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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Friday, 12:30 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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If you guys didn't get the word yet, Advanced Audio Coaching Session 7 is now available...
Session 7 is now available. Well over 100 minutes of advanced information to get your game razor SHARP.
We're starting a new series of instruction on The Stepping Stones - getting from first contact all the way to the bedroom, step by step.
Some of the topics in this month's session:
- Using the Stepping Stones to get from finding and meeting women to the date, to the bedroom
- Communication of value - the ultimate skill of the Alpha Man
- Controlling Breakup cost for ultimate control over the dating experience
- Using the Stones - start to finish, and overall strategies for crossing the river of seduction
- Complete review of "The Dance" and the principle of escalating sexual tension
- Starting off on the right food - Avoiding "dates" and other strategies for keeping your prospecting consistent
- Phrasing, communication skills, and the powerful use of subtext
- Advanced Communications with INDIRECTIVES - a strategy of value communication you can't afford not to use
- Handling women with your posture and body language
- Using T.E.D. and other approach strategies for meeting women, with examples
- Watch her buying temperature, and monitoring your progress as you remove interference and focus in on the seduction conversation
- Handling testing - the right way for men to communicate value with their verbal and physical communication
- Proxemics - using physical space and touching for seduction power
- The QUANTUM LEAP principle of raising your self-confidence with women - instantly
Plus much more...
I think you'll agree that this month totally kicks butt ...
Do you have an i-Pod or another MP3 player? You can take this coaching with you and review before you go on the big date with Miss Fantastic...
"Every audio session is better than the preceding! Session 6 is FULL PACKED of invaluable information, and it's incredible when I think that all this only costs you a few bucks while I've spent so many dollars on other sites so far without learning nothing sensible and workable. Thank you again, Carlos!" - M in Italy
You can see the COMPLETE table of contents, and download it here:
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QUESTION:
Carlos,
Thanks for all your knowledge, I am definitely learning a lot from the ebook, newsletter, and audio.
A question--
Do your beginning encounter ideas also apply to older, recently divorced women, mid-30's?� Do you have any special ideas for dates that would apply to a�more "mature" woman?
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CARLOS:
Actually, these techniques should appeal to EVERY age level, but with older women, you'll want to be more sophisticated in your approach. The kind of woman you describe has been seen a little more, and is even sharper at picking out the Alpha Men than the younger gals.
I'll tell you this, too: older women are about 10 times more hornier for s*e* x than you can imagine. This is the age where they realize that they can have the sex they want without the bullsh*t of the Slut Complex getting in their way.
Each phase of a woman's life may have different focus, but when a woman gets past the age of, say, 35 or so, a lot of the antics and flaky areas tend to mellow out.
And, after a recent marriage, a woman will tend toward a desire for more ... shall we say, temporary hookups.
You ask: Do you have to do anything different for older women?
As I said, you'll have to be a bit more sophisticated. Chances are, she's not as focused on the "party all night" behavior she once was, so you want to choose activities that are more interesting.
Your first meeting can still be a coffee date, but you might want to make it at a place that's a little more interesting than the usual Starbucks. Find a specialty shop that sells some unique blends of teas and coffee, or has a theme that's appealing.
As for the later "dates," you should focus on variety, while keeping the entertainment a bit "smarter." I find that women in their later 30s are not as into clubbing and dancing as they once were, but that doesn't mean you can't mix that in once in a while.
Instead, take her to a museum where you can steer her into the erotic art section.
Or maybe get her to meet you at a funky store.
Or go see the Rocky Horror Picture Show...
Later on, you can go to more interesting restaurants, or maybe a play. I've found that the best way to choose your activity is to just listen to what she says she's interested in and take it from there...
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QUESTION:
Hi there,
I've had great success this year with some of your methods. My success rate has gone up about 300% on last year - seriously cool. The 'teasing' in the early meetings with chicks works wonders. Why aren't we taught this in school?
Ok, so I'm tuning this new chick. We worked together behind the bar at this special event. Every time we were near each other I slipped in another teasing comment. We were very busy so there was never enough time for her to fire back a decent comeback. Needless to say this made her very interested in me. So I got her number at the end of the shift and we had our first date yesterday.
It was organized quickly and it was a pretty straitforward drinks and a movie. Not hugely interesting, I know! Anyway, I played it cool, kept teasing her, held her hand when i felt like it, and I'm sure she's keen on me. At the end of the night I realised she's a bit of a 'good girl' and I wouldn't get sex straight away. But she couldn't resist leaving me without a goodbye snog. I should have initiated the kiss, I know, but I feel my behaviour led her to it. I said i'd see her again 'if she was lucky'!
*BUT - after the kiss I felt a huge urge for her. I really want her now! I'm determined not to call her for a few days to keep her thinking, but I don't want this lust feeling because it might make me do things you preach against. How do I stay strong and cool and detached after intimate moments? When I get kisses or s*x I lose my brain and go all weak. I don't want this to happen anymore!!
Thought you may be interested in my story!
DT, Western Australia.
CARLOS:
Great story! That is very cool. Guys out there should notice that these strategies WORK.
