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Just a note that Carlos will be the primary contributor on many of these mailings while I work on completing some other projects. I think you'll find that we've got the same ability to cut through. Except Carlos tends to swear more... ;)

Pay attention below where you'll get a bonus tip I sent re: how to use online dating to get more successful...

QUESTION:

Dear Mr Miagi,

I have just started a university course as a mature age student (im 24) and am wondering how I can use this as an advantage to meet and pick up women.

There are lots of younger girls there and I feel I have an advantage as I have been living in the "real world", having left school a while ago. In other words, I have plenty of experience!

My question is: How can I make dates with these women at lectures and classes to get the most success? How can I make it equally casual and exciting? (I dont want a girlfriend, just fun!)

Cheers,
DM.

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CARLOS:

The question is really about what you've acquired in terms of real world experience and maturity that you can bring to the table. With any luck, you'll have a better sense of self than most of the leg-humping monkeys at your university.

You are going to have a lot easier time of it on campus if you use your confidence like a badge.

The first step is to project your confidence to them. If you can sit anywhere, sit next to the women you're interested in. Express a confident but casual interest in them. You can do this by asking to borrow a highlighter or an eraser occasionally, or even asking what time it is. This lets them know that you're not just looking to hit on them, and they'll begin to wonder. Over time, you'll cultivate an air of mystery.

Use your body language to let them know that you're not intimidated or on the prowl. The easiest way to reflect this is to not face a woman directly. When you approach straight on, openly, it sends a far different message than if you look over your shoulder at her. Try it and you'll start to see what I mean. Play with your posture so that you convey a certain aloof distance.

Your goal is to communicate (without words) that you're a self-assured man, because this will be translated into her subconscious mind as "He's good with women, and he'll be good with me sexually."

Another advantage of your environment is that you know you'll see these women several times, so there's no need to rush. Take your time. Build up a little sexual tension, and use time to your advantage. Most guys are rushing along, where you know you can let a few meetings sink in and work for you.

Something to consider is that campus life is very high-visibility. Use this to your advantage. First of all, make sure you're seen with many women. This will raise the curiosity factor for women who see you. Conversation starters should be a breeze, considering you have so much going on in common there with the other students. "So what program are you in?" "Did you just transfer in?" Etc.

You'll want to isolate these women from their friends and get phone numbers. Be careful of looking too eager by calling too quickly. The best strategy is to let them see you a few times in a class before calling her. That way you can play up the hard-to-get so that she'll be wondering when you'll call her.

Women in college are the best candidates for dating and seduction. They're not looking to get tied down (most, anyway), and they are also more liberated from social expectations if they're living away from home. They're still building their sexual experience and self-esteem, which means they are most responsive to the techniques I teach in The Dating Black Book.

Use the library, the gym, and any parties to your advantage. There's so much social activity, you're going to have trouble deciding who gets your attention.

When you date them, get them off campus to places where you can avoid other students. You don't want to start the wrong kind of reputation when it comes to dating. Try to avoid displaying too much affection for any one gal in public.

And make no excuses to any woman there who tries to play you with her test questions about "are you a player" or "who are you seeing?" etc. You're going to need to prepare answers to many of their test questions in advance so that you can be ready.

Good luck... I envy you! To be able to go back to school with experience and knowing the game ...

Online Dating Example

I've read your book a couple of times and its great it's easily the best book on dating on the internet it's true this is the only book you need to understand women!; But I need some help with online dating, could you tell me more about how to write a good personal ad and what to write when replying to emails your book covers this topic I know but I just need some more examples of what to write to a girl to keep them interested and hooked.

Thanks for your help

This is a good question. I'll let you in on a secret ...

This is from several sources, but I've modified it for use on the internet and it ROCKS. I'm dating three different gals in the last two weeks from this approach alone. I'll give you the intro email first:

EMAIL INTRO:

"Well, from your profile you sound like you might be more than just another pretty face. Something tells me that you're probably getting about 50 emails a day from loser guys saying things like "Hi, I'm freshly divorced from my seventh wife, have 5 delinquent kids, and I love to skateboard ... but the good news is that I have a good chance at finally getting a job..." etc.

In any event, I'm 36, have my life together, and I'm more than the usual amount of interesting and funny, so you'd better like to laugh. You sound like you might make an interesting friend, so let's see if we can talk soon and get together for a cup of something delicious and some interesting conversation... if you think you can handle it, that is! ;-)

-CARLOS"

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Now, be sure to give your complete first name only when you sign the email.

When she replies, she'll ask you a ton of questions. Answer only ONE, and make it a funny/cocky answer, then add this on the end:

"Wow, you're a real person. Great. I guess we have a couple of options here. We could start an email relationship, fall in love, and maybe even get a priest to marry us in a live chat ceremony...

Nah, we really should talk, because I'm getting swamped with a million messages from supermodels who keep bragging about how much money they have, and you should act fast or I'll be gone, swept away on a Revlon yacht...

Give me your home phone number and let me know what your schedule looks like over the next couple of days. (Unless you're homeless, and you don't own a phone, in which case just give me the number at your shelter.)"

Trust me on this, guys, it works like GOLD. I'm still working the bugs out with these Match.com gals, but they LOVE it so far. (And that means so do I...) Just be prepared with the really good looking gals, because they really rise to the challenge and will challenge you back. Don't let her keep you in email more than two exchanges before you get her on the phone. Then, talk for a few minutes, but make it so she feels she HAS to meet you.

Now, as for your own ad, make it very funny, interesting, but don't give any details about yourself. Here's a little bit of what I used:

"I could tell you a hundred things that I like, but we both know that's not "compatibility," at least not in any meaningful sense of the word. It can't tell you if we're going to match in any of the ways that really count. No, what you want to know is: Am I the kind of man that is strong enough to express his opinion, yet still respect yours? Am I the kind of man who has goals and a life outside of searching for "Ms. Right"? Am I the kind of man who can let you know how confident he is with a touch on the arm or a strong look in your eyes that makes your knees shudder?"

It's about as cocky as they come, and they EAT IT UP. I guarantee you no other guys have the balls to be original like this, and that's what will give you your edge.

Here's the reply I got from one woman:

"that's the most intriguing, ballsy message I have gotten so far. Couldn't really let that one by, esp. after blocking about 2 people a day."

(I just don't want to see that you guys have copied mine out there ... Make sure you're original... :)

Send me your feedback and more about how it went...

C

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