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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Friday, 10:30 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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Remember... long after all the 'techniques' and 'lines' have been exposed out there, one thing will endure - your REAL inner game. No one can take this away from you, if you're a REAL Alpha Man.
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QUESTION: TOO FAR TO TELL....
I met a very cute girl online from Peru and we e -mailed each other but we have to use a translator to understand each other. I was planning on making the trip to see her but thought "how can this work when we would have such a difficult time relating b/c of languages differences.
"I am scared on failure and don't want to suffer a bad experience b/c of that. We do talk on the phone and used the web-cam
but the language difference and an age difference of 21 years. She seems very sincere .... She would take a step back and learn some language first before making a trip. Wanted to know what you thought.
Thanks, M
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CARLOS:
My gut feeling is that this girl is looking for a ticket to ride over to the U.S. of A.
And right now, fear of loss (which is fear of failure) is not a frame you should have when entertaining a situation like this.
You have a lot of strikes against you...
1) You're thousands of miles away. Intimacy and relationships are not built over this kind of distance. I don't care what anyone else says.
2) Your age difference is HUGE. Do you want a woman for the weekend or a lifetime? Well, you better have more in common with her than your internet connection.
3) You're not even speaking the same language. Literally. You can't form an intimate bond without having something in common. And right now you might as well be from different planets.
Of COURSE she seems sincere. She's looking to upgrade her status from Peru to the land of Milk & Honey. She'll give you an Oscar winning performance.
I'm not saying she's lying or may not be into you, but ask yourself what's wrong with the guys in her neighborhood?
If you're interested in this woman, have her take a trip to come see you.
She can arrange for the travel, you will provide her with food and a place to stay. (Could be a hotel, too.)
If she digs you, she'll come see YOU.
And I really think you need to read my Dating Black Book. I address this specific situation and explain why you have to be careful with long distance relationships.
https://www.datingdynamics.com
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QUESTION:
Hi Carlos,
I came to you while surfing on the net for some ways to "get HER back". I bought your books (The Dating Black Book and Alpha Man) your cds (alpha and approach) and ... I ordered the advanced audio coaching... I studied and practiced, studied and practiced and... got girls, many.
In only two months I was with three, crazy time. Now I have one, sort of official, and another, just for the great sex. In that crazy time I had my ex ex again in just for a ride. I was just too excited with your tactics that I pushed it a little!!!
(I think you should tell guys to be careful [because] it's easy to exaggerate with your stuff and overdo it).
And in this crazy storm of multiple girls and sex I thought it might be a good idea to have HER in (HER is the one that send me browsing the net to get her back and made me meet you). I called her just to put her between the others... in the right perspective let's say, and try out your tactics with HER as well.�
Well we met and.... straight to bed.... (and she didn't even want to see me a few months back because of what I had done to her!).� Carlos, I had and still have a strong passion for her and love her and wanted to marry her. I left her because she's filipino (I'm Italian), and her uncle was watching close our relationship in a menacing way (if I hurt her I hurt you!) and my parents freaked out because her mum was my mum's helper.
I left her out of FEAR, and of the the serious commitment I was assuming while dating her... She was teared to bits, and then, when she stopped crying after weeks, I freaked out, literally... I did everything I could to ger her back, but in the wussy way, until I found you and started being ALPHA again.
That's why I was in the single arena again and looking for gals.... I had a lot of girls before, I got girls, and my game had a quantum leap since I met you and read your stuff. It was just the wussy parenthesis when I wanted to make it up and have her back, because I felt my decision to leave her was dictated by FEAR of what might be....
Now I want to leave one of the girls I am dating because she's a bit old for me, she's 39 I am 34 (should have stopped before but she was extra cute and adoring).�
Carlos. I would just like to get HER off my mind. What should I do? get back in the relationship and see how it works out, no fear? Maybe we marry and that's it.
Or get back in the dating scene to find one that really can replace her? Hold on to this last one, adoring as she is for some more time? She's not asking anything and I am starting to develop feelings for her. But I definitely don't want to marry her, especially for the age issue and her background, which, ironically, is the same as the filipino girl, only she's italian! Now it's 4 months we're together.
God bless you
G in Italy
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CARLOS:
WOW, man.
I guess my books and audio should come with a warning that "Using these products will give you a crazy and successful love life."
You've got what I'd declare a GOOD case of one-itis. That's where you're hung up on one woman for all the right reasons.
Most guys are caught up in one woman because of their scarcity mindset, but there's another mindset you have to watch out for. It's called the "maximizer" mindset. While it's not always negative, it's also not always positive, too.
A maximizer is the person who shops for the ABSOLUTE best deal on something, and is constantly second-guessing their decisions. They spend more time going after the best decision they can, rather than one that's good enough.
When men do this with women, we learn that the only good relationship is the NEXT one. We always think there's something better around the corner.
However, if you 'definitely don't want to marry' her, and you said that twice, then I suggest you move on. IF that's what you're looking for.
There's also nothing wrong with just having a relationship with someone, as long as they understand where you're coming from.
The point is that you now have that choice.
Just remember my saying: Don't bother going down old roads; they still lead to the same place they did before.
Also, if you want to get her off your mind, go find a new woman with whatever qualities you're looking for. Don't think that you're going to make things easier by falling back into a relationship to relieve your aching heart.
Work through it.
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I wrote the book on this subject of Alpha Men (literally and figuratively) and now I want you guys to reap the benefits.
In this book, I reveal the secret that most guys out there (especially "pick up artists") don't realize.
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Really, do you want to go any further without this knowledge?
This is what the other guys are using, and if you don't start learning the principles of how to create attraction, you're losing ground every day you wait.
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If you're reading these newsletters, and you find yourself nodding your head, wishing you could figure out what the heck is going on in your own dating situation, it's time to do better.
Are you tired of finding women that seem to be interested, and then they seem to get distant and all you get is a peck on the cheek and a "let's just be friends"?
Do you want to take the woman that you've lost and get her interested again?
Do you want to make sure you handle it right, from the start?
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- Carlos Xuma
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"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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