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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Thursday, 4:45 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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QUESTION:
However, now I would like to ask you something that might not be directly related to the girls, but indirectly, I think, it is.
It is about Alpha Man and how to deal with situations when someone wants to put you down. It is not about people that you meet for first time, it is about your "friends" that obviously feel less worth and from time to time put you down with their remarks. Whether it is about your height, size, skin color... And the point is that others might pick up those remarks (shorty, fat...) and start to call you that way. Because, if your "friends" call you that, why wouldn't they?
I think it is really tricky situation: If you react they have achieved what they wanted, and if you don't, others (including girls) will think that you are a wimp. So, having those two options, I would definitely go for second. It is just, I'm not sure HOW should I react.
It is definitely not pleasant when your "friend" approaches you in front of other people saying: "How are you, shorty..." I know there is a reason for this approach and there is something that this "friend" wants to achieve.
Thanks.
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CARLOS TELLS YOU THE TRUTH ABOUT GUYS WHO CAN'T HELP BUT BE DICKS:
The reality is that these friends of yours are just trying to elevate their status in the pack by lowering yours. It's been going on in every part of the animal kingdom since time began, and it's how he can get rid of the competition by making you look inferior.
I cover this concept thoroughly in the AMOG segment of this month's audio coaching, Session 18.
Guys everywhere are trying to interfere in your game, and for several reasons:
- They're jealous, and they figure that if they can't be successful with women, they'll mess it up for you.
- They are intimidated by a guy who genuinely wants to learn and grow.
- They're trying to lower you to raise themselves.
- They're insecure or have low self-esteem.
Really, that last one says it all. Every guy out there has friends who don't really want to move forward in life. They're only here for the comfort and getting by as easily as possible.
They'll hold you back so that they don't lose you as a friend, or to avoid having to realize that they are actually pretty pathetic. They may mean well, but intentions are worthless when they don't result in some positive action.
These are also the guys that will laugh and mock your attempts to become an Alpha Man, and even ridicule the thought of a book that helps you improve your game with women.
And, at the same time, these guys are also dismal and colossal failures with women themselves, always with an excuse as to why they're not dating the hot chick.
Just listen to them ...
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"Women are all crazy (or insert any other negative name or comment...)" TRANSLATION: I don't have a clue, so it's got to be THEIR fault. Insults are easier than introspection.
"I'm tired of women/ I'm taking a break from women ..." TRANSLATION: Women are tired of guys like me.
"I haven't found one that I want to be with..." TRANSLATION: I'm not really looking or trying. And it's easier to do nothing than take a chance or a risk that might bruise my sensitive ego.
"I don't like all the games..." TRANSLATION: I don't have a clue about how to play the game, and I won't get Carlos' e-book to learn. :)
I'm not saying that ALL your friends are like this, but we all have a few who have some of these traits. It's up to you to figure out if that is the kind of person you want to have around.
I personally will not keep anyone in my life that does not support my way of life and positive growth. Primarily because my definition of a "FRIEND" is a person who WILL support my lifestyle and never try to hold me back.
You know, it's hard enough in life to get ahead doing the right thing, so no one needs any extra baggage to pull with them through life.
I see a lot of nodding heads out there.
In fact, these weasel guys will do their best to be super subtle with their insults and provoking so that they can backpedal if they're called on it. They keep an emergency exit open just in case of this.
Say a guy calls you "shorty" when you're with a woman. You tell him, "Hey, dude, that's not cool. Stop making fun of me. What if I called you pinky pecker?"
And then he shifts his track. He says, "Oh, hey man... relax! I was just kidding! Man, you need to chill!" He gives her a look like, Wow! Can you beLIEVE how he reacted?
And then guess who looks like the dick?
That's right... YOU do.
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This is what passive aggressiveness is all about, for you psych majors out there. People play some pretty manipulative games to get their way.
So here's how you handle these AMOGs (Alpha Male Other Guys) from messing you up and trying to keep you back in the wolf pack.
