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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Thursday, 1:20 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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QUESTION:
I have read some of your e-books and know somethings I should do.
But here is my situation.
I met this girl in the office and didn't get attracted to her first but later on did. The attraction got more and more greater.
She comes and sits on my lap and talks to me. Few days later she kisses me.
2 or 3 days,it went on.
i thought she really wanted me.
Then later I found out that she was like that with everyone. I really like her. Not to get to bed with her but I really love her.
She said to her friend that i was not her type. Then y did she come and kiss me. Just dont understand that. She know's I like her a lot.but now she kisses a guy in our office. and kisses in front of me. Her friend says she doesn't want to make me jealous but she's doing this without any reason.
I did tell her i love her. But she didn't take it seriously. These days I just can't bare to watch her with other guys.
I dont know what to do. Have any suggestions?
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CARLOS:
First, don't give me any crap about not wanting to go to bed with her. That's a dangerous belief to harbor, that you're some kind of super-gentleman that is in this for her best interests. You're a red-blooded MAN. Reach down there, grab your pair, and repeat after me:
"S*e*x is good! S*e*x is fine! Without any s*e*x, she'd never be mine!"
NEVER be shamed out of the most natural human need.
And now, I want to play a little game with everyone. It's called "Name that Emotion."
It goes like this:
If you are only acquainted with a woman by seeing her once a day at the office, and you have NEVER had a date with her, NEVER really gotten to know her, or even slept with her,
You should call your feelings toward her:
A) Love
B) Like
C) Lust
The answer is "C) Lust."
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You don't know enough about a woman to LOVE her without having dated her thoroughly for a LONG period of time. (No, I'm not going to tell you how long, but it's LOOOOOONG. Trust me. Most guys think they know a woman after a few weeks, but they don't.)
And you TOLD her you loved her?
Dude, what were you THINKING? (Sound of hand slapping forehead.) Don't make me come over there.
NEVER confuse Love with Lust.
And don't invest more emotion in a woman that isn't even dating you. That's like buying a stock for a ridiculously over-inflated price, and then the broker calls you and says you can't actually OWN it, but he wants you to keep paying him money anyway.
RRRRRRRRRRight.
The answer to your problems is this: NEVER tell a woman you "like her a lot" or "love her" in the hopes that she'll want to go out with you. And NEVER believe that if she knew this she would suddenly fall madly in love with you.
Telling a woman you have these feelings before anything has been established CREEPS THEM OUT.
Women don't fall for guys because they demonstrated their love. They fall for guys that get them ATTRACTED right from the start. Evidence doesn't matter unless there's already a case. Make sense?
(Hollywood has corrupted so many good men out there. I'm considering a class action lawsuit.)
The LESS she knows about your interest, and the LESS she thinks you're interested, the MORE she will be interested.
Totally counterintuitive to what your mom and the media may have programmed you with, but oh well. Get over it.
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QUESTION:
Here's something that I guarantee WILL work on her, but it may be too late for you to pull it off:
DON'T give her the attention she wants so badly. Refuse it. The next time she sits on your lap and tries kissing you, push her off. Be DIFFERENT.
Act disinterested, like you've got and had MUCH better. Make it clear that you're not so easily manipulated, and you're not like the "other guys." Be HARD-to-get, not easy-to-use.
CHALLENGE the hell out of her. That's the only way to get her to keep interest. I call this Low-self-esteem-female-attention disorder. She wants the attention because she's secretly insecure, and the only way to get her to respond is to keep her feeling as if she needs to validate herself further. (Not recommended, because you'll wind up in a very neurotic head game.)
Let me tell you, this gal is a tease. She thrives on the attention. She's in it for HERSELF, and that does NOT make a good woman for you to get involved with.
She's also CRUEL, because any woman that would toy with your emotions WITHOUT telling you that she wasn't interested is BAD NEWS.
She may not be trying to get you jealous, but I suspect she probably does ENJOY it and laps up the affect.
She's an attention-monkey.
Tell me, is that the kind of woman you're looking for?
(Geez, especially a gal that does this at WORK. That's not too smart.)
I understand how disappointing it is, buddy. You invest a little of your heart in someone, and then you find out she's treating everyone else the same way. You're just as COMMON as coal. And she laughs at you as she PEES all over your nice gestures - like a dog in the garden.
What do you do?
First of all, ask yourself this question until you get a good answer:
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WHY AM I INVESTING MY EMOTIONS AND DESIRE IN SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT WANT ME?
Really, you need to go get my e-book and review how to get the women out there you want. You may have read it once and then put it aside, but you need to go back to it again and AGAIN. It's meant to be used as REFERENCE. I cover ALL these situations and how to handle them right from the beginning. I even cover the types of women to avoid.
You are re-programming your mind for success, and that does not happen after a quick scan of the words.
Guess how quickly you'll stop caring about little Miss Cruelty when you've got a dozen other women interested...?
(I'll give you some inside info: NOWHERE in my e-books or audio do I EVER tell you to confess your emotions to a woman in the hopes that it will attract her. But I WILL tell you how to get other HOT WOMEN that YOU want by doing things right from the very start.)
Learn how to observe and PAY ATTENTION. Develop your fine sense of interpretation, and learn to watch for the right signals if a woman is playing you or really interested.
How do you know when a woman is playing you?
How do you meet more hot women?
How do you get them attracted to you?
How do you overcome your personal limitations so you can be the man YOU want to be?
These were questions I wanted answers to for YEARS, and I finally decided that I was going to get them. I started reading all the books in the bookstore on the topic. When I realized they didn't have the information I needed, I started looking for books that talked about pickups and techniques and the "taboo" information that you couldn't find anywhere else. (I started this before there was an Internet, but not TOO long before. :)
When I got as much as I could find (and that wasn't a lot) I started trying things and experimenting. I got rejected and blasted, and occasionally I also got LAID. I watched why people did things and noticed how they influenced how other people perceived them.
I wrote the book on this (literally and figuratively) and now I want you guys to reap the benefits. I have spent YEARS and YEARS out there getting battered, deep-fried, and served up as a meal ticket in the world of dating, and there's no reason why you should have to.
Really, do you want to go through 2004 without this powerful knowledge? Do you want ANOTHER year of confusion and poor results to stop you from getting what you deserve?
I've talked to guys the world over who have made a REAL difference in their lives by taking the first step on the right path - learning. Once you understand, your world opens up.
"To all the guys on the mailing list can't stress how much you need this book to succeed with women you may have your doubts but put them aside this is the genuine article that will change your life ... you need this book!!!" - Chris in the UK
"I would just like to say if you are like me and need that little confidence booster or maybe just need some positive advice in learning the art of conversation with the ladies out there ,then don't hesitate to get this course guys as I promise that you will not regret it ... Why didn't I do this years ago!!!
Well done, Carlos." - Michael - United Kingdom
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"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
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"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
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Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
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"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
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"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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