The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...

Friday, 5:30 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...

WHICH GUY DO YOU WANT TO BE?

I got this letter the other day, and I wanted to use this example to help you understand how two mindsets out there... the Winner, and the "I can keep losing a little longer."

I realize there are probably many shades of gray between these extremes, but you have to understand which of these polar opposites you're coming from - AND where you're going to.

Read first, and then I'll clarify:

QUESTION:

Hey Carlos,

I wanted to give you an update regarding some approaches Ed and myself performed last night. First I have to tell you, It has really stoked my game to study your material. The monthly Audio coaching sessions, the personal phone conversation, dating black book and so on.

In Martial Art terms, I'm far from a black belt in the Game of getting the Babes, but I see the end of the road coming for me. The more I study your work and PUT IT INTO ACTION, the more confident I am becoming each and every day.

Ed, my wing man ... The fact that he is willing to go out and practice your teachings qualifies him to hang with me. I can use other wingmen but I've taken a personal interest in helping this boy out. He's really a good kid.

We invited one of our acquaintances to go with us to the Clubs last night. His name is Martin and has a twin brother. Both spend WAY to much time at home and not going out ... making the people at [a popular online dating service] richer every month (Which I have no inclination to do).

And why should I, seriously, when I have you, O Master of the Game

: )

Ed drove his car and Martin and I followed him downtown to the Barracuda, a popular club here in the Portland area. So Martin started asking me, Dave, what provoked you to start studying these Dating Strategies?

I basically told him when my marriage plans with a girl I have known for 4 years fell through, I decided to expand my social circle. Whether some guys want to admit it or not, there are people out there with more game and can learn from them.

So he started asking me what I thought went wrong with a girl he was trying to start a relationship with at a local upscale restaurant. After hearing his story, I felt like I was you, Carlos, sitting next to him giving him the advice I had learned. He seemed surprised. So you intend to approach girls tonight David? That's what its all about Martin, I replied! Ha!

So once we got in, we sat down and immediately we spotted two girls standing at a table by the Dance floor. Ed liked one of them. So off you go Ed ... remember, TED ( Target, Engage, Disengage )

Martin wanted nothing to do with this.... Not even be a wing man or back up. He said, I'm just here merely to watch you guys.

So he walks up to them .... We noticed the convo going smoothly. Martin said to me as he watched Ed go up to them ... I can't believe he did that!

I replied to Martin, well buddy, its not as hard as you think once you break the ice. In fact, ...one of Ed's strengths is approaching people, I nicknamed him, "ice breaker"

So he came back to our table after about 3 to 4 minutes and we asked for a report. He gave them your "Cheater story" as an opener. Well, all didn't go completely smooth in his close. He invited them to come over to our table and the girl he liked replied, sure we'll come over! But never did.

Now it was my turn. 3 girls at a table.

Off I go. Carlos, this place was so noisy! Hard to walk up to some girls and explain some detailed story... fighting the noise and possibly the impatience of girls with me trying to talk over the music.

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So I walked up to them indirectly and said ... Hi ladies, can you help me out with a little debate my friends and I are having back at the table? We've been discussing the popularity of Elvis and the Beatles. You can be a fan of one, or the other, but not both, and I would like a girl's point of view.

Now this was interesting. Three different reactions. They all gave me their opinion. One was very bubbly and her eyes expanded talking to me. The other was warm and friendly, and the third, was a little cool.

So the one who seemed to have the most interest explained you can be a fan of both. She had great answers. Well one is a solo performer, the other a group, so on and so on.

So while the conversation was hot or, the energy high, I disengaged. "I have to get back to my table but it was great talking to you, thanks. I went back to our table and told the boys if they liked, the energy was on the good side and if they wanted, we can invite ourselves to their table.

Martin froze up and didn't want to ... so I left it at that and made the point of how easy it actually is to approach girls. I know I could have gotten further with the right people. Ed is always willing. Martin the party pooper wanted to go get breakfast.

CARLOS:

The reason I wanted to include this for you guys to read is because it exemplifies the difference between the men who succeed with women (and life) and those who don't.

Even the most unskilled will reap immense rewards from studying this stuff, but only if they WANT to.

Martin will not do this until he bottoms out and realizes that his state of denial is the biggest thing keeping him from success. He'll get emotionally crushed like an empty can of Bud before he'll take steps to improve himself.

Or he may just become attached to this powerless identity, because it allows him to feel safe and comfortable. He doesn't have to change. He can go on letting life rip him off. And he'll go on blaming everyone else so he doesn't have to venture outside his comfort zone.

He can keep on LOSING a little longer...

The best thing you can do is what this guy said above. PUT IT INTO ACTION.

One guy chose to reinforce his frame of: "how easy it actually is to approach girls." The other guy just sat back and talked himself out of success. His internal Loserboy monologue was probably something like this:

"Yeah, it works for HIM, but it wouldn't work for me..."

"He's probably a Natural at this."

"I'm happy where I am."

"Yeah, but ..."

Now if Martin had some idea of how this game worked, along with some solid strategies, he wouldn't have felt so weak and 'frozen.'

Ed, for all his inability is ten times further with his game than Martin.

Why?

Because he's out there DOING and not just hiding out behind his fear and insecurities.

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- Carlos Xuma

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