotel of San Francisco, How to take control of the interaction, how to demonstrate value, How women will handle the conversation, How to handle subtle AMOGing, Getting the conversation intimate, Simplicity of the approach, Recognizing when you're "in", and more ...
ONE-ITIS - What One-itis is, How to know if you have it, ways to counter it, Abundance mentality, The one factor that will kill any relationship, The D.O.W. cure, Dividing your attention, how to use enthusiasm and sincerity, What you must have to be successful in any dating situation, Why you must avoid the "trickle," Why field work is essential, Exercise - Scarcity identification, and more ...
INTRODUCTION TO ONLINE DATING - Learn the critical basics for online dating, which women use online dating, Why women use it, why you must avoid the no-fly zone, how to create an interesting profile (with written example in the mini-e-book), Statistics of onine dating, What most women and men are doing wrong, what to watch out for with a woman's picture, how to add spice to your profile, how to test your picture, why you can't use a form letter, how to ensure she responds to you, and more ...
ROMANTIC CHALLENGE - The obstacles between you and her that you must create, why women love challenge, The "Lost" example, Delayed gratification and why it's necessary, what barriers represent to a woman, why a woman doesn't respond and what you must do, what flirting really is and why you use it, and more ...
UNIVERSAL APPROACH STRATEGY - Why conversations fail with women, Keeping the conversation fun, How women communicate differently than men, what you must give a woman in conversation, the best compliment you can hear from a woman and what it means, The "bookends" of your approach that will remove approach anxiety, why most openers don't work, why you run out of talk and find that uncomfortable silence, what most guys never do in conversation, handling the timing of the approach, where approach anxiety comes from, how to use ATC correctly, controlling the conversation...
and a LOT more ...
Not only do you get the 120+ minutes of each session when you subscribe, but you also get these bonuses:
1) Access to the Alpha Man Power Forum with hundreds of tips, posts, and advice you can discuss with other Alpha Men
2) SIX additional HOURS of Carlos Xuma's first podcasts
3) A monthly bonus e-book
4) Monthly bonus Dating Advice Teleconference calls in MP3 format, with exclusive Q&A from Carlos Xuma
You can get it here:
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And if you subscribe this month, I'll even throw in last month's session for you at no additional charge...
SESSION 30 was just as huge, and we covered this awesome material:
* THE APPROACH - How to "switch on" the right mode for approaching women with the most success, Turning yourself into an "approach machine", Understanding your pain threshold, Using the Lottery Winner mentality, Keeping motivation and inertia going, What negative approach frames are, how to motivate yourself from failure, The approach mindset to hold for a lifetime, Field example of the "art chicks," How to break down the insecure barriers, and more ...
* CARLOS XUMA'S CONCEPTS - The Alpha Man Model and qualities, sensitive men, The Three S's and what they mean to you, Pain and Pleasure as a motivator, Inner and outer game, frame control explained, The Jeet Kune Do of pickup - No Style, How to adapt to your personality, Upward and Downward spirals, Attitudes of an Alpha Man, and more...
* CARLOS XUMA'S CONCEPTS - PT. II - Success Strategies for the Alpha Man, Time management, goal setting, planning, How to use lifestyle modeling, Multiple streams of female income, Time value of relationships, What your emotional capital is and how to keep reserves, Scarcity and Abundance - how they impact your game, How to short circuit chasing and insecurity, How to manage your thinking, How to motivate yourself the right way, The cure for approach anxiety, How to use direct and indirect correctly, The ultimate state of success with women, The primary elements of Storytelling, and more ...
* THE MENTAL TRAP OF IDLE TIME - Time to Dwell Syndrome, and how it ruins your dating, How infatuation works, and how to avoid getting stuck in it, Mistakes guys make that push them to obsession, What gives a woman comfort to move forward with you, The "Thoughtful" mistake, Dating more than one woman, How to be "easy to be around," The curling concept, The cure for depression, and more...
* HANDLING FLAKES - The updated strategy on how to handle women who flake on you, what you must NOT do, How to use the principle of aversion conditioning, How to use detachment, the flake-handling tactics, Why she flakes, how to turn it around, and more ...
* SELF-CONFIDENCE STRATEGIES - How to recognize the effects of low self confidence, Handling frustration and anger, What confidence is NOT and why appearances are misleading, The 6 laws of self-confidence and self-esteem, What to do to raise your self-confidence, What you don't know about other people's self confidence, and more ..
You'll get both of these sessions when you sign up for the Audio Coaching Subscription right away.
There is a bonus e-book included with every month of the audio now, too. There's a ton of extra tips and strategies you don't get in the audio.
Guys, this is really nuts. I'm not a salesman, I'm just your friendly neighborhood dating advice dude. I've been delivering the goods in these audio coaching programs for almost 3 years now, and we're getting better with every session...
