The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...

Friday, 5:45 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...

ALPHA MALE QUESTION:

My name is M and I'm 19 yo. I recently read your dating e-book "Secrets of the Alpha Man", and I find it really really good. Never has advice been so powerful to me.

But here's my question, as I said before I'm 19, can I take this advice too or are you only referring to older guys? I know I'm still young but I really need to work on my dating life. Thank you...

CARLOS:

Actually, my Alpha Man program will probably work BETTER for you because you're younger.

Why?

Because:

1) You're still able to change.

2) You're able to learn the right habits earlier rather than later.

3) You'll have more fun for more of your life than the guys who learn this stuff after a marriage or two that has failed.

And by the way - congratulations on doing what most men will NEVER do: Take control of your future.

If you go out and ask 10 guys if they need some help understanding how the attraction game REALLY works with women, I'd bet you'd get (maybe) one guy that might say yes.

But probably not.

You see, we're GUYS.

We don't admit we need help. Just ask a woman who's been with us in the car when we're lost.

And the Alpha Man Program is so much MORE than just a guide to pull pretty women...

It's a guide for LIFE.

QUESTION on Women's Tests:

Carlos,

Today I approached a girl on campus and started talking to her, busted her chops, made her laugh etc. When it was time to go I told her to give me her number and she said, No that's okay, I'm sure I'll see you around. I was stunned because she didn't pull out the boyfriend card. She said just look for me, I'm sure I'll see you around I basically just smiled and walked away.

WTF? Any insight here? I guess it's good to get rejected every once in a while anyway, but I would at least like to know what happened.

CARLOS:

My first guess is, she's testing you. And she's playing a little hard-to-get.

AND she didn't feel enough HSV (high social value) from you to want to give you her number.

Hey, she knows she'll see you around, and by refusing to give you it, that drives up your interest level in her.

And, yes, she KNOWS this.

Hey, you're emailing me about her, so it must have worked, huh?

Clever girl.

And it's not a rejection.

It's a wake-up call to meet 10 other women and watch how fast this woman will suddenly want to be with you. When she senses that you're a true ALPHA, she will be interested.

Sometimes it has NOTHING to do with you. Some women will not help themselves. They will, in fact, sabotage their own happiness to play silly little chick games.

Such is life.

And the next time a woman says to "look for her," you tell her that will be tough with so many other people out looking for YOU.

Turn it around, dude. It's your life.

Your reality.

Now, what are you going to do with it?

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ALPHA DISCOURAGEMENT:

I love your audio coaching ... I am trying to catch up to review your new content.

As I told you before I went through a divorce that I never thought I'd get over and your tapes have been very inspirational for me to listen to. I am writing today because I am discouraged.

I have a bad neck for a young and still athletic age (25). I decided one day at the mall to go to this massage therapy for a 1 hr treatment. Well, the therapy is slowly helping my neck.

I began talking to the therapist who is my age. She is very cute in my opinon. She told me she is married and just had a baby. This was last November. I told her about what had happened to me because of my ex-wife. Six months passed and I went to get another massage from her. She is in the proccess of "trying" to get a divorce from her husband (he doesnt want to and they still live together). Apparently her husband has cheated on her now 8 times and she is tired of it. Because of this, she seems to be scouting the marketplace.

I see her regualarly for my appointments and we always have very good conversations. She flirts with me and I flirt back. She is a very nice girl and I must say I have started to like her alot. I am sure she is starting to have similar feelings for me. It is this uninterupted interaction that has allowed us to build attraction. I can tell this just by techniques i have learned from you.

Now my problem is this girl who I do like is unavailable, still married and lives with husband. And she also has a 15 month old baby. I'm sure your well aware of some of the pitfalls that come from dating people who have kids.

This girl and I seem to have very similar goals and values in life. I enjoy her personality as well as her looks and conservative nature.

My problem is I would like to meet this same type of girl except kid-less and available. I am not quite sure on how to go about this. I would be conquering all this alone. With my massage therapy we have time to talk for an 1hr with no interruptions. Because of it we both gained knowledge of one another. I am not sure how to do this again in a different setting.

Carlos, I know you're laughing. But I am 25 and the longer I wait, more girls keep having kids taking them off my market. Another issue is that most women I come across all seem to have a commitment with someone (we live in small area). If it is not that, they are wilder girls who want to stay up and go to bars all night long trying to get undue attention. I am not looking for that type of girl.

How do u suggest I place myself in the types of situations to find an available girl who matches my concept of what I am looking for. I can't move my location because I am growing my own successful business.

In a nutshell, I want to find situations like my massage therapy where I can interact with a woman so we can get to know one another.

Thanks for the help, J

CARLOS:

No, I'm not laughing at all. When you're stuck in one place, it can seem like your options are incredibly limited.

What you have to watch out for, though, is scarcity thinking. That will get you into trouble more than anything.

I've covered this in the e-books and audio so many times now, but it bears repeating.

If you feel as if you have no options, you'll start to lower your standards.

Jeeez, dude. You're 25. Not 65. You've got your whole life ahead of you. Don't sink it like this.

You don't HAVE to settle for the first down-on-her-luck massage chick that comes along with more baggage than they had on the Titanic.

You have OPTIONS.

CHOICES.

I wrote about this a short time ago in the blog and in the newsletters I've sent, but it bears repeating.

Remember, the most valuable thing to a man is CHOICES.

All things being equal, the person with the more response potential (meaning the more choices of responses and alternatives available to them) will probably come out on top.

And that's what you need most right now.

You're focusing on scarcity, and what you're going to LOSE. You see time as LIMITED. You see life as CLOSING instead of OPENING.

