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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 12:15 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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QUESTION: What does she REALLY mean?...
I was hoping you could be kind enough to give me the benefit of your insights on a situation I was confronted with recently. I have been seeing this girl for a few weeks now and after a while I invited her over to my house. In the course of our conversation she, out of the blue, said I was just interested in getting into her pants than in true love.
Truth is I really didn't know how to handle it. Please could you advise me on how to defuse this kind of tricky situation.
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CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
The key here is to not get caught up in the trap of answering her questions.
When you think you owe her an answer, or you have a tough time coming from a place where you know this answer in your heart, you'll shake her confidence in you because you're not quite there in YOUR OWN confidence.
When I got questions like this, I would always take some time afterwards to think through my answer for the next time I was asked.
This is a classical "test" question from a woman. You'll hear it in many different ways.
What she's saying is...
To get the correct interpretation, follow the link below or copy and paste it into your browser:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
* If you have problems with that link, cut and paste this into your browser window:
www.datingdynamics.com/dating-advice-newsletter-current.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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SPECIAL EDITION - NEWS!
I had to let you guys know of a few things that are 'brewing' out there in the community.
First of all, I'll be one of the speakers at this Summer's Cliff's List seminar in Montreal. If you weren't aware of it, there will be another big seminar to learn all the best stuff in the community about dating and attraction.
If you missed it or were there in 2005, you've been waiting a year for this announcement and here it is.
The Cliff's List Convention 2006 is now ready for you.
32 confirmed Celebrity PUA Guests (plus 3 tentatively confirmed) and counting. Surprise guests to be announced.
BONUSES: Early sign ups benefit from a 50% discount AND get a FREE copy of the DVD product that will be made. Stay at the Convention hotel at the Convention Discount Rate and get special reserved seating at the event.
See the growing list of guests and get all the details and sign up NOW at:
http://www.cliffslist.com/page2.pl
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CARLOS ANSWER:
So get signed up for this event RIGHT AWAY. It will sell out. And you'll kick yourself for not getting in on this huge event.
The next item is that I'll be on David DeAngelo's interviews with Dating Gurus. My interview should be out in May or so, and will have some awesome new stuff I created just for his interview. Watch for it soon...
And lastly, if you'd like to tune in to World Talk Radio tomorrow at 1:00 Pacific time, I'll be chatting with my divas in Southern California again on all things dating. The topic? Dating Attitudes. What works and what doesn't.
Here's the link to find out more about their program:
http://www.worldtalkradio.com/show.asp?sid=191
Remember that's tomorrow: Saturday, 3/25/2006 at 1:00 PM Pacific time.
That's PACIFIC time for the time-zone challenged.
Click on the "Listener Support" menu item to find out how to listen to the live broadcast...
This will be a regular spot for me, as well.
Lot's of stuff coming up this year, including the DVDs I'm hard at work on now. Be sure to send me your ideas for stuff you want to see included on this set. Now is the time!
Thanks!
- Carlos Xuma
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QUESTION: THIS IS GOING TO HURRRRRT......
Hi Carlos,
I have purchased the Secrets of Alpha Man a few days back. I have only read a few pages because right away I want to tell you I am in a big problem, and I'm not being able to carry on. I'm sure it will look silly to you but believe me, man, to me, it's really not.
I love a girl. She knows it. She is really beautiful and gets constantly proposal I guess. She knows I love her as I have already told her. She was really in love with her ex and she had a big blow because he cheated on her. She tells me thats the past and she wants to stay alone now.
Initially she gave me signs that she was interested and she was. but then suddenly she will be seeming to back off. yesterday she messaged me and told me that "she is sorry and that she cannot give what I am expecting form her,she recognize that she was a bit at fault because she gave me some hope with her attitude and that she wont do it now, and she is sorry".
I told her I know that she is confused and undecisive. She told me may be yes and she wants to stay alone. I even asked her if she is seeing somebody. she said no.
Guru, I know you'll tell me DUMP HER and find 5 other girls. The thing is that I really really really want to get her man. Please I would ask you to tell me what the things I can do in this context to get her to me. I know her,if I stop contacting her for two weeks in order "for her to miss me" etc etc, its almost like me losing her for good.
Please tell me,what can I do to get her back. PLEASE. Make it as if going to get 10 other girls is really out of question for me.
I really hope you help me out.
Thanks.
A
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CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Congratulations!
You're obsessed. You've lost control of your own thinking and you're letting yourself getting wrapped up in one woman.
I smell crisis coming up for you, and I want to help you but...
Sorry, buddy, your mind has been hijacked, and you need a bitch slap to get you back on track. Call it tough love, but I'm going to rip into you a little here. If it's too much, you can always stop and blow your nose, dab the tears from your eyes, and whimper for a while.
When you say "going to get 10 other girls is really out of question for me," here's what you're really saying:
To learn the correct interpretation, follow the link below or copy and paste it into your browser:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
* If you have problems with that link, cut and paste this into your browser window:
www.datingdynamics.com/dating-advice-newsletter-current.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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