Take back your dignity by doing these two things:
1) NEVER REACT. You're right, that gives them the reaction they're hoping for. When you react, you turn off the woman, and the guy gets to prove his superiority. Game over. Zip up your fly.
2) Always have a response ready for his cute little put-down. It should be a counter to whatever low-key insult he comes up with. Of course, it should never be another insult, like "pinky pecker." So, using the example from above:
Say a guy calls you "shorty" when you're with a woman. You tell him, "Shorty??? Did you know that Tom Cruise is only 5 foot 7? Did you know that Dustin Hoffman is around 5 foot 6? Take a look at this fine tuned package" (strut a little, point to yourself, and make funny gestures to show off) "and be amazed at how God fit so much sexiness in this terrific, compact package."
Do you see how this goes? You have to out-Alpha them. And you've got to be PREPARED to do it. Don't wing it, or you'll just look like a dork trying to stumble and fumble for words.
You already know what they're going to pull, because they've done it in the past. So all you need to do is think up a few good funny remarks of your own that show you are not affected in the SLIGHTEST. In fact, by showing that you have a sense of humor about it, you'll make THEM look like the idiots.
Deflect it with humor.
3) Push him back. HARD. Sometimes guys like this need a real bitch-slap to let them know that you're not going to play that game. It's like when you see a lion cub playing with its dad, nipping and pulling at him. For a while, the big lion is just sitting there, all mellow, waiting for them to get done. But when they bite too hard, or get too uppity ... SWAT! They get a small can of whupass opened on them.
Stomp out this spark before he becomes a forest fire. It will only go to further prove your Alpha status.
These guys are trying to beat you down through subtle methods that allow them to lower your social status by chipping away with small put-downs and such. And then they'll deny it if they're confronted with the truth. So you just have to beat them at their own game.
And, again, I'd reconsider who you spend your time with if they're the kind of people who cut you down to build themselves up. Women will read your choice of friends as a kind of desperation and end up pitying you instead of being attracted to you. If you think YOU notice what's going on, these women are seeing EVERYTHING.
Remember that every choice you make about your life either says "Alpha MAN" or "Wimpy chump."
It's your choice.
I GUARANTEE you success if you do what I recommend, and follow the simple strategies I've got for you.
Ultimately, you're just going to have to learn enough about what's going on in her head to get that upper hand.
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I'll be back with more advice this week...
Here's to 2005 -- the year for you to get busy and get successful with women!
- Carlos
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"Carlos, it's so simple man. I'm an alpha man and have been my whole life... just without knowing some of the clear distinctions that you have outlined in your ebook. Your book is a really powerful for a guy like me who has been studying his stuff his whole life, so for all the new guys this will be super powerful, mind-blowing stuff! It will almost too good to be true for some guys... I can already see the difference in some interactions within minutes of reading your book... I do feel kind of sorry for my secretary though because I've gotta keep my pen out of the company ink! Keep up the great work!" - Tim from Toronto, Canada
"Dear Carlos, Your program is a "killer..."
It helped me to get rid of many traits of the so called "nice guy" - shyness, indecisiveness, "ass-kissing", etc.
... It boosted significantly my love and sex life. Not only [this] ... It helped me to be more successful in doing business, I can now easily spot when somebody wants to "walk over me" and try to make me submissive as usually women do. Thanks a lot!
My best wishes to you!"
- S.D.
Sofia, Bulgaria
"I LOVE your Secrets of the Alpha Man program. It is by far the best overall e-book and audio program online that I have read....and I have done my research and read all the popular e-books and what not.
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"[I've been] studying your book and already seeing results..."
"Thanks, your work is really having a wonderful impact ... I have to admit that your work is the only material that I trust as far as internet products ...
"A loyal Reader - T.G.
P.S. Keep up the good work and keep those great e-books coming !"
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Listen to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
tactics and techniques in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner game.' From
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- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
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- The Dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
valuable advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many, many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
about anything. And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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