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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 3:40 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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QUESTION:
Carlos,
Hey, I have been reading your newsletters and have found myself in a bit of a bad situation lately. I am one of those attractive dudes that always has good luck with the ladies (at first) but problems start showing up with time and relationships.
I have been dating a girl for 6 months now but the last week with her has been a living hell. Before I get to something more specific let me say that when I met her I was extremely cocky bordering arrogant with humor thrown in. She has complained about me being cocky since about the first week.
Now, I hear time and time again how she wants to know where she stands and that she loves me regardless of my being cocky. She tells me that she would like a "nice" Stan instead of a cocky one. I quess I need a biiiaaatch slap from you because today for the first time in 6 months I sent a long e-mail (not mushy - but just a bit too revealing). I hope that I can be forgiven for this Alpha Man sin...
Any suggestions on recovery?
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CARLOS ANSWERS:
First of all, you guys are thinking WAY too black & white.
I never told you that you couldn't tell a woman how you felt ... just not in the first 10-12 dates at least!
And right now, I'm not too convinced that your moment of "wimping" was really to blame.
Here is the most common mistake guys make with women - and how to avoid making it ...
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
- Carlos Xuma
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QUESTION:
Carlos,
Your advice has been right on in the past. I am feeling a little pressure at the moment because my girlfriend is displaying some control tactics.
I know that if I just call her on her behaviors that this would slow down because I am aware that she is reaching out for boundaries and testing to see if I am an Alpha. Last night I feel that she got away with TOO MUCH. I won't be seeing her for a couple of days and I didn't want this to slide too long.
My thoughts are to send the following letter pieced together from some of your newsletters. Any advice?
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CARLOS ANSWERS:
It's tempting to call a woman on her testing behavior. Sometimes you feel like it might be best to "put her in her place" and show her who the MAN is. After all, you're just getting the hang of this Alpha thing, and it makes sense to demonstrate your strength, right?
But in this case it's WRONG.
Read his letter to the girl, and my complete answer here:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
- Carlos Xuma
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QUESTION:
Hey Carlos,
I have a problem, a few weeks ago me and a mate went to his local shopping centre one night and we walked past this amazing young female, she is on of those angels that come in through your window in your dreams. I made the mistake of telling my mate that i thought she was incredible. it turns out he goes to school with this girl. He is in some of the same classes as her and has since told her that I have this huge crush on her, which isnt true I just thought she was beautiful.
But this is where my problem comes in, Id like to introduce myself to her but I now fear that my mate has ruined my chances of getting her number and hopefully a date with this girl.
What should I do...?
Please Help
Steve
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CARLOS ANSWERS:
First of all, Steve, take your love-fogged glasses off and stop idolizing women based on their looks.
You say you don't have a crush on her, but I suspect that's not entirely true. You wouldn't be writing me if she was just a passing fancy.
She's not a magical, mystical entity. She's not "incredible." She's not even "amazing" until she demonstrates some positive qualities beyond her appearance.
Get me?
Find out how to handle it when your friends mess with you in my latest newsletter here:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
And also find out if men should ACCEPT women for what they are, or should we try and change them...
- Carlos Xuma
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Most guys don't approach women because they haven't got the SKILLS to APPROACH WOMEN. Once you have them, you'll feel less anxious and you'll actually DO IT.
It's time to learn the TRUTH about women ... and attraction.
It's all about your Inner Game...
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