The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...

Friday, 2:50 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...

If you guys didn't get the word yet, Advanced Audio Coaching Session 7 is now available...

Session 7 has the answers you've been looking for. Well over 100 minutes of advanced information to get your game razor SHARP. It comes as MP3 files you can download and listen to right away.

We're starting a new series of instruction on The Stepping Stones - getting from first contact all the way to the bedroom, step by step.

Some of the topics in this month's session:

- Using the Stepping Stones to get from finding and meeting women to the date, to the bedroom
- Communication of value - the ultimate skill of the Alpha Man
- Controlling Breakup cost for ultimate control over the dating experience
- Using the Stones - start to finish, and overall strategies for crossing the river of seduction
- Complete review of "The Dance" and the principle of escalating sexual tension
- Starting off on the right food - Avoiding "dates" and other strategies for keeping your prospecting consistent
- Phrasing, communication skills, and the powerful use of subtext
- Advanced Communications with INDIRECTIVES - a strategy of value communication you can't afford not to use
- Handling women with your posture and body language
- Using T.E.D. and other approach strategies for meeting women, with examples
- Watch her buying temperature, and monitoring your progress as you remove interference and focus in on the seduction conversation
- Handling testing - the right way for men to communicate value with their verbal and physical communication
- Proxemics - using physical space and touching for seduction power
- The QUANTUM LEAP principle of raising your self-confidence with women - instantly

Plus much more...

I think you'll agree that this month totally kicks butt ...

Do you have an i-Pod or another MP3 player? You can take this coaching with you and review before you go on the big date with Ms. Fantastic...

"Every audio session is better than the preceding! Session 6 is FULL PACKED of invaluable information, and it's incredible when I think that all this only costs you a few bucks while I've spent so many dollars on other sites so far without learning nothing sensible and workable. Thank you again, Carlos!" - M in Italy

You can see the COMPLETE table of contents, and download it here:

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QUESTION:

Hi There

Just got the Dating Black Book and althugh I'm only part of the way through, the information is excellent and has forced me to re-evaluate my ideas about dating. It's all good stuff, especially about the Three S plan, which makes some things so much clearer.

My question may seen a little different compared to some of the others, but different is good, right?

I wanted to know whether not being able to dance very well (if at all) significantly reduces my chances with the ladies?

My friends (some of whom are very fit ladees, although I fear I am seen as a friend to them now) and I regularly go out to a nightclub, and I don't really want to dance, even though the group tries to get me onto the dance floor, and when I do I feel so uncomfortable that I cannot relax, and get my 'inner game' to the level needed. I also fear that it may put off any ladies still interested after they have taken in my looks (I know that you say they are not the most important, but when you are 20 and fat and going bald it doesn't do you any favours).

Just wondered if I should stay off the dance floor for good, or whether I can get over it by using other strategies.

Thanks in advance

CARLOS:

I'd have to say that dancing is a good skill to have in your bag.

However, it's not absolutely necessary. I've been an"okay" dancer most of my life, and I've done ... pretty good. ;) You can do fine without dancing.

That being said, why not improve?

I'd suggest you do take a class or two in modern dance to get you feeling more confident. Take a few swing lessons, or salsa, or even hip-hop.

You see, I don't think the problem is the DANCING. It's your self-consciousness ABOUT dancing and the fear of it.

THAT is what you should be focused on overcoming. You've got a challenge that you need to work on, and I have a feeling that when you overcome it, you'll find that ALL facets of your game improve.

Bet on it.

Also, keep in mind that dancing is a great way of communicating sexually, as well as interacting with women you might not get near otherwise. Young women love to dance. It's a fact. If you "stay off the dance floor for good," you're going to eliminate that possibility from your life.

It's not all or nothing when it comes to dancing. You don't even have to be good. You just have to be confident and do your best. That's about all it takes.

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QUESTION:

Hi Carlos,

Your system is absolutely phenomenal. You really know what you're talking about.

Could you please help me... I just did a serious mistake. This is a unique situation which may add to the great amount of knowledge you possess about women...

I have been in a long distance relationship for over three months. Her interest level was always extremely high - at 95%. I mean, I've been studying women for long now, and I was well prepared. She was constantly calling me, wanting to chat for hours. I knew how to talk so she was never bored.

She wanted me to come live with her. I teased her, with my C&F attitude and there was laughter at every single phone call. She constantly told me how much she misses me, and when we finally meet or go on vacation together, she goes crazy over me, and the love-making is unbelievable. She told me she's waited her whole life for someone like me.

Last week, I failed two critcial tests, and now I feel like a total idiot. We went on a beatiful vacation and it's been two weeks that we're back in 'long-distance' mode. The first week was good, but then she started getting insecure about how she's not ready for an 'intense' relationship.

She became really busy with her work/career, and possibly pressured by her parents. I wrongly became insecure about this, and started arguing. (I was in a bad mood because of external things.) I started suspecting she wants to break up out of paranoia, rather than just light-heartedly making a joke out of it. I should have said "Gees, I don't want to risk our friendship and you're already pushing me with an intense relationship?? Chill girl!" That surely would have worked.

Instead, I argued on how she should commit to me, and how important it is to have a soulmate. Then I did another mistake by saying I bought a book on long distance relationships (not yours) to help her. What the #@^% was I thinking? I never do stupid things like this.

