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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Friday, 11:33 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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QUESTION: Scarcity thinking - even if she's a cool chick ...
I am writing to you now because I am in a bit of a post-relationship situation that I'm not sure how to handle.
I dated a girl for just over a month. She ended our relationship a little less than a week ago due to the fact that over our winter break from college, she was stressed out with working 2 jobs (she just moved into a new apartment) and wanted to focus on school for a few weeks. The words she used were "I think we should take a break," and then she went into the aforementioned work/school ordeal. I completely understand, and then she told me that "it's not permanent."
A little less than a week later, I still want to be with this girl. I'm not in love with her or anything, I'm just bummed out that we couldn't continue this journey -- I think this girl is awesome, and we have a lot in common, but at the same time I'm kind of confused as to how she feels about me, but don't know how, or if, I should approach her about it for fear of ruining our friendship.
And sure I've learned from you that I shouldn't let a girl have that kind of impact on me, but this is a girl that I love listening to her speak, and taking everything in. I want to make her feel the way she makes me feel, and that is being constantly on my tip-toes, and very excited.
Do you have any advice for me and my situation? Anything would be appreciated, and I thank you for taking the time to read this e-mail.
-N
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CARLOS' ADVICE:
Sigh.
I hate to be the one to break this to you, big guy, but she's not attracted to you anymore.
The important thing here, though, is not how SHE feels about you. You can never truly "control" that. You can influence it (by using my strategies), but no one can ever CONTROL anyone.
The important thing is this ...
To learn the important point and discover another important lesson in attraction, follow the link below or copy and paste it into your browser:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
* If you have any problems with my link, just cut and paste this into your browser window:
www.datingdynamics.com/dating-advice-newsletter-current.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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QUESTION: What is missing in his game...?
Carlos, the biggest thing I have learnt from you is about developing inner game/alpha man. I seriously started looking at this a year ago, in fact I made it a New Year resolution. This time last year women looked at me as a bit of a joke.
I now work out, visit a boxing gym and have upgraded my wardrobe and generally started acting a lot less 'nice'. Strange thing is this particular girl has started looking at me differently since then (along with a lot of other women.) She asked me to go out with her a couple of times but then always backs down and always has an excuse when I suggest we go and do something.
She has an on/off relationship with some wussy guy outside work who she complains to me about but I get the feeling she doesn't really want this guy. (Over the last two years they have never even had more than a 5 minute conversation)
Carlos I feel that I am 90% there but just missing that additional something?
HELP!!!
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CARLOS ANSWERS:
Funny, isn't it, how women always complain to you about that guy on the side, but ...
... she's still seeing him.
... she's still having sex with him.
And the bottom line, my friend, is that you are NOT.
Remember, you're hearing about this "wussy" other guy second-hand. In court they would yell "Objection, your honor! Hearsay!" Meaning that you're getting someone else's interpretation and speculation that could be total horseshit.
There IS a reason she's with him. And it's probably not one she's telling you about.
To learn the reason and discover another important lesson in attraction, follow the link below or copy and paste it into your browser:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
* If you have any problems with my link, just cut and paste this into your browser window:
www.datingdynamics.com/dating-advice-newsletter-current.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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VALENTINES DAY F***ING SUCKS
I bet you've said that once or twice, haven't you?
Look, even the holiday, soul-sucking companies out there know you feel this way. I went to a dating site that had a poll on their front page that had two choices: Yes! It's Valentine's Day! and Valentine's Day SUCKS!
Even the marketing groups out there know that the only people who like this holiday are already IN a relationship. The rest of the world hates it because it represents what we DO NOT have. And that represents PAIN.
It's ironic that one holiday could stir up so much love AND hate.
Let me tell you a short and personal story about Carlos. This year, I decided to do something wonderful for Valentine's day for the girl I was seeing.
You'll never guess what this "wonderful" thing is... To find out, follow the link below or copy and paste it into your browser:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
* If you have any problems with my link, just cut and paste this into your browser window:
www.datingdynamics.com/dating-advice-newsletter-current.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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QUESTION: Ready to get a Steady ...
Hmmm, my situation. So I have no problem getting women into bed, however, I think this takes away from my wanting to be with them long-term, they're too easy. Currently seeing 3 women, but thats it, theres nothing more there. It's been a while since I've met one that I actually wanted to stay with long term.
I think I have a hard time trusting women, heck if they slept around half as much as I did that would still be substantial.
So I guess my situation is that I'm meeting all the wrong types of girls, possibly looking in all the wrong places. At my age, 29, I'm ready to finally settle down, well sooner than later...
Any feedback would be appreciated ...
-K
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
At your age??? You're laying an artificial expectation on yourself. You don't have to get married unless you REALLY want to get married.
One thing I've discovered is that the attitude of "I want to get married" very often makes you very undesirable to women.
You're going to carry this aroma of "I'm ready ladies... let's get going..." And it will ultimately repel the women you're looking to find.
The attitude you should have is ...
To find out more about the right attitude, follow the link below or copy and paste it into your browser:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
* If you have problems with that link, cut and paste this into your browser window:
www.datingdynamics.com/dating-advice-newsletter-current.htm
- Carlos Xuma
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