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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 1:55 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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QUESTION: Still living with Mom?
I have a quick question. By me telling women I'm a 24 year old male still staying at home with my mother stop the action? It seems like everytime I tell a woman I still stay at home with my mother at 24 years old they either stop trying to kick it with me, or make an excuse as to why they can't hang out. Even when my mother isn't there.
I was talking to a friend who said no woman is going to want to fuck or lay up under me in my mother's house.
Any advice?
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CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Well, let's figure this out...
First of all, whenever you're in a situation that can be viewed as a negative, it's your job - your DUTY - to make it a positive. Life hands you lemons, you make lemonade. Not in some kind of dumb, deny-the truth kind of way, either. You simply take life by the lemons and SQUEEEEEEZE until you get the lemonade.
Hmmm... that's not really an appetizing metaphor, but you get what I mean.
Lately there's been that video of "The Secret" being passed around, and it's become something of a phenomenon. Now the essential message of "The Secret" has been around for thousands of years. I learned it back when I was about 22. I was a self-development junkie, and I got the Earl Nightingale recording of "The Strangest Secret." (He had a "gold" record for this WAY back when, and he was the first person to really popularize the concept.)
The message is simply: You become what you think about.
BUT - most people are being misled by the video. Here's how...
... follow this link below or copy and paste it into your browser to find out why this is true:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
* If you have problems with that link, cut and paste this into your browser window:
www.datingdynamics.com/dating-advice-newsletter-current.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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QUESTION:
I think your Alpha Man programs are great even for men that are quite successful with women.
I�ve never had much trouble with women but I do hit a sticking point every once in a while... I met this woman many years ago when she was a cocktail waitress in college. We did not date and did not really get to know each other then. Years later I ran into her again. I immediately approached her and had a date set within a few minutes. We had a nice date and she made comments on a few things we should do with each other. Like she was trying to insure a future date.
Several days later when we talked on the phone she mentioned things she would like to do with me. I assumed she was interested. Since then I have twice set up dates with her only to get a cancellation. She always has an excuse that sounds legitimate. The last excuse she put me off saying she was extremely busy and that next month would be better for us to make plans.
I know that I should blow her off and move on... (She is also pretty hot.) I have a suspicion that she has a boyfriend and it is not working out so good for her. I think she is trying to keep me on the side so she will have something to fall back on. I feel like I need to call her on it but I also do not want to step out of bounds if her excuses are legit. Also if I need to call her on it I would like to hear your opinion of how you would do it.
Keep up the good work brother.
-David
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CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
I think your analysis is probably pretty accurate. Women love to have guys on the line as fallbacks and groupies for them so they don't feel disconnected and socially undesirable.
And you're right to stay in the game to find out what is going on. Many women do not let themselves be single (or seen as single) for very long. So you want to be there when there's an opportunity so you can be the first in line. Just don't haunt the girl.
Actually, the best thing you can do is to do the following:
... follow this link below or copy and paste it into your browser to find out how to handle women that you can't set the date with:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
* If you have problems with that link, cut and paste this into your browser window:
www.datingdynamics.com/dating-advice-newsletter-current.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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QUESTION: JUST DO IT???
I am reading the Dating Black Book and I came to a part where it says that there is no cure for asking girls out. You just have to 'do it'. Well, the problem is that I don't have the courage to 'do it'.
Any suggestions?
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CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Well, the Nike slogan is a little simplistic, but once you understand what is really holding you back, the "just do it" advice is more helpful than you might assume.
And I don't just say "just do it..." There's much more on this topic in The Dating Black Book. Go back and review pages 78-83... There's a lot of gold in the key principles you'll find there.)
Let's start by establishing right now what it is that stops you from acting.
To find out why guys talk themselves out of approaching, and what you can do about it...
... follow this link below or copy and paste it into your browser to find out why this is true:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
* If you have problems with that link, cut and paste this into your browser window:
www.datingdynamics.com/dating-advice-newsletter-current.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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