SPECIAL REPORT:
How To Approach Women - Carlos Xuma Style
Carlos
Xuma's 3-step Formula
What is the simplest method
for learning how to approach women and how to
talk to women?
I had an interesting discussion with a friend of mine
the other day. This friend also happens to be a "dating guru," and we were
discussing how it is that men are most concerned with how
to approach women,
and women were most concerned with the relationship after the first few
dates.
I thought that was such a brilliant and interesting observation.
Men care about how to approach women.
Women care about how to make a relationship after the man has started it.
Sure, this is a generalization, and it's not meant to
propose that the man gives up after he starts going out with a woman, or
that a woman does nothing to initiate things...
...HOWEVER - this is mostly true in most situations.
So what do we do about this?
My Alpha Brother, we can do absolutely nothing but what
we MUST do, which is learn how to do OUR part of the equation better.
You see, no matter how much you WISH women would approach you or initiate
a conversation, it's STILL your job. If someone tells you that you can get
any beautiful woman to come over and talk to you first, they're playing you
for your wishes, not the reality we both know.
I know you're smart enough not to fall for that, so let's get right down
to it.
How does Carlos Xuma go out and approach
women and talk to women?
It's a very easy 3 step process:
1) Get
Energized & Move
2) Have FUN
3) Connect & Escalate
I kept beating my head about new and different ways to explain it, but it
all came down to this.
These three simple steps are ALL I've used for years, and they have gotten
me fantastic results when I approach women and talk to women.
So here's how each step of this works:
1. Get Energized and Move
This simply means, turn on your
confidence and positive mindset, and go for
the approach - not just with women, but with EVERYONE.
You see, the thing I noticed was that guys are being WAY too picky about
the women they talk to and the women they approach.
They won't approach the people that are "easiest" to
talk to (i.e., the ones they are not intimidated by), which only makes them
less likely to approach the difficult ones because they've built a mental
barrier in their heads.
So now they don't talk to anyone. They sit in the
corner of the bar with their drink, looking around nervously at all the
beautiful women, wishing to themselves "Wow, I wish I knew what to
say to got talk to some of them..."
The first step is to get energized about your own REALITY and then go share
it with someone else.
When I go approach women and talk to women, I'm thinking of only ONE thing
as I walk over to them:
"They are going to SO love having
me talk to them. I'm fun, interesting, and I've got a shitload of life
experience to share with them."
It's literally 180 degrees from what most guys are feeling,
because most men feel RELUCTANCE and RESISTANCE to
going over because they don't feel like they're enough.
(And this doesn't go away because you learned a clever technique. You must
always work on your self-confidence and self-image.)
When I go talk to women, I feel like I'm being PULLED over
to them. Yeah, it's in my head, but it's the difference that makes me approach
20 groups of women a night versus Shy Guy who MIGHT approach
ONE.
When you see a person on the street that's a friend of yours, do you have
any trouble going over and talking to them?
NO.
In fact, you feel PULLED to them out
of the connection you IMAGINE in your head.
So what's the difference between you and this woman you want to go talk to?
About 5 minutes to get to that same state of connection, my friend.
THAT'S IT.
Now for the next step:
2. Have FUN.
If there's anything you can do when you approach women and talk to women
it is THIS ONE THING.
You absolutely MUST set your focus on making the most FUN of the situation
you're in, no matter who you are talking to.
FUN = ATTRACTION in a woman's mind!
Trust me on this. It took me years to learn that it's
not about "social proof," or neg-hits, or micro-loop-string-theory crap.
If you're getting this bogged down in the process of making
women attracted to you, you're just kidding yourself.
Attraction is EASY once you set your sights on making women FEEL how fun
your life is.
And once she does feel this, she'll want to be a part of it.
Get your mind off your body language.
Forget trying to create the perfect opener.
Just focus on FUN.
3. Connect and Escalate.
This is where the rubber meets the road. When you've gotten her attention,
and you've gotten her attracted by virtue of being FUN, you now need to establish
that you two are connected by building some rapport with her.
Once you've got that in place, you can escalate - meaning that you can take
it to the next step or the next level whenever you are ready.
Connection is what a woman needs to feel she can trust
you and hang out with you.
THAT'S IT.
Everything intimate you share with a woman starts when
she feels this connection.
Here's how I forge this connection in the first
3 minutes of conversation:
Find things in common, and explore them.
A lot of guys ask a LOT of questions
at the start to find the things in common with a woman.
But it's easy to find commonalities if you know what questions to ask.
For example, DON'T ask her : "So
where do you work?"
Yeah, I know, you're hoping she'll say she's a lead programmer
for X-Box 360 games, and she gets free copies to give to her friends of every
game she designs.
Rrrrrright.
Don't search for specific things for you to have in common,
like favorite sports, or tastes in music.
Instead, ask her: "What do you
like to do that you find exciting?"
That's right - find FEELINGS that
you share in common and talk them up. Then you can connect over
what's EXCITING to you both,
instead of desperately scrambling to find something in common.
Has everyone
felt excitement at least ONCE in the last few months? I think
so.
Most guys look for FACTS that you have
in common and don't realize that these things don't mean JACK over the
long term. And if you spend too long trying to find them in vain, she'll get
bored and assume you don't have anything in common.
(This is one nugget of gold that I guarantee you will make you connect MUCH faster with women. Go ahead, prove me wrong. I dare you to try.)
Once you've connected with her like this, it's all literally
downhill for you from there. To escalate, you simply find how to get in
contact with her again.
Here's what you say:
"You seem
pretty cool. How do we get in touch again?"
She'll either give you her phone number or email, or she'll
make some kind of lame excuse like "Well, I come here a lot. You might
catch me here on the weekends..."
The first response is demonstrating interest in re-connecting.
And the second one is her way of telling you that she's
not qualified to be a part of your life. You can either stick around and
work on building attraction with other women in the group, or go
take your interesting life over to someone else who deserves it more.
Your
choice.
You see, by putting it in her court, you give
her the freedom to tell you exactly what her interest level is, and you KEEP
YOUR POWER. Don't ever give your power
away to her.
Plus, you can't be rejected this way.
Her interest
is NOT always up to you, and if you think you just need another technique to get her interest, you're
missing the point. It's all about not begging
and weaseling to get a woman's approval.
*BOOM*
Case Closed.
Now, I've only been able to give you the basics here,
because it would take me a freakin' year to get this special report out.
I spent over 10 years (yeah, that's TEN, dude...) trying things like this
to find a SUREFIRE method to attract
women.
After a lot of trial-and-error (and more error than success, most of the
time), I came up with a very easy-to-learn method to approach women and talk
to women that ANY guy can use. This is my simple outline.
If you'd like to learn the detailed ways I handle every part of the conversation,
from how to approach women, to how
to talk to women and use persuasion and
influence effectively, to how to MASSIVELY increase
confidence...
Just select the area that you find most challenging below. I'll be able to
better tell you how to find what you need to get the success you want with
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