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CARLOS XUMA -
DATING ADVICE FOR MEN NEWSLETTER: |
The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 12:50 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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QUESTION:
I've been listening to the Alpha Conversation & Persuasion CD's and trying to do what I hear, and I've gotten a good hang of it- I mean, I can see and experience the changes already with the girls and with everyone in general...
Well, I've developed a pipeline of girls to work on and its going well, I'm talking to them, getting them interested and leaving while the interest is high ...
... She was asking me if I needed anything from Starbucks- though I think that is only part of her ploy to reel me in because we ran into each other at Starbucks a week ago and had our first bonding chat.
Anyway- I got the feeling that she wanted to talk to me tonight, but then something happened when she started talking to someone in front of me, another girl, about some guy that was calling her for a date- and it all of a sudden became girl talk- with no adherence to me being there.
So, I finally broke in and said I couldn't stop eavesdropping about it all, but couldn't hear all that well and if they'd repeat it for me- in jest. They briefly acknowledged me but then got back to [their conversation.] So, I excuse myself and let them have their 'girl talk'.
I then got changed and left work- but as I was leaving I was thinking why I didn't turn back around and talk to her like I think I wanted to.
I was wrong somewhere- if so, where?
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CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Yeah, this is a common situation with guys that rapidly spirals out of control. One minute you're in an exciting and interesting conversation with a woman, the next minute she's talking to someone else and you're frozen out.
The key to keeping some women's interest is to keep the conversation amped up to the level where she won't be distracted...
Some people are just plain rude. They get all caught up in themselves and their conversation, and they fail to bring others back into the conversation.
There are a couple of techniques for dealing with this. One is to simply call them on it, like this...
To learn about how to handle it when women leave your conversation, follow the link below or copy and paste it into your browser:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
* If you have problems with that link, cut and paste this into your browser window:
www.datingdynamics.com/dating-advice-newsletter-current.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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QUESTION: Approaching Women ... DAD??!
Hey Carlos,
Thanks again mate for your advice its helped me out heaps I have no trouble getting numbers or dates anymore and its all thanks to your E-books.
Although I would like to ask 1 thing, I was talking to my dad and although he is happily married to my mum he still enjoys flirting at parties, etc., with younger women just to see how they react. Now my dad uses a very different approach so to speak. He is much more direct and yet gets great response to it. He is never not offered sex or some kind of other sexual favour (for want of a better word).
His approach is he immediately introduces himself then brings up anal sex (weird but it works) it throws the girls of completely but then he makes [it] out as a joke and presto he has them talking about sex within seconds of the conversation beginning.
I was wondering if this approach is worth trying or does it only work for some people or is it just my dad? Id like to experiment with a few other approaches other then the one I've been using just to see how they go. When and where would this approach be any good?
Steve
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CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Ah, your dad is most certainly an Alpha Man who understands that he needs to keep his own masculinity warmed up to be interesting to your mom, and it's likely that she understands this too and the big reason she's still attracted to him.
The key to what he's doing is in his tone and method of delivery. He is completely congruent with his attitude, and deep underneath he knows that he's also not really going to do anything with the women, so he comes across as completely SAFE to the women.
So you could try his approach, but you might not have the same success because you don't understand WHERE that attitude comes from that he uses to feel safe to the ladies.
To learn about how to handle it during the approach to get success like your - ahem - DAD, follow the link below or copy and paste it into your browser:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
* If you have problems with that link, cut and paste this into your browser window:
www.datingdynamics.com/dating-advice-newsletter-current.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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QUESTION:
Carlos,
Not to beat a dead horse or anything, but I gotta tell you about my roommate because I want to understand more about what he is doing and how he is doing it.
First off, he's a great guy and one of my best friends here at school. He's got my back to the very end and I don't doubt it for a second.
But, everywhere we go... and I mean EVERYWHERE, girls flock to him... literally. We'll be on the street, hot girls just stare at him. We'll be at a party or a bar, hot girls approach him, now imagine that! I think you know where I'm going with this. He is a good looking guy and all, but it's got to be something more than just that.
Bottom line is I WANT HIS RESULTS! And, I want to know how he achieves them. Advice?
Paul
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CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
When we see a 'natural' - a guy who is naturally attractive to women - we sometimes fall into the mistaken belief that he's got something magical - an ability that must surely make him a holy being. (Yeah, I'm exaggerating, but not far from what you're thinking in your head if you get down to it.)
Again, it's a comparison trap that you can fall into when you look at another person and want THEIR results.
You CAN'T have his results specifically. It's chasing something you can't control right now, and it will actually lower your ability.
The guys that WANT to have a certain result, like a specific football player's ability, or a politician's social skill, rarely accomplish it. The ones that get the result are the ones who focus SPECIFICALLY on THEIR OWN development and growth. Because that's where it all starts.
So you want to know what his attraction secret is?
To learn the secret follow the link below or copy and paste it into your browser:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
* If you have problems with that link, cut and paste this into your browser window:
www.datingdynamics.com/dating-advice-newsletter-current.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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