The news has leaked out!

When I look back on all the years I took to learn how to be
effective with women, I'm sure glad I found the right people
to learn from. I think that made all the difference in how
fast I was able to overcome my approach anxiety and get
real success with women.

Why am I telling you this?

Well, this is something of an "open secret." I have been working
on a way for you to have the exact same system I'm using to
approach women. (And the coolest part is that it works during
the DAY.)

In fact, I've been working on this for almost THREE YEARS.
I even started a waiting list, and some people have been on
that list for a VERY long time.

Well, the wait is ALMOST over. It looks like we are only a few
short weeks away from releasing this new system that will get
you a skill that you need to meet more women. (I'm not
kidding when I tell you that it will likely at least triple the
number of women you're currently meeting now.)

It will literally change your scarcity mindset to a complete
abundance mindset when you're through.

But before I unleash this thing, I want to do one final
check to make sure that this system really has everything
that YOU need. So I have this one question for you...

Where are you right now with your game with women?

I really want to know. Please go to the link below and just
take ten seconds to do my quick survey.

With so many readers, I can't guarantee a personal response,
but I can guarantee that I WILL read your survey.

So go ahead and let me know, what it is that you want most
to get you to the next level with approaching women...

Go here: APPROACH FRUSTRATION SURVEY


That's all for now...

Your friend,

Carlos Xuma

PS: I'm dead serious about this - and I really DO value your
feedback. I need to know your answer so I make sure
my approach system is perfect... At the end of the survey,
you can also just tell me the two most important things you
need from me to help you approach women...

Please reply now...
Go here: APPROACH FRUSTRATION SURVEY

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NEW BLOG LOCATION!

Go see Carlos Xuma's NEW blog located here:

Dating Tips for Guys Blog
http://www.thedatingprogram.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/

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I bet you haven't heard this one before...

Hi Carlos,

My boyfriend is a huge fan of your work (and me too!)

We have discovered a peice of information that is very valuable and is currently unknown.

SIMPLE:
There is a very HIGH degree of inverse correlation between the difficulty in sarging in a particular country and the level of inflation in that country's currency. The lower the inflation rate, the more difficult to sarge. Compare, for example, Brazil to Switzerland.

That is it. Simple, yet highly insightful.
It makes a lolt of sense too. A national culture treats it's currency in a similar way to how it treats its chastity.

However, aside from the reasoning, just look at the empirical evidence and see if you agree.

Sarah
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

Gosh I love Facebook... This cute gal wrote in to me from Switzerland to let me know how she feels about my stuff.

Great to hear from you, Sarah!

As for your observation, that's quite an interesting application of statistical analysis.

I will say that the one correlation I've seen is that in countries that have not achieved a measurable level of stability and affluence, the pickup techniques are much more difficult to apply.

I believe this is because in an environment of uncertainty, where there is a cultural level of insecurity, then the women are going to be more protective of their most vital asset: Their sexuality.

Hooking up with the right guy becomes more mercenary, and the simple "opinion opener" is not going to do you much good.

This is why you have to cultivate the aura and lifestyle of the Alpha Man. It's the only way for women to really "get" that you're a commodity. Your fuzzy hat and feather boa are not going to be enough flash in the pan for her needs.

You need to be Alpha to the CORE.

THE ALPHA LIFESTYLE STARTS HERE...

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Podcast on Getting Quality Women

Hey, I just sat down with my buddy Scot McKay and talked with him for a while about what it takes to attract a QUALITY woman.

You can get it by clicking HERE: Podcast with Scot McKay

Go listen to it now, because I don't know how long he keeps these available...

- Carlos Xuma

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A bit of advice from Mr. Kennedy

Not John F. Kennedy, but the ever-inspiring Dan Kennedy.

Dan had this to say recently about discipline:

A lot of people are engaged in doing things without a clear picture of what “success” is supposed to be or look like, without the means of holding themselves and others accountable. A lot of people simply do not like this kind of pressure, even if self-imposed to achieve self-selected goals.

‘Structure’ is EXTREMELY important. It’s not a good idea to build a house without plans. Not a good idea to do much of anything else without plans either. Great sales letters, ads, speeches, conform to and are organized around some reliable sales structure. They may begin as random hunks of copy and ideas, but soon the pieces have to be organized according to a structure.

I don’t think there’s anything that has as much to do with how much money you make as the way you ‘structure’ your work days, work weeks, use of time and control of others’ use of your time.

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CARLOS COMMENTS:

Remember that structure and a focused plan is necessary for everything you want to achieve in life.

And that also applies to attracting women.

That's why I created THE easiest and most effective method for approaching women you can find.

You can get it here: How to Approach Women and Attract Women Effortlessly - and without rejection!

And you'll be able to get my expansion pack for this program coming this summer.

You'll learn Day Game, and why it's the most essential game of all to play...

Stay tuned...

CX

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Alpha Male Movies for You To Watch

QUESTION:

...anything to learn from Bruce Willis in 5th element or Deckard & Batty in bladerunner?

Alpha wise? A movies to inspire podcast perhaps?

I'm thinking about the scene where the toymaker is fooled into thinking Priss likes him, then Batty shows up and he realizes that he has NO shot unless something happens to Batty (even then, he lacks the stones req. to keep her)

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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

Funny you should choose "Blade Runner," as that's one of my favorite movies of all time. The restoration and work they did to fix up the latest version is just breathtaking on Blu-ray.

And, as role models go, Harrison Ford is the quintessential modern Alpha Man.