Now I'm getting the effects of this lowered interest level. She is starting to nag me a bit, calling me immature for talking that way. Now, I've locked in her fear of intense relationships and she is hesitant to talk about our future vacations together. She's still calling "just to say hi" and emotionally involved (laughing alot), but it's not the same anymore. And now I'm starting to think she'll never forget about this scar or never raise her interest level? What should I do now to eliminate the fear/pressure from her mind I gave her.

I appreciate your response.

Victor - a little paranoid at the moment

CARLOS:

Well, let that be a lesson to you. You see what happens when a guy starts to lose control? Not only of the relationship, but of himself?

You're dead on when you said you failed two tests.

Let me guess what happened...

While on this wonderful vacation, things were just so WONDERFUL, and you two were like glowing spheres of light. You were pure Love and Awareness, and her touch seemed like the caresses of a goddess.

And then you got all mushy and wimpy, dropping the "we're soulmates" bomb on her. Or maybe it was the "we are meant to be together" bomb. Whatever it was, it was a bomb that blew your posture up ... real good.

Soulmates.

Don't get me started, dude.

Been there. Done that. Bought the T-shirt.

And you know what that T-shirt says?

"I turned into a wimp, lost my balls, and lost my girlfriend. Now all I've got is this lousy T-shirt."

You see, this is the cycle:

Boy meets girl.

Boy does the right things to raise her attraction.

Boy gets girl hot for him.

Boy gets hot for girl.

Boy stops doing all the right things he did to raise her attraction

Girl gets scared she's stuck with another wimpy dude.

Girl runs away.

Boy runs after girl and manages to completely scare her off because he got insecure.

I used to do this ALL the time. And it sucks, dude. I feel for you. Now it's time to correct it.

Here is your solution:

1) Stop talking deep heavy romance and "soulmates" with her. Drop it. Now.

2) Stop reading books on long distance relationships. If you're reading a book like that, it means you're spending far too much time thinking about how to MAKE this work, which makes you PARANOID and over invested in her.

3) You asked me what to do to eliminate the fear/pressure. You know what you do? NOTHING. You stop calling her for at least TWICE as long as the longest time you've ever gone without talking with her. If you once went a week, you now need to avoid talking to her for two weeks.

4) Start dating other women. (MAN, I hate sounding like a broken record.) You're paranoid because you have no other OPTIONS. Get another woman into your life so you don't smother this one and scare her off to the convent.

5) Start giving HER some doubts. The good kind. Like "what is he thinking?" "What is he doing when he's not answering my calls?" "Why won't he call me???" You're too easy. Start backing off. WAY off. Enough to scare her. Because if you give her space and she drops you, you never had her to begin with.

6) Stop arguing with her. You will NEVER talk a woman into wanting you. You can only display the qualities she wants and then let her FALL in love with you. (Ever wonder why they don't call it "pulling into love"? or "pushing into love"?)

You know, they really OUGHT to teach teasing like this in school, and how your mind can play these tricks on you, but it's just not "politically correct." I can assure you that "Women 101" will not be on your school schedule anytime soon.

That's why I wrote the e-book on this subject. I go into gory detail about this and the underlying psychology of dating, posture, attitude ... the A-Z of dating and the male-female dynamic, in my e-book The Dating Black Book.

Wouldn't it be great to learn how women REALLY think and work?

Wouldn't it be fantastic to finally put aside your fears of them once and for all? Approach women anywhere and anytime?

The cure for this kind of fear is the TRUTH.

(Remember: FEAR= False Evidence Appearing Real.)

Education leads to understanding. Understanding leads to better choices. Better choices lead to better results.

And results are ALL that matters when it comes to the game of women.

I can show you the way to better results and success with women, and it's all in my e-book - THE DATING BLACK BOOK. You need to download it from here:
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You'll get answers to questions like:
... When is a woman playing you or REALLY interested?
... How do you stop being strung along for weeks and weeks by women, and how do you turn them on to you instead of you being turned into another girlfriend?
... How do you meet MORE hot women?
... How do you get them attracted to you right from the start?
... How do you stop paying for dates that go NOWHERE?

Really, do you want to go through 2004 without this powerful knowledge? Do you want ANOTHER year of confusion and poor results to stop you from getting what you deserve?

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It's almost April already. How much better are you than when the year started?

The year is 1/4 over.

25% done.

How have you improved?

You see, I believe that EVERY man deserves to have a woman by his side ... and three or four if he so desires. I've devoted my life to helping people and training them for more and better success.

I've talked to guys the world over who have made a REAL difference in their lives by taking the first step on the right path - learning. Once you understand, your world opens up.

Ask yourself: Do you want to wind up in your rocking chair whining about all the things you SHOULD have done?

Seize this opportunity. It's time to start WINNING.

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Don't forget - The Advanced Audio Coaching Session 7 is ready NOW to take your current skills and take them to the limit...

Imagine having a coach giving you tips, strategies, and a complete breakdown on how to improve your technique and success with women - firsthand. You can listen to this audio RIGHT NOW on your PC or Mac, and you can even use your MP3 player to take the learning and go mobile.

"Every audio session is better than the preceding! Session 6 is FULL PACKED of invaluable information, and it's incredible when I think that all this only costs you a few bucks while I've spent so many dollars on other sites so far without learning nothing sensible and workable. Thank you again, Carlos!" - M in Italy

The monthly audio series is OVER 100 MINUTES of advice and explosive tips, and it's available for download at:

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-Carlos

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