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QUESTION:

I've been thinking about the palm reading technique that us guys should have in our seduction arsenal. I got a book on palm reading, and learned the 6 basic lines and what they mean. I tried coming up with my own "interpretation", or what to tell a girl when I read her palm, but I'm not sure it would be effective, because I may come across with "I'm trying to bull shit you to get in your pants" tattooed on my forehead. :) Can you give me some help in what I should tell her when I read her palm to further the seduction? Thanks!

Oh, and Session 8 was fantastic! Lots of practical info in there, as a woman rarely answers her phone I've found! :)

CARLOS:

Good way to handle it. Learn enough to make you dangerous, then use it...

Just do what you're doing, and stop worrying about how you're "coming across." That's just the she-man in you that gets nervous about being a se~xually charged MAN. That's the trap of caring about what she thinks about you, which will only lead you to ruin.

SO WHAT if she thinks that you want to get into her pants?

I hate to break this news to you: She knows that already!

That's why men hit on women.

She knows that every man on the planet wants to cut himself a piece of that yummy pie. And she'll gladly give you a piece, if you give her what she wants and needs.

To further things, you should pretend to find a line on her hand that gives you reason to be concerned about her, and do NOT tell her what it is or means. Then you pull it out every so often when you appear to be skeptical about hanging out with her. "Hmm, after what I saw there (point to her palm), I'm going to have to keep an eye on you."

"What did you see?" she'll ask you, and pull on your sleeve, and whine, and stamp her feet. But keep teasing her on it, and don't tell her...

And, yes, I've got more examples of what to say and how to say in the Audio Coaching Series ... QUESTION:

Hello

It took me about six months of hard work to refine and use the information you had given me (dating black book and audio sessions). And to be honest some of those times were very depressing. I had many failures even when I knew better. But I stuck it out. Well I'm finally getting results (s~e~x). Two in the last week. Now that I can get it to that point of s~e~x I have a few questions.

With this particular woman I dropped her off the next morning and said goodbye. Didn't blow it with any wussy talk about how awesome the night was or asking "When can we meet again"? Just played it cool. Here's my question.

After the first s*e*x with the woman, how long before calling to set up another meeting? With this particular woman I wouldnt mind seeing her often, but not if that means blowing it.

Also should I try to have s~e~x with her next time we meet?

Thanks for Everything

J.A.

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CARLOS:

Excellent! I'm glad that you stuck it out and understand that these techniques WORK. And, really, six months isn't all that long if you think about it. Now you have the rest of your life to enjoy the fruits of your efforts.

Some guys are able to get over their limitations quickly. Others take a few months.

The point is that this stuff works...

That is, it works if YOU do.

A lot of guys go out there and expect to just instantly change their abilities with women in just a few minutes. While this is possible, it's extremely unlikely. Sudden and massive change is something that a lot of "gurus" out there promise you, but rarely deliver. They're usually clever one-time tricks that don't amount to lasting change.

And hats off to you for having the self-discipline to not pledge your everlasting love and devotion to her the morning after. That's a load off a woman's mind when she knows that things can be taken nice and "easy," without all that weird pressure.

(Remember that scene in the second Austin Powers movie where Dr. Evil just got done sleeping with his German hench-woman, and he says, "It got weird, didn't it?") That's what happens when you don't have security and self-confidence underneath to help you handle the morning-after/day-after stuff.

I personally don't find it a problem to call her within a day or two to say "Hi." Don't email her, because that's a bit too impersonal, and some women will be turned off that you couldn't just pick up a phone.

Call her up and just say, "You know, I just wanted to give you a call and let you know I was thinking about you. How are you doing? Having fun in the sun?" (Small talk.)

Don't get into detail about WHAT you were thinking about her. Just saying that you were is enough to let her know that it wasn't a night in the hay. Be nice and listen in between her words as to whether she still seems hooked and wants more. She'll drop hints about "getting together again." Don't jump on them, just tell her that sounds like a great idea.

Keep the call short, and ask her if she's going to be around later in the week. Don't tell her why you're asking. She'll assume, and you won't have to give her any "I'll call you on Wednesday" details. You want her wondering when she'll hear from you again.

As for repeat performances, I've hit that thang again on the next date, especially if she seemed as hot as she was the last time. However, if you can mess around a little, avoid sleeping with her, and just go out for a fun time, you'll make a good impression, too, because she'll know it isn't just about the se*x.

This will depend on your goals. Do you want a monogamous relationship? A casual affair? A one-night-stand?

The frequency that you see each other will determine the nature of your relationship from this point on. If you start seeing her every week, you'll be right in the middle. Any more frequent than this, and she'll expect things to "go somewhere." Less frequent and she'll understand your relationship to be more casual.

She will also probably test you the next time to see how you handle her, maybe even being a little distant because she's afraid of being thought of as a slut. (This depends on how old she is. This situation usually happens more when they're younger.)

Take the time to warm her up, and don't react to any mood she pulls. Chances are you can get more fun and reassure her at the same time if you keep up the consistently happy/charming guy.

Remember that expectations at this point could vary widely...

She might have only wanted you for the fun, but you have to be willing to drop it if she seems to turn that permanent cold-shoulder on you. You had your fun, and now you can move on to your next adventure. Don't get caught up in that trap of chasing the ones that want to get away.

Keep using the skills that you've got, and you'll get all the women you want. You stuck it out through the "dark times," and you learned that you can be successful. If you did it once (and twice! :), then you'll definitely be able to do it again and again...

Take "luck" out of the equation. When a person says "luck" they really mean "I want to do as little work as possible and still keep a faint hope of getting what I want." This is the lottery mentality.

Instead of hoping for luck, why not MAKE OPPORTUNITY for yourself?

You see, I believe that EVERY man deserves to have a woman by his side ... and three or four if he so desires. I've devoted my life to helping people and training them for more and better success.

I've talked to guys the world over who have made a REAL difference in their lives by taking the first step on the right path - learning. Once you understand, your world opens up.

Ask yourself: Do you want to wind up in your rocking chair whining about all the things you SHOULD have done?

Seize this opportunity. It's time to start WINNING.

Ask yourself:

Wouldn't it be great to learn how women REALLY think and work?

Wouldn't it be fantastic to finally put aside your fears of them once and for all? Approach women anywhere and anytime?

And get RESULTS with women.

And results are ALL that matters when it comes to the game of women.

I can show you the way to better results and success with women, and it's all in my e-book - THE DATING BLACK BOOK. You need to download it from here.
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