There is a lesson in the way that Sebastian handles his attraction to Pris in the film. Watch William Sanderson's mannerisms as he is out-alpha'd by Roy Batty, Rutger Hauer's character.

Bruce Willis is also very Alpha, and I think that you can probably define most of the good movies by the ACTOR more often than the role. Some guys simply won't settle for playing a wuss. You know them.

Harrison Ford.

Bruce Willis.

Denzel Washington.

Sam Sheppard.

Carey Grant.

Jack Nicholson.

Add your comments to this post and tell me actors and movies that you think are good Alpha Man movies...

- Carlos

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How To THINK Like An Alpha Male - No more scarcity

Hey Carlos,

Your dating materials are WORTH THEIR WEIGHT IN GOLD!!! I seriously have improved my skills with women because of you man! Thank you SO MUCH! I wasn't too bad with women to begin with honestly. I have good outer game, but my inner game is what I need to work on.

I somehow manage to get obsessed with one woman and try to hard, which just ends up screwing things up for me. Thankfully, I have learned what NOT to do now thanks to your materials.

Anyway, here is my situation. I have been dating this girl for about 3 1/2 months now, but I feel as though I'm beginning to lose her interest and attraction for me. She has been blowing me off lately, AND she has been hanging out with this other guy lately a bunch who likes her.

I'm a Naval Officer about to move to Pensacola for flight school, and I think this is why she isn't taking me as seriously as she would if I wasn't moving away. I don't want things to end with her. What should I do to make her WANT me to be her boyfriend??? PLEASE HELP BRO!!!
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

Well, I'm going to be honest that even if you managed to "keep" her, you'd still be out of the picture when you go to flight school, so I would not get into this scarcity mindset right now. You're thinking from the "I'm losing her" mindset, which makes you the needy one.

When you're not around physically, it's going to be tough for you to create the kind of locked-in attraction that you need to keep her faithful while you're away. If she's already hanging with another guy, your exit visa is all but stamped, my friend.

You could keep her, but it would be futile the second you wave to her from the plane.

What you really need to do is this: YOU be the one to break it off with her.

Dude, you're in the military. Your uniform alone is going to score you more tail than you can imagine.

You also need to start sending the right messages to your subconscious mind, and by YOU being the one to end it, you are the one in control. You affirm your own power and might, and your own ability to lead.

If you can't break it off with a woman when it's necessary, no matter your feelings, you will probably end up back in that addicted state again.

YOU control your emotional state. Self-discipline!

When you fight the inevitable, you take a toll on your attitude.

You can stay in touch with her, but don't get one-itis with her. It's not worth it.

Get back to reading my materials again. You need to review them and really understand the Alpha Mindset.

You're in a world of abundance.

Start acting like it! :)

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Guys, remember this when talking to women...

Great article on the new fad of being "tired" all the time.

Guys, drop this from your vocabulary right now. And pay particular attention to the sections I bolded.

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Being Tired Is Not a Status Symbol
Some people think telling everyone how exhausted they are makes them seem important. But flaunting your fatigue only makes you insufferable.

-By Greg Williams

There was a time not so long ago that when you asked a colleague how he was doing he'd likely reply, "I'm good, thanks." He might not actually have been good at all, but he would have kept that to himself.

Now, in the age of the mortgage meltdown and mass layoffs, he'll probably offer the answer that's become the default comeback for white-collar guys who want to demonstrate they've got it all—the career on an upward curve, the remodeled townhouse, the hot wife, and the privately educated kids. He'll say, "I'm so tired."

"It's the first thing that comes out of someone's mouth when you ask them how they're doing," says Matthew Moss, 34, a creative director at a marketing agency in Portland, Oregon. "'Oh, I'm exhausted.' The first thing you think is 'Oh, this guy is tired, which means he's probably been working really hard.' Or 'They're full of shit.'"

Mostly, it's the second one. When you walk into a colleague's office and he's sitting there rubbing his eyes and stifling yawns, dropping a Venti latte cup into a wastebasket and hollering at his assistant to bring him another Red Bull, do you think, Wow, what an overachiever!? No. Because he's the guy who puts on the same show at meetings, trying to bleed extra credit from an average performance—Can you believe I pulled this off despite my obvious exhaustion?

"I think people use tiredness as a defense mechanism," says Paul (who asked that his last name not be used), 30, a vice president at an investment bank in Manhattan. "If you're staying till three in the morning you must be doing something very important, right?"

It doesn't actually matter what you're doing. No one believes you—much less cares. The three-day stubble, the slack jaw, the really . . . long . . . pauses . . . between words—to observers it's all white-noise whining. Mr. I'm So Tired thinks his cartoonish fatigue is demonstrating his dauntingly high station in life. It isn't.

"People use tiredness as a proxy for effort," says Steve Gravenkemper, an organizational psychologist at Plante & Moran, a consulting and accounting firm based in Detroit. "They say, 'Gee, I tried real hard even though I didn't get the result, and you can see that by my exhaustion.'"

Andy (not his real name), a 27-year-old analyst at a hedge fund in Manhattan, says the long hours that he and his colleagues work mean that there's low tolerance for status tiredness, because everyone is fatigued.

"It's like, 'Yeah, I popped two Lunes last night at 4 a.m.—and I was in at the office at six,'" he says. "It's really absurd."

Maybe it's that other symbols of social standing—the summer house, the SUV—are now so commonplace that they've lost their value. Or it could just be that to use tiredness as an emblem of status is to enter the realm of the intangible. No one knows what you did after you left the office, or whether you actually feel the way you're behaving. And the significance of the fatigued act is lost on them anyway. They're too tired to care.

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