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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Friday, 7:40 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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SOLO BARFLIES:
Hi Carlos.
I really enjoy your audio/ebooks/podcasts. I found out why my relationship fell apart and have been practicing your alpha seduction methods.
I have a question for you: along the lines of the bar scene how do you think women feel about men who go to these bars by themselves. Most of my friends are in relationships and hardly get out anymore.
I try approaching at other places other than the bar scene but I still enjoy it. I just feel women's defense mechanisms would be on high alert being approached by someone who is by themselves. Keep up the good work.
- B
CARLOS:
Remember, the only difference that's really going on is that you're projecting your fears on the women.
You THINK they think this, but they really don't care. As long as YOU don't care.
Get it?
If you go in with the belief that they think you're creepy for being the solo dude and that they'll raise defenses to this, well ... they will.
If you go in with the belief that you've got something awesome to present them with (YOU), and that they'll totally dig you ... they will.
It's all in the state of mind.
As for how you present yourself, how about this: "You know I was going to meet up with some friends tonight, but I thought I'd stop by here and make some new acquaintances. What's your name?"
Simple.
Effective.
All you have to do is deliver it with conviction and belief.
And I've got more methods to approach solo in my APPROACH WOMEN NOW program...
Get it here...
https://www.alphaconfidence.com/approach/
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2006 SEMINAR:
For those of you that weren't there, but wanted to, the first Carlos Xuma Alpha Immersion seminar was a rousing success!
Un-be-lievable...
My head is still ringing from all the great things that happened. Breakthroughs.
And I caught a huge head cold the day after it was all over. My head is ringing now from a plugged up sinus tract.
The things I do for you guys. This was awesome...
I want to construct some Field reports for the Advanced Audio soon, so I won't go into too much detail here. The nights out were a blast.
And this seminar saw the release of my new R.E.A.L. Game...
Ever wished you could have inner and outer game, and have it all match who you are as a person?
Ever wished you could find the way to make your own personalized approach to the art of attracting women?
No gimmicks or fake openers that you feel stupid saying?
Watch here for more details as they come...
THINGS THAT MAKE YOU GO HMMM...
Hi everyone...
First I would like to admit that I am here living in Dubai, United Arab Emirates and all of your details I read is really helpfull and changed everything in dealing with women... Now I have a lot of contacts...
Second, I have a question for all of you... UAE is full of traffic signals.... So imagine you stopped in a traffic signal and looking through the window and saw a lovely cute lady....
So you smile and she smiles back.... there is a beginning attraction.... talked and as soon as she is giving me the number the signal went green and we had to move...
My question is in order to avoid situations like this what is the best way to talk and take the number very quickly?? You can't just smile and then ask her for the number? right?
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CARLOS:
As always, I know that these principles work all over the world, because they're based in the simple skill of social networking and widening your social life, using highly effective social interaction principles.
In plain language, it don't matter where you is, 'dis stuff is da bomb.
The more options you have, the more likely you are to come out ahead and get what it is you want.
I'm not sure your question is coming from the right standpoint, however.
Allow me to explain...
What would an Alpha Man do?
Would he hear the protesting honks of the cars behind him (social pressure) and give in?
Or would he rule his own world?
I think the latter.
Your question is what do you do in this situation.
My answer is:
How about PULL OVER and talk to her...
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Yeah. Crazy, I know.
It's about time you learn the reality of how to cultivate this mental programming without having to run a ton of routines or games.
Do you want to learn the right way to get what you want?
If you want to learn the advanced methods of handling women with style and power, you need my Secrets of the Alpha Man program.
I wrote the book on this subject of Alpha Men (literally and figuratively) and now I want you guys to reap the benefits.
In this book, I reveal the secret that most guys out there (especially "pick up artists") don't realize.
Really, do you want to go through 2006 without this knowledge?
Do you want another year of confusion and poor results to stop you from getting what you deserve?
If you're reading this now, and you want to learn the strategies that others have learned, the top-down strategies are exactly what my Alpha Man Program will teach you.
https://www.alphaconfidence.com
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Not only do you learn what the subtle psychological aspects are, but how you can amplify these"Alpha" traits so that you are able to draw in the women that you want. The only magic you have to add to this equation is the attitude to take action.
If you're reading these newsletters, and you find yourself nodding your head, wishing you could figure out what the heck is going on in your own dating situation, it's time to do better.
Are you tired of finding women that seem to be interested, and then they seem to get distant and all you get is a peck on the cheek and a "let's just be friends"?
Do you want to take the woman that you've lost and get her interested again?
Do you want to make sure you handle it right, from the start?
Ask yourself: What am I waiting for?
Get understanding so that you can make 2006 the year you took care of yourself and started being really successful with women.
Life is a LOT shorter than you think.
Ask yourself: Do you want to wind up in your rocking chair whining about all the things you SHOULD have done?
My e-book gives you the information and skills to get the women YOU want. Not SETTLE FOR.
https://www.alphaconfidence.com
I've even thrown in a few new extra bonuses that you're going to want to grab with these offers, too.
If you get the program right away, I'll send you the e-book RIGHT AWAY so you can get started... AND I'll even send you a link to join the Alpha Man Forum - a special user group where you can exchange information and tips with other Alpha Men.
Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
I'll be back with more advice soon ...
- Carlos
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QUESTION:
Carlos:
It's been many months now that your stuff is working for me. In fact, I'm at the point right now where I've had enough of most New York women and am starting to focus on quality instead. This puts me in a great position of non-neediness, because I know that I won't find one every night I go out...nor do I want to, since I've got plenty of other things to take care of on my to-do list.
Here's my problem, though. Since I'm getting involved less and less often with women who bore me after one or two encounters, what I'm finding is that I use sexual chemistry as my litmus test for whether to take things further with a woman.
A lot of times this is where I hit the wall, and don't really want to continue with her. But I also don't want to cut her out completely. I want to remain friends--without benefits. (Since I believe "friends with benefits" is always a disaster waiting to happen.)
So my question is, if I like a girl but find that we're not clicking sexually, and I want to ease the dynamic between to one where we still see each other but have no expectation of being intimate...how do I do this without making her feel rejected or manipulated?
Thanks Carlos.
PB
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CARLOS ANSWERS:
Ah... this is an excellent question, because it tells me that you've traveled far along the path and are now ready to understand the deeper workings of male-female relationships.
You've done well, my young paduan.
But first... you've had enough of New York women? How many women have you been through, you scoundrel?
I have to be careful about how much I teach you guys from now on.
Anyway... let's see what we can do to break this down...
First of all, recognize that we often take on too much responsibility. You must realize that you may not be able to help what she feels about herself (including rejection, the "R" word.)
You can't control a woman's emotional reaction.
If there's one thing that we all feel, with very little help from our friends (or enemies) it's rejection.
But I hear you in that you want to reduce the possibility of her feeling this, and that's a good thing.
Read my 5 thoughts on this situation in the latest newsletter right here:
http://tinyurl.com/pgw2o
And I'll also tell you how to get out of a slump...
- Carlos Xuma
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Most guys don't approach women because they haven't got the SKILLS to APPROACH WOMEN. Once you have them, you'll feel less anxious and you'll actually DO IT.
It's time to learn the TRUTH about women ... and attraction.
It's all about your Inner Game...
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Listen to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
tactics and techniques in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner game.' From
there, he'll give you the complete set of tools for approaching women, and life, with absolute confidence and skill. If you're in this game to win it, these are the rules you need to learn."
- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams. I love his game, its 100% real."
- The Dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
valuable advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many, many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
about anything. And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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