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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 2:40 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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QUESTION:
Man I know that someone has asked you this before, but for a refresher I was wondering when and what questions are good to dodge from women.
I was good enough to meet her and get her number, then once we started talking on the phone I felt as I was getting the third degree. For the most part I don't offer to much information at all.
She asked me where I worked work, my age, my middle name???, and the normal stuff you would expect when you get to know someone.
But I felt a few RED flags were raised on a few of the simple questions. Like where I work. I basically let her pull the information out of me. She asked me I told her the City, She asked again I told her the company, She asked again I told her the department and then I moved on to me asking her what she did. I don't think that I messed up too bad since she has called me again...
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CARLOS:
I thought I'd take this question on again, because it cuts right through to the essence of female testing. It's called... (Drum roll) the Interview Test. There are a lot of tricks to handling this, but all of them come from one core and critical element.
Go read the rest of the question and my answer on the newsletter page right now:
/dating-advice-for-men-newsletters/dating-advice-newsletter-7-25-06.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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QUESTION: What does he have...?
Carlos,
Not to beat a dead horse or anything, but I gotta tell you about my roommate because I want to understand more about what he is doing and how he is doing it.
First off, he's a great guy and one of my best friends here at school. He's got my back to the very end and I don't doubt it for a second.
But, everywhere we go... and I mean EVERYWHERE, girls flock to him... literally. We'll be on the street, hot girls just stare at him. We'll be at a party or a bar, hot girls approach him, now imagine that! I think you know where I'm going with this. He is a good looking guy and all, but it's got to be something more than just that.
Bottom line is I WANT HIS RESULTS! And, I want to know how he achieves them. Advice?
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CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Yeah, don't we all.
When we see a 'natural' - a guy who is naturally attractive to women - we sometimes fall into the mistaken belief that he's got something magical - an ability that must surely make him a holy being. (Yeah, I'm exaggerating, but not far from what you're thinking in your head.)
Again, it's a comparison trap that you can fall into when you look at another person and want THEIR results.
You CAN'T have his results specifically. It's chasing something you can't control right now, and it will actually lower your ability.
Here's why ...
... follow this link below or copy and paste it into your browser to find out how the comparison game kills you:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
* If you have problems with that link, cut and paste this into your browser window:
www.datingdynamics.com/dating-advice-newsletter-current.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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QUESTION:
Here is a long question. I am involved with this woman that we have been connected for a long time. We go back and forth with the fighting and such.She says were are friends but act like more. Then she says I disrespect her when I tell her I love her.
But when we are together she acts differently when we talk on the phone or email. What she says and what she feels is different. There is so much fear and anger from past relations that is trying to recreate those. I can recognize that now.
She wants to end the contact but in her emails there is so much energy that I know she really does not want to. She went away for about 4 months and then came back.
She always give me hint of the connection. What do you think is the best way to get past her head.When she is not in the head she can feel but when she is it is difficult. Need some clarity.
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CARLOS ANSWERS WITH CLARITY:
Let me tell you something... Women have been playing this innocent dual-personality gambit for as long as time itself.
Hell, I used to get caught up in it before I learned what was really happening.
I'm going to be blunt here, since I'm in one of those moods. Plus, I just had my gums irrigated. And since I don't do anesthetics, I'm in a surly mood.
Read my answer here, and tell me if I was too mean...
/dating-advice-for-men-newsletters/dating-advice-newsletter-8-1-06.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
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"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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