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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 2:55 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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QUESTION:
Hey Carlos,
So I finally decided to take this seriously because I feel I have hit a boiling point. I am 20 and I feel that I am just bullshitting by just reading and not doing anything. So I found a wingman, and decided that this thursday, friday, and saturday I was going to hit up the clubs with my wingman.
We really have no particular goal in mind, other than just getting out there and trying to approach some females. We did drink a little (not too much though) and I started just approaching random girls. One thing though that I have noticed that I feel is holding me back tremendously is my anxiety.
I feel almost too anxious to talk to girls. I seriously try to force myself and sometimes I do approach, but sometimes its just too hard. When I have been approaching I have been getting mostly the cold shoulder and I just walk away or something. I do feel a sting of rejection but I felt that I have handled it pretty good considering I don't have much experience with girls at all and it was a challenge to my self esteem...
... What do you think Carlos? Do you have any tips or advice that would help?
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CARLOS:
I have felt this so many times. It's the single most limiting situation to be in with a woman, because you can't get ANYWHERE if you don't approach her.
Read my answer and the way to get past your approach anxiety here:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
- Carlos Xuma
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QUESTION:
Hey Carlos,
So I finally decided to take this seriously because I feel I have hit a boiling point. I am 20 and I feel that I am just bullshitting by just reading and not doing anything. So I found a wingman, and decided that this thursday, friday, and saturday I was going to hit up the clubs with my wingman.
We really have no particular goal in mind, other than just getting out there and trying to approach some females. We did drink a little (not too much though) and I started just approaching random girls. One thing though that I have noticed that I feel is holding me back tremendously is my anxiety.
I feel almost too anxious to talk to girls. I seriously try to force myself and sometimes I do approach, but sometimes its just too hard. When I have been approaching I have been getting mostly the cold shoulder and I just walk away or something. I do feel a sting of rejection but I felt that I have handled it pretty good considering I don't have much experience with girls at all and it was a challenge to my self esteem...
... What do you think Carlos? Do you have any tips or advice that would help?
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CARLOS:
I have felt this so many times. It's the single most limiting situation to be in with a woman, because you can't get ANYWHERE if you don't approach her.
Read my answer and the way to get past your approach anxiety here:
/dating-advice-for-men-newsletters/dating-advice-newsletter-8-15-06.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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QUESTION:
... While I love being with women and enjoy all aspects of the game from a successful seduction to a crash and burn and coming away with experience, I can see their point that I used to go out and have a good time without any of that being necessary and maybe its unhealthy if I'm becoming too reliant upon it? or perhaps they are just exaggerating because of jealousy.
Your opinion would be greatly appreciated Carlos, at the end of the day all i want (like everyone) is long term happiness, but I'm doubting which route i should take.
Yours,
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CARLOS ANSWERS:
This is a good question about how we can get caught up in the pursuit of women as a lifestyle.
There's a good and a bad level of focus, and we all need to swing the pendulum to the extremes to find the middle.
Should he doubt himself?
Read my answer - and about how to make sure a woman respects you - here:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
- Carlos Xuma
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