In short, it's not reality. It's your PERCEPTION OF IT.

The old glass is half-empty or half-full.

It's what YOU make of it. The world is our mirror.

You want some opportunity to meet the woman you REALLY want instead of settle for someone else's leftovers?

- Get online, start a profile. Recognize that you may have to drive to another town to meet them, but if you want to play, you got to pay.

- Get my Secrets of the Alpha Man program. I kid you not, it is the single most influential thing you'll do for your attitude. I funneled all my secrets of self-confidence in there for you to have. Use them.

- Stop seeing this chick, and stop indulging in fantasy. The only way to motivate yourself to something you want is to get out of your comfort zone. If you just hang with this gal, you're going to have to keep her. And that doesn't sound like what you want.

Do what you have to, but start making some adjustments to the influences you have in your life right now. That's a big step in the right direction.

And for you reading this right now, why don't you get started on this path now?

First of all, you need my e-book - The Dating Black Book. I've packed this e-book with HUNDREDS of examples, tips, strategies, explanations, what to say, what to do, how to interpret situations, and how to clean up that stinkin' thinkin' ...

Don't ignore that little voice inside you right now that's telling you to take action. It's the one part of you that you can trust. Most guys will let their egos stop them from learning the things they need to, and they'll live in regret later on for it.

All the good stuff is inside the Dating Black Book. And you can get it here:
https://www.datingdynamics.com

Just go check out the site, because I've put up a link so you can hear my radio interview from the weekend, in case you missed the show.

Oh, and I've got an e-book and 6-CD audio program you'll want to see, and this new program covers every part of your self-confidence and INNER game.

This program covers ALL aspects of overcoming your shyness, fears, and insecurities with women (and with life) and gets you on the path to TOTAL self-confidence.

Listen to what this guy has to say about it, and how he's learned from the program:

"The negative self-talk was killing me for decades, that's my motivation for doing this. No woman is going to give me s*x out of pity. s*x is just a mindless fat-burning exercise like climbing the StairMaster; it's the skill I want so I won't become co-dependent. Being desired is the prize I'm looking for, and I need to accept myself first.

"I had a very attractive woman 6 years ago who was even needier than me... like a small child hanging off my arm... it mirrored my own insecurities and made me very uncomfortable. That's how I made other women feel and they left or never felt attraction, not because they were confirming my cooked-up negative fantasies I thought was their impression of me.

"As for my past, WHO CARES!!!!! Those are the two most relieving words I have ever adopted.

"Glad to be in your bootcamp.. - C.H."

There are more testimonials at the bottom of this email for you to read...

This new e-book and audio will guide you through exercises, tips, and strategies for changing your life RIGHT NOW. It's not just about getting more women (even though that's a really great side-effect of this program), but we show you the way to a more successful LIFE - business, family, social, financial... everything!

I've even thrown in a few extra bonuses that you're going to want to grab with this offer, too. I've spent the last year creating this great program, including the best of our Advanced Audio Coaching Sessions, with 34 all new tracks specifically aimed at this topic, and HUNDREDS of pages of new advice on how to get your game together with women.

You can see the complete list of contents here at:
http://www.alphaseduction.com

If you get the program right away, I'll send you the 393 page e-book RIGHT AWAY so you can get started... AND I'll even send you a link to join the Alpha Man Forum - a special user group where you can exchange information and tips with other Alpha Men.

Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.

I'll be back with more advice soon ...

- Carlos

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TESTIMONIALS:

"Dear Carlos, Your program is a "killer..."
It helped me to get rid of many traits of the so called "nice guy"
- shyness, indecisiveness, "ass-kissing", etc.

... It boosted significantly my love and s*x life. Not only [this]
... It helped me to be more successful in doing business, I can now easily spot when somebody wants to "walk over me" and try to make me submissive as usually women do. Thanks a lot!
My best wishes to you!"
- S.D.
Sofia, Bulgaria

"I LOVE your Secrets of the Alpha Man program. It is by far the best overall e-book and audio program online that I have read....and I have done my research and read all the popular e-books and what not.

"I already was having a lot of success prior to the program but my success has doubled since reading the e-book and listening to the audio." - D.

"... About your Alpha Man program... It's bad ass. I'm only halfway through the book (200pgs) and halfway through the CD's. It's really phenomenal..." - T. T.

"Carlos, I purchased the Alpha Male program recently and I must say it's the best investment I have ever made in my own personal development. I have had seeds of thought and insight on some of things you talk about in the books and tapes, but now I'm getting a fuller picture of what it takes to be a real man. It's incredible..." - B., Colorado

"Hey Carlos ... Listen, I want to thank you for all of your work in these CDs and e-books. I've only had them for about a week and I've already made some major breakthroughs. You opened my eyes in being an Alpha Male.

"I was recently getting to know this girl... and I was being the "nice guy." Boy! the way you described the steps a man goes through to get to "she's the one for me" is right on target! I was able to step back... put her in her place on the phone and in person--it felt GREAT (so empowering!). I ended up not liking who she is and have moved on since.

"Also, I went to a club the other day... and I usually don't because I don't know how to dance that great--but I did anyway. I applied your exercise where you don't look at the final outcome... you just take the first step... and be an alpha man there.

"Well, I felt powerful and by the end of the night I was leading this girl around the club by her hand (taking charge), ordering two beers and sitting down with her with my arm around her like an alpha man should. She was so into our conversation and I felt like I was totally in charge.

"Oh, and yes... I danced with 5 gorgeous girls that we had dinner with. Damn! it was good.

Carlos... seriously... thanks!"

- 'D' Los Angeles, CA

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