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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Thursday, 2:30 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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QUESTION:
Hi
I've got The Dating Black Book...
the black book teaches one how to love the right way. You see, people say they love, but they realy need.
Loving one and needing one are 2 different things. Needing one can cause that individual to feel drowned and to run. Realy loving one the right way will make that individual feel so good that they will run after you.
The book helps one learn this (concept) which is easier said then done.
THE BOOK WAS EXCELLENT.
But I have a question!
Whats the acceptable age difference a man can have to a woman in a serious relationship?
How many years older can he be than the woman and still be free of complications and problems in a serious relationship (marriage) with that woman, due to being older?
Whats your opinion?
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CARLOS TALKS ABOUT OLD GUYS:
Glad you enjoy the e-book... That's a good point, and a subtle one that people often miss.
When you come from a place of NEEDing versus WANTing, you come across with a very insecure and unhealthy vibe. Women are turned off from it.
But now you want to know what age difference would be healthy.
Well, it's been my experience that the man really needs to be older than the woman for things to work out. Guys wanting older women is usually due to a strange fetish, or just a desire to have a romping good time in the bedroom. (Yes, older women are much better in bed than younger girls.)
Now, how much older can you be than her?
As much as you want. Most girls are looking for men they can look up to and respect. Older men are creepy to women if they remind them of their grandpa, but if they're a hip and exciting older guy, they can really dig on it. If you're not some semi-bald, dorky looking professor type, you'll do a lot better.
I can't give you a specific number of years. If compatibility is a crucial factor in your selection, then I'd recommend you stay within a few (1-5) years of the girl you're dating.
Otherwise you'll find her talking about Eminem, and you'll be talking about M&Ms.
Marriage requires a level of rapport and understanding that is harder to obtain if there's more than 10 years between you. (And the younger you are, the closer your age needs to be.)
But if you're just looking for a good old fashioned poke-in-the-whiskers... Any legal age is open.
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QUESTION:
Hey coach
I love your tips in the newsletter, and I have a problem you can help me with.
I have girl friend that I love, been in a relationship a year now, I'm 19, she's 17.
The problem:
We haven't been seeing each other lately due to me not having time, she can't see me when I do and I don't have my own place for privacy. It's really bad for the relationship I know.
Last night I was calling her she wouldn't answer then she sent me message saying that she loves me, she does not want to be in relationship at the moment and needs to focus on college etc.
We are going to see each other for the last time on Thursday, well for not for a while anyway because we planned a date in advance to see each other again in a couple months time.
It's getting scary
I didn't want to fall in love with her in the first place, deep down inside I would let her for my pride, but I don't want her to go because I'm afraid that another guy might [give her] the thing I want her feel through an orgasm! it's silly, I know. what should do? Should I even see her this Thursday? And even if I should, how should I act?
I know I'm just being selfish and probably doing this ease the tension.
But I need your advice, thanks for reading.
- A
CARLOS GIVES A RUDE AWAKENING:
She's going to college, and she wants to be free. I hate to tell you this, but it's so she can have fun. Yes, with other guys.
And she will not be a good person to be with right now. She'll tear down your self-esteem if you try to tie her down. You'll wind up being one of those crying wussies if you try to cling to her and get needy. It's one of life's difficult lessons, but it must be learned.
I suggest you get one last night of fun with her and consider her lost to the wild years of college. The easier you let her go (not making a fuss and crying and getting all emotional) the more chances you'll have of sticking with her, even if for recreation.
And you should be doing the same thing!
I caught you saying "I'm doing this... and I KNOW it's bad" several times there.
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But I don't think you understand how much of a loser line that is.
Anyone that says, "Yeah, I know, BUT..." is just giving themselves an out.
"But" WHAT?
That's like saying, "Yeah, I know that driving drunk is irresponsible, but I can't help it."
BULLSH!T!!
You're just giving yourself an excuse to continue the same unhealthy and damaging behavior.
Stop saying "I know" and start exerting some mental self-discipline over yourself.
HARSH TRUTH: She may love you, but she's leaving you. Not just for college, but mentally and physically.
You're not being selfish - you're being INSECURE.
Your need to give her this experience is just your way of satisfying your own insecurities. You hope that if you show her the gold, she'll never want another guy.
Sorry to tell you this, but she's in an age where she's going to get experienced, baby.
She's going to romp it up with some college boys. You're on the way out.
Just bow out gracefully before she dumps you hard and I start getting emails from you about how you "just want one more chance..." or "how can I win her back..?"
An Alpha Man has CONTROL over his impulses.
Here's how you act -
LIKE A MAN.
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Show her a guy who can confidently go out and find another girl in a heartbeat. That's the only way she'd ever want you again.
And even then I think that your cause is nearly over.
I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, but let's get real here.
Stop pretending that your actions are okay when they're not.
Start holding yourself to a higher standard of behavior, and start sculpting that inner Alpha Man before it's too late.
You want to know how to get started?
First of all, you need my e-book - The Dating Black Book. I've packed this e-book with HUNDREDS of examples, tips, strategies, explanations, what to say, what to do, how to interpret situations, and how to clean up that stinkin' thinkin' ...
It's all inside. And you can get it here:
datingdynamics.com
Add on the www if you need it for your browser.
Oh, and I've got a new e-book and 6-CD audio program, and this new program covers every part of your self-confidence and inner game.
We've got a new site at: alphaseduction.com
This program covers ALL aspects of overcoming your shyness, fears, and insecurities with women (and with life) and gets you on the path to TOTAL self-confidence.
Listen to what this guy has to say about it, and how he's learned from the program:
"The negative self-talk was killing me for decades, that's my motivation for doing this. No woman is going to give me sex out of pity. Sex is just a mindless fat-burning exercise like climbing the StairMaster; it's the skill I want so I won't become co-dependent. Being desired is the prize I'm looking for, and I need to accept myself first.
"I had a very attractive woman 6 years ago who was even needier than me... like a small child hanging off my arm... it mirrored my own insecurities and made me very uncomfortable. That's how I made other women feel and they left or never felt attraction, not because they were confirming my cooked-up negative fantasies I thought was their impression of me.
"As for my past, WHO CARES!!!!! Those are the two most relieving words I have ever adopted.
"Glad to be in your bootcamp.. - C.H."
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- Carlos
"Dear Carlos, Your program is a "killer..."
It helped me to get rid of many traits of the so called "nice guy" - shyness, indecisiveness, "ass-kissing", etc.
... It boosted significantly my love and sex life. Not only [this] ... It helped me to be more successful in doing business, I can now easily spot when somebody wants to "walk over me" and try to make me submissive as usually women do. Thanks a lot!
My best wishes to you!"
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"A loyal Reader - T.G.
P.S. Keep up the good work and keep those great e-books coming !"
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Listen to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
tactics and techniques in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner game.' From
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"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
valuable advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many, many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
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- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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