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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Thursday, 2:25 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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THE ONE AND ONLY:
Ok, here's my problem.
There's this girl I talk to a lot. We flirt, we hang out, she loves me (no question shes attracted) and get along great. We laugh and talk about things and have so much fun.
The thing is, she's dating lot's of guys at one time (more than just me alone). Now, this is what bothers me, I know how you ... say it's fine to date more than one person/girl at a time but it bothers me when a girl (or this girl, in this case) does it.
It's like all the time we have together dosen't really mean much, because I'm just another one of her "boy toys" or "flirts" or whatever. It makes me feel I guess *unspecial* to her and like all the naughty boy stuff I put on her she forgets (and it works great and she's extremely turned on when I use it, grabbing my ass and pushing me a lot).
It's like she can choose to be attracted on and off after I leave.
These other guys flock around her and kiss her ass and often take her to very expensive places. I don't know if she does it for the free meals, validation or just to feel like she's in control of men or whatever, but it kind of holds US back I feel.
I just need some guidance here.
Am I overthinking this and maybe she ISN'T as attracted as I think??? Is she just seeking acceptance from a lot of men and is this a big red flag and I should avoid her from now on and move on???
I know she dosen't just want me for sex because, well we haven't had sex yet. She has never had sex before and wants to lose her virginity to a man she loves.
The point just is that I can't tell what's going on and will need some base or mentality frame to start at. Any advice for me???
Thanks,
-M
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CARLOS:
This girl sounds really young, that�s my guess.
If she�s dating a lot of guys, she�s distributing her attention, and the attention she gets back. (Which is what you need to be doing!)
Remember, you�ll always be at the mercy of the one that isn�t giving you what you want.
You're experiencing what SHE should be experiencing. You see, she should be wondering about you and all the ladies you've got in your life right now, not the other way around. Now you're a victim of your own insecurities, jealousy, and responding to a challenge.
You also don�t try to make her go exclusive unless it�s something SHE suggests.
The only way for her to do that is for her to find YOU the most desirable. Which is done by BEING the most desirable by dating many women at the same time.
You see, this all comes full circle. It all starts with you creating a lifestyle of abundance.
And stop any interactions with her that are �talking,� or �sharing,� or any of that crap. Until she�s ready to isolate you as her one and only, you can�t.
PERIOD.
And, yes, you should watch out for red flags on this one that she might be an �attention whore.� She thrives on the attention for validation, which means ANY man that gives her the validation will be a groupie of hers. (A groupie is a guy who hangs out with her on the chance she might want him. But she will tease him along endlessly instead, gathering free sustenance from him at every chance.)
What you're talking about is something I've experienced many times, and when it appears that her attraction flips on and off, it's because she's not attracted to YOU as much as she's attracted to the attention you bring her.
I ran into one of these women yesterday at the gas station. She had an incredible body (*most of it as fake as a 3-dollar bill), and dressed to show it. She was also loud and obnoxious on her cell phone, making sure that EVERYONE heard about her wonderful life and her new husband.
You can take heart in the fact that these other guys sound like total dweebs and probably lack the strategies you have. But as long as you focus solely on this one, she will elude you.
Oh, and I highly recommend you get my e-books right away. If you�re only reading the newsletter, you�re getting a good amount of advice, but missing the BIG picture.
I suggest you start with the Dating Black Book.
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Right away. Don�t half-ass this part of your life. You�ll regret it if you do.
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THE NEVERENDING STORY:
First off let me thank you for all the great advice in the past as well as the future. You have helped me to overcome my shyness as well as be more confident around women. Through your teachings I have learned to better understand women and have more success with them.
I have been dating this girl for 2 months, for the most part it has been going pretty good until this last date. As I was taking her home she said " I really like hanging out with you, but I really don't want a boyfriend right now." I was sort of surprised and didn't really know how to respond.
We then proceeded to have a arguement where she told as she has been warning me for awhile that her tax season is beginning as an accountant and she doesn't have extra time and she has some personal issues that she has to deal with.
But then she kept throwing in things like "I really like you.", "I really see a long term relationship with you." She said she just needed a break for a few "months" while she figured out some issues and got thru her busy tax season.
I talked to her for awhile and we agreed we both liked each other and I asked her if she wanted to continue, she said ok. I knew things were not good, but I have tried to call her a few times and she never returns my calls.
Is this her way of nicely telling me she doesn't want to see me? Should I back off give her some space and see what she does? Should I try calling her some more? Should I pursue this or not?
CARLOS:
This chick is completely full of shit.
Let me ask you this: If you were REALLY into her, would you let anything get in your way?
Not likely.
And women are exactly the same. If she was really into you, she wouldn't be trying to put space between you, she'd be working her ass off to get it back.
She�s just trying to not hurt your feelings.
Tax season?
PUH-lease!
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Drop her completely until she gets her head on straight. Don�t call her anymore. EVER. She isn�t into you, and the more you attempt contact, the more you�re pushing her away.
I don't care what a woman SAYS. That's lame. Watch what she DOES. What does she give to you in the way of attention...?
Move on, get over her. You've been dumped. Sorry to be so harsh about it, but it's better that you face reality now than become a sad stalker.
People who REALLY are into each other don�t want a break; they want to get it started and keep it going!
And in the future, never TALK about what should be HAPPENING between you. It destroys any se*xual tension � and you need that to develop the relationship you want.
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It would have saved this relationship for you.
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- Carlos
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