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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Saturday, 12:01 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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QUESTION: Lost that loving feeling ...
I've been reading your news letters for about a year now ... because of what you say about it being an entire mind set. Not a bunch sneaky ways to get a women into bed. From what you say, it is a lifestyle, which you emphasise far more than the other entries. The whole idea that you have to have this strong sense of self-respect for yourself so true in ALL areas of your life, not just women.
That definitely has had the biggest influence on me. The confidence it has given me is enormous, and yes I have been having problems with this girl, but overal, since I started reading, I've never looked back.
I've got a small issue I'd like to share with you. I've been dating a girl for 5 months now, however I'm beginning to be concerned with her interest levels. Initially everything was good.
Recently, she showing all the signs of strong attraction towards this other guy, and I really had to just take a walk, I didn't know quite what to do. Every time I think of this it makes me feel so angry at myself for letting this happen, that fact that I now would appear to be second best (and I hate coming second in anything!).
Honestly, I feel like dumping her right now, but I can't as I'm going on holiday with her to finland in two weeks.What do you think I should do?
Thanks
AC
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CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
There's a lot of emotional dynamics to understand in this game, too. It's not something that a lot of other guys cover, because admitting the emotionality of it somehow makes you feel a little "girly man."
But it won't.
It's a universal defense mechanism that men and women both use.
Yes, you are starting to sound like you're losing your frame and self-confidence based on her reaction.
Look, it's normal to want a woman to reciprocate her feelings. But the honest truth of the matter is this...
To find out more the TRUTH, follow the link below or copy and paste it into your browser:
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- Carlos Xuma
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QUESTION: No need to be upset...
Carlos,
... I have been hanging out with this girl for about three weeks now, I have taken her out to the movies once and cooked her and her friends dinner at my house once, the rest of the time I usually just hang out with her at our mutual friends work.
She did something that really upset me last night and I wanted to ask if I handled it right. I met her at our friends work and our friend invited me to hang out with them at her aunt�s house. Well, first I got lost on the way there and I asked the girl I am seeing to meet me at a near by store and I will follow her but she told me to call our friend, her friend had to meet me at a store and I followed her. (that upset me)
Then once we got to my friend�s aunt�s house the girl I am seeing completely ignores me. She spent the whole time on the phone with her friend and on the computer. I played two games of pool with my friend�s brother and then left without saying goodbye to the girl I am seeing (Carlos that really pissed me off).
Well the girl I am seeing called me a couple hours later and I told her that she had disrespected me and that I am not a kid anymore. I told her if she doesn�t� want anything to do with me then tell me now! I told her I don�t date women that disrespect me and that is the first and last time that will happen. She said sorry and blah blah blah.
Please tell me what you think. I have a very open mind. Also she refuses to kiss me on the lips, but will cuddle with me and hold my hand and stuff. Really strange, it�s a challenge!
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CARLOS' ADVICE:
Well, this is going to be a tough pill to swallow, but since you've already gotten on the path to redemption through my programs, I know you'll be able to take it.
First of all, this is a situation that a lot of guys get into. I call it the "wishful thinking" situation.
You think you're seeing her, but she's not really "seeing" you at all. She's keeping you around as a trophy guy that can pump up her value by making her look desirable. You're only going to be in her life as long as it takes for her to find the next guy she really wants.
She's playing you.
If a woman is into you, she will...
To learn the important point and discover another important lesson in attraction, follow the link below or copy and paste it into your browser:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
* If you have any problems with my link, just cut and paste this into your browser window:
www.datingdynamics.com/dating-advice-newsletter-current.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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QUESTION: You need to get out of the house, dude...
Well about 6 months ago something happened and I decided not to go out with friends and just stay inside my house and train in martial arts for 6 months straight. About 3 months into my goal I met this girl that goes to my school and we started talking and I find out she also takes martial arts and we started talking. She gave me the obvious signs of interest but I didn't move it further because there was no point because I am staying at home and dont go out.
Her friends tell me that she was interested in me but I stopped talking to her.
Well 6 months is almost over and I havent talked to her in a couple of months and she still gives me signs (smiling at me during the halls.) She probably thinks I'm scared because I didn't ask her out.Should I just move on after my 6 months because she will probably think im scared or still try to get the number after 6 months is over?
Your products helped me sooo much, she probably wouldn't even look at me if I didnt have these techniques. From your extensive yet easy to understand manuals, to the depth of knowledge your products provide. You definitely have passion. During the past few months I have purchased 2 of your products, both of which have exceeded my expectations.
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CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Well...
Hmm...
I'm trying to find a nice way of saying this.
I think your self-imposed seclusion has a price, my friend. I appreciate that you had a goal and wanted to accomplish it, and, yes, it is sometimes necessary to swing the pendulum way over and get extreme ...
Sometimes.
This does seem a bit much. As a martial arts instructor, I appreciate your dedication. However, keep in mind that true martial arts training (if it's to be effective in real combat) would require you to work with a partner. And you'll still need to be training on an ongoing basis. (There is no substitute for interacting with a live human being.)
But again, I salute your dedication.
The reason this girl still smiles at you is because it would be socially awkward not to acknowledge your previous conversations or connection.
Here are your options...
To read about his options, follow the link below or copy and paste it into your browser:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
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www.datingdynamics.com/dating-advice-newsletter-current.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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