I know that I say never to do the traditional (boring) dinner and movie, but the truth is that if you can take on the right attitude, you can do anything you like on the first "date."
The short answer is that you should immediately use a little visualization to counter the negative affects of "puppy love." You see, after that moment of intimacty, your imagination is going wild with the possibilities. I call this the "cannonball" syndrome.
You're creating wild-eyed dreamy possibilities before it's warranted. You need to back off and remember that NO WOMAN can bear up to our romantic imaginations.
You see, I believe that all guys are inherently interested in finding a good woman to settle down with. A woman that challenges us is a vital requirement.
So you're falling into the trap of believing in all the "limerance" (Limerance is that WOW feeling when you get that initial burst of attraction). You're not noticing all the flaws she really has.
We always overlook a woman's obvious issues in the beginning. Heck, some of them are even CUTE - early on. "You should see the way she laughs! She has this little snort!"
Six months down the road: "If she laughs like that one more time, I'm going to SCREAM!"
Today's cuteness can turn into next month's annoyance.
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But you need help overcoming this illusion of perfection at the start so you don't fall prey to the "urge."
One tactic that you can use now is to imagine her in some really gross situations, like this gal taking a ferocious crap. (Which I can tell you that she does, even if it isn't a romantic or pretty picture.) Just imagine her on the porcelain throne a few times, taking a massive pooper. That will bring you back to the real world.
An even better way to avoid this kind of obsession is to shift your attention immediately to another consuming passion, like fixing cars, or playing guitar, or whatever your hobby may be. Get involved enough in your own life, and women become a nice addition rather than an obsession. Keep your passions alive, and you also become more attractive to women.
That should help you get through this loss of self-control.
You bring up a very interesting situation, which is common to so many guys. When we get a little sniff of success, we're like sharks around blood in the water. We start to get that glossy look in our eyes, and our pecker-compass starts following her.
Men also experience an interesting physical response when they kiss a woman. There's a hormone called Oxytocin that is released in response to pleasurable and intense emotional states, usually linked with physical contact.
Ever wondered why a massage feels so good? It's because evolution created this kind of response in you so that you would bond with others you touch regularly, as well as making women bond with their babies. A good massage releases this pleasurable chemical to enhance the attachment. So make sure you give her some "hands on" work to help the process of seduction along.
Isn't this great information to know?
As for teaching this in school, well, yeah...
They really OUGHT to teach teasing like this, and how touch affects you romantically, but can you imagine the public outcry if women's secrets were given away? The earth would shake. Economies would collapse.
Well, perhaps that's a bit dramatic, but I can assure you that "Women 101" will not be on your school schedule anytime soon.
That's why I wrote the e-book on this subject. I go into gory detail about this and the underlying psychology of dating, posture, attitude ... the A-Z of dating and the male-female dynamic, in my e-book The Dating Black Book.
Wouldn't it be great to learn how women REALLY think and work?
Wouldn't it be fantastic to finally put aside your fears of them once and for all? Approach women anywhere and anytime?
The cure for this kind of fear is the TRUTH.
(Remember: FEAR= False Evidence Appearing Real.)
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Education leads to understanding. Understanding leads to better choices. Better choices lead to better results.
And results are ALL that matters when it comes to the game of women.
I can show you the way to better results and success with women, and it's all in my e-book - THE DATING BLACK BOOK. You need to download it from here:
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You'll get answers to questions like:
... When is a woman playing you or REALLY interested?
... How do you stop being strung along for weeks and weeks by women, and how do you turn them on to you instead of you being turned into another girlfriend?
... How do you meet MORE hot women?
... How do you get them attracted to you right from the start?
... How do you stop paying for dates that go NOWHERE?
Really, do you want to go through 2004 without this powerful knowledge? Do you want ANOTHER year of confusion and poor results to stop you from getting what you deserve?
It's almost April already. How much better are you than when the year started?
The year is 1/4 over.
25% done.
How have you improved?
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You see, I believe that EVERY man deserves to have a woman by his side ... and three or four if he so desires. I've devoted my life to helping people and training them for more and better success.
I've talked to guys the world over who have made a REAL difference in their lives by taking the first step on the right path - learning. Once you understand, your world opens up.
Ask yourself: Do you want to wind up in your rocking chair whining about all the things you SHOULD have done?
Seize this opportunity. It's time to start WINNING.
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Don't forget - The Advanced Audio Coaching Session 7 is ready NOW to take your current skills and take them to the limit...
Imagine having a coach giving you tips, strategies, and a complete breakdown on how to improve your technique and success with women - firsthand. You can listen to this audio RIGHT NOW on your PC or Mac, and you can even use your MP3 player to take the learning and go mobile.
"Every audio session is better than the preceding! Session 6 is FULL PACKED of invaluable information, and it's incredible when I think that all this only costs you a few bucks while I've spent so many dollars on other sites so far without learning nothing sensible and workable. Thank you again, Carlos!" - M in Italy
The monthly audio series is OVER 100 MINUTES of advice and explosive tips, and it's available for download at:
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-Carlos
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