It's time to subscribe. As one of my preferred readers, I'm sending you an exclusive link to join today and get all this fantastic stuff for a RIDICULOUSLY low rate.
Here's your special link:
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Go to this page and download your first two sessions, along with the bonuses, right now...
Go have a look at what the subscribers are saying about this transformational program.
- Carlos Xuma
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I didn't want to have to write you this email.
But if I didn't, you might not get my newsletters anymore. And that would really suck.
It's come to my attention that there will be some major filtering put in place with many of the email providers out there. It will happen soon.
Now, I hate those damn emails about all kinds of dru.gs and dick growth stuff as much as you, so I'm happy about that. But on the other hand, it makes it tougher for me to get my stuff to you.
So how do you fix this?
You just have to make sure you add me to your email address book to ensure that I'm "white listed." That means that you'll continue to get my dating advice newsletters regularly. This does NOT in any way allow anyone to send you junk mail
If you don't it could be the last time you hear from us. (And I've got some exciting stuff coming up in the next few newsletters, so don't let it go.)
How do you make sure you're able to keep getting these newsletters?
Simple. Just do the following:
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* Go to your Yahoo! Inbox
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* Type in � datingdynamics.com� in the first entry field titled: �From header� � make sure NOT to check the box next to �match case�
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* Click on Add Filter (bottom left)
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* Check for emails from Datingdynamics.com
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o Click on the Not spam button in the menu bar (top, right of center � next to Delete Forever button)
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Please do it right now, before you forget, or you might miss the next newsletter. Once we get two bounce-backs from the same address, we have to take you off our list, and this will happen a lot once the new filters take effect.
Now, here's a quick bit of advice to make up for all that boring crap:
REJECTION
Why is it so difficult to handle rejection?
I'm going to talk with you briefly about the labors of setting up my sites and way back when I wrote the Dating Dynamics programs. Bear with me, because I think you'll find this relevant to your dating. It's a great example.
It took a while to get a large membership list started and a great deal of effort to get the Dating Dynamics site known out there, and then stir up some activity. It took even more effort to compile and complete the e-book, THE DATING BLACK BOOK.
How successful do you think I'd be if I let "rejection" affect what I do for you in this field?
If you said, not very successful, you'd be right on, man.
I bring you this content every week, ad-free, so that you and I can develop the Trust we need to be successful. I'm persistent in giving you information, and I love the feedback and questions you guys supply.
What kind of success would you think I'd have if I let other people make me feel bad about what I do? Or if they told me they didn't like it and wouldn't come back to the site?
What would happen the first time someone sent an email to me criticizing me and saying "take me off your damn list." (Honestly, it hasn't happened yet, but I'm sure it could.)
What do I do if a couple people wrote in disagreeing with me and rejecting me? Should I nod my head and walk away? Should I consider taking down the site?
NO WAY.
If you believe in something strongly enough, you will persevere. A couple rejections do not shake my certainty. (Nor should they shake YOURS.)
I thrive on controversy. If you're presenting something out there as neutral and inoffensive, chances are you've watered it down to where it's ineffective and untruthful, too.
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I won't do that. I had originally planned to publish THE DATING BLACK BOOK through traditional publishers, but I didn't want to compromise the information I put in it. I wanted to be able to tell you the TRUTH, not a sellout.
So the point of my telling you this is to turn it back around to you -- How affected are you by a woman's rejection...? Does it make you uneasy? Scared? Humiliated? Why do you feel that way? And do you feel this way when a guy rejects you by not being your buddy? I suspect not to the same degree, if at all.
If you had a message to communicate, and let's just say that message was: "I'm a fantastic guy, and you NEED to know me better, because I'll rock your world, honey," what kind of belief do you think you need to back that up?
You've got to develop a ROCK-SOLID belief in yourself to communicate that message with conviction and authenticity. When you believe that message (and it's something I think EVERY guy wants to be able to do), you will persevere and communicate confidence to a woman.
And as a result you will get more dates, more sex, more relationships, more everything from your interactions with women. One or two (or even dozens) of rejections won't bother you in the slightest.
No matter what you do, there will ALWAYS be someone who doesn't like you or appreciate you. That's life. Get over it.
What you must do is to build your belief in yourself to a FEVER PITCH.
When you get there, you'll know that the women that aren't into you actually make you feel BETTER about yourself. That sounds weird, but it WILL happen. If you're liked by people of LOW quality, what does that say about you?
The solution is to PERSEVERE. Go beyond what you thought you were capable of to provide a woman with something she desperately needs: A self-confident man.
I'll be back with more advice soon ...
- Carlos Xuma
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"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
tactics and techniques in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner game.' From
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- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
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"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
valuable advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many, many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